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Okay look at this picture of Will and Jada. They look so happy and in love. A lot of people see that and think I want that. Well some people get it confused. They want the feelings that they share not necessarily the man or the woman. Like I said some people unconsciously think that the emotions are tied into the people in that relationship. So instead of going to get their own relationship started to get those vibes going, they go and try to get with one of the people aready involved in a relationship.
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Originally posted by Max:
All that bull-shit some of you women are talking about is...well, bull-shit.

If I placed a big box- with a big question mark on it- in the middle of a room filled with people, and told everybody NOT to touch it...what do you think'll happen when I leave the room? ...Exactly!!


I stand by what I say Max baby lol!
You get what you pay for and you get back what you give. Not everyone wants someone else's husband/wife. To me, that's more 'comfort zone' than 'forbidden fruit' and quite childish and ego driven to challenge a marriage and make a play for someone else's partner. Roll Eyes
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When you have a strong attraction to a man/woman (physical or otherwise) whose heart belongs to someone else (in other words, married)- he/she is considered 'forbidden fruit'.

...That being said, married men/women are attractive cuz you get to take pleasure in looking at & talking to this person without any expectations - or so you've tricked yourself to believe, since people tend to lie to themselves emotionally...except me, of course. Smile

Failing to keep your emotions in check can make that "buddy" of yours slowly morph into a "fuck-buddy", cuz in the event that you find an attractive man/woman that happens to be married...SURE, you'd acknowledge that he/she is "off limits". SURE, you'd "be yourself" around him/her 'cuz the social constraints are more relaxed. And SURE, you can even be "playful" with him/her cuz even though the issue of sex looms in the back of your mind, you'd never REALLY act on those impulses if a situation presented itself...would you?
I remember when I was married I did seem to get alot of women approaching me. It was like my wedding band was the "One Ring of Power" and I was Frodo! I'm divorced now, and maybe I reek of "once married" pheramones or something but my "pull" percentage has gone down dramatically. Looking back now I have to ask myself what did being faithful really get me? Confused
I don't think it's "forbidden fruit" or ring power.

Perhaps for some women it is, but I've noticed that many times I'm attracted to a guy, he's taken.

And I'm not like that. I don't even know he's taken beforehand.

I think it's the taken man aura.

He isn't walking around with his nose to the ground. When a guy isn't drooling around in obvious "man-estrus," it's safe to look in his direction without fear that he's going to run over and try to hump your leg.

It's not as if he wouldn't have been attractive otherwise, but this behavior gives you a chance to look and to like what you see.

IMO.
I know I am married to a handsome black man and women just automatically think that oh she is with him so he has something for her to be with him and let me add that I am attractive black female and get plenty of holla.But women feel that it is not enough black to go around and let me just say there are plenty but if you are always after someone else husband then you would never know.And a little advice to the sisters dont jump in the bed right away and dont lose yourself in the relationship trying to please that man he will stay around longer if you let him chase you and we all know it is the thrill of the chase. Let him wonder add mystery.My husband even agree that women didn't even look at him like that until I came on the scene and his popularity went up 75%. But we all know about KARMAKARMA I would be hesistant to mess with someone's husband because of it. thanks
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Originally posted by ronin10:
The reason why people are attracted to married or involved people is because humans want what they can't have. It's natural...though no one will admit it.


I guess that would explain why Prince's marriage ended with his wife recently.

Who directed his last music video to date? Salma Hayek...need I say more? I'm quite sure that Salma and His Purpleness sweated up some sheets.
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Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
I remember when I was married I did seem to get alot of women approaching me. It was like my wedding band was the "One Ring of Power" and I was Frodo! I'm divorced now, and maybe I reek of "once married" pheramones or something but my "pull" percentage has gone down dramatically. Looking back now I have to ask myself what did being faithful really get me? Confused


20 lol XXGambitXX, I'm sorry. I highlighted line had me LMAO! I was just picturing dozens of single women, acting like Gollum/Smeagal from LOTR trilogy, checking you and your ring, and saying, "I WANT THE PRECIOUS!"
Married men are stable.... and it comes off...

they are usually more responsible and it shows in their demeanor...

they are used to living with a woman and trying to work things out with her... which means they don't reek of desperation, usery or naivete'

they are usually used to children....

they are usually calmer.... more patient ... and what not...

I mean they're married they know what its like to be committed.....


It also means they belong to someone else....

and with the pickings so slim..... to many women that signals that someone else found him safe enough and worthy enough to settle down with....


or he is at the stage where he found a woman to satisfy him enough to spend the rest of his life with ....


and vice versa.... for women.... I think...

single women nor single men automatically give off this vibe.....



Peace,
Khalliqa
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Originally posted by Huey:
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Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
I remember when I was married I did seem to get alot of women approaching me. It was like my wedding band was the "One Ring of Power" and I was Frodo! I'm divorced now, and maybe I reek of "once married" pheramones or something but my "pull" percentage has gone down dramatically. Looking back now I have to ask myself what did being faithful really get me? Confused


20 lol XXGambitXX, I'm sorry. I highlighted line had me LMAO! I was just picturing dozens of single women, acting like Gollum/Smeagal from LOTR trilogy, checking you and your ring, and saying, "I WANT THE PRECIOUS!"


lol

A good amount of them did resemble Gollum, now that I think about it. tongue
I have found that women are attracted to married men because those men usually have power and the women have none. They only want him because of what he can do for them economically. There are always women willing to sell thier bodies for some sort of enrichment even if it is short lived.

Marriage is still a status symbol. It is always a security symbol. Women who are attracted to security, tend to be attracted to married men. Some deal with married men because they want him to leave his wife, which is why many are divorced today. Others simply want the passion that those types of intense relationship engender without the longterm commitment or having to go through the "rough times". All affairs are heavy on the good times and fun and usually end when things get tough or simply unpleasant. It is the sad woman who desires someone else's beloved. It is the sad beloved that strays.
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Originally posted by qty226:
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Originally posted by Max:
All that bull-shit some of you women are talking about is...well, bull-shit.

If I placed a big box- with a big question mark on it- in the middle of a room filled with people, and told everybody NOT to touch it...what do you think'll happen when I leave the room? ...Exactly!!

So Ronin is right: the inaccessibility is what makes a married man attractive.



If this is your theory, then the same rule must apply to women, right?

So married women are attractive???


IMO, married women are attractive. But the "forbidden fruit" inaccessiblity is probably more infectious to women than men. Married women are attractive, I guess if they're childless, or if she does have children and not see her with them. If she's with her children, a man may have 2nd thoughts about being infatuated with her.

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