Originally posted by Vox:
There's a stigma attached to a woman who makes the first move. It kills the mystery for the guy. If a guy is interested in a woman, and the woman lets him know she's interested, his original interest will likely wane. Women who approach men or who call men and ask them out look aggressive and potentially desperate.
I've heard this many times in my life, but I have never found it to be true. It's not true for me, and I don't believe I know any brothers for whom it's true. Are there any DEN-izens who disagree? I think we may have covered this before, so if so, forgive the duplication.
My first reaction was no, it's not true for me... because I like a woman who shows interest when she's interested. However, there is a line that can be crossed, and I don't think many women realize that.
I was at a club just two weeks ago, just because I felt like dancing. So I'm out on the dance floor on my own, and this woman comes up and starts dancing with me. I'm thinking, "Cool! I just made something of this excursion." Then out of nowhere, she grabs me by the back of the head and says, "Come on and f*ck me!"
Instant turn off. I just walked off the dance floor. Damn shame too, because she was cute. If she hadn't come at me with that I probably would've taken her out sometime.
I think what often happens with women when they get aggressive, is their lack of practice begins to shine. If they aren't familiar with making the first move(s)... which the vast majority are not... then they're quite likely to make some very stupid mistakes. When they start doing and saying things that a man would expect to get cracked with a loaded purse for... you know somethin' ain't right. There's a difference between showing interest or pursuit... and being straight insane.