quote:Men need to start stepping up to plate and re-assuming their roles as heads of our households, instead of expecting us to do their jobs for them.
We touched on this a bit in the "Are Black Men Still Leaders In The Home?" thread and it seems to be (both on the board and in the world based on an Essense survey) that men are looking to marriage for a life-long teammate. They are not interested in taking on a "Head of Household" position. They want to debate and defer and whathaveyou based on the situation at hand. So, in addition to not bringing in all the money, they also do not want to make most of the decisions or "wear the pants." To be a man in the house is not really much different from being a woman in the house. Men who feel this way are obviously not going to teach their sons (or daughters) to look at marriage any differently, so things are not likely to move in a different direction.
Like I said, if you want that type of situation, you have to show that that is where your value is, what you are most suited for. You can't just run out the gate with all this "I'M NOT WORKING!" business