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There are families in town here (on Vancouver Island) who have adopted children of other "races"--some black, some asian. Some native Indian. Pastor of my church adopted a Native girl. She's in her teens now and going to University. She's a great kid.

I have no problem with it. Obviously people who adopt across racial lines are not racist (unless they are some sort of crazy sick f***er).

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Do any AA couples or Asian couples or Native American couples adopt white children?? Has anyone seen that on a personal level, not on TV or read about it?

Our people have made the mistake of confusing the methods with the objectives. As long as we agree on objectives, we should never fall out with each other just because we believe in different methods, or tactics, or strategy. We have to keep in mind at all times that we are not fighting for separation. We are fighting for recognition as free humans in this society
Malcolm X, 1965
White people with black chidren is fairly common where I am at. One of the reasons for this is white children are hard to find for adoption.

There are plenty of AA children who need homes and if a white people want to adopt them I say more power to them. It's better to have a home with parents of a different race than no home.

I knew a AA girl who was adopted by a white pastor and his wife and she turned out fine.

I also knew of a Black woman who has a white step-daughter, besides that I can't recall ever seeing and other races with white children.
I agree Khalilallah, and even to find a good home with other black people.

Our people have made the mistake of confusing the methods with the objectives. As long as we agree on objectives, we should never fall out with each other just because we believe in different methods, or tactics, or strategy. We have to keep in mind at all times that we are not fighting for separation. We are fighting for recognition as free humans in this society
Malcolm X, 1965
Do you think that a public attorney would fight all that they could for a black person than for a white one? Nope. In their eyes, the black one probably did it.

In the case of a child, the social worker would be tainted by the belief that they can find a better life for the black child since the family members have to be poor and uneducated. Find them a fine white, rich, educated family and all would be well, or perhaps place them in foster care since anything would be better than a black family...
The attempt to find a family member is not as strong as it would be for a white person.
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Originally posted by hugsnkisses28:
Yesterday i was walking through the mall and noticed a white couple with a beautiful AA baby boy in which they had obviously adopted..Lately i have seen many similar situations has anyone else noticed this and what is everyone's views on this?


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just kidding, as long as they stay grounded and can teach the kid good values, it's a good deal for all parties involved Wink

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I have no problem with it at all. Being a foster parent here in Eastern Oregon 9 out of 10 times the kids that are placed in our home are white. There are three white boys twins 5 and older brother 6 that we provide respite foster care for on a continuing basis. And as many times we take them out I really havn't noticed anybody having a fit over seeing us all together.

If I have a problem with anything its that they are plenty of black children in this country that need to be placed in homes, yet you have families going all the way to china to adopt children, on top of that the families have to take lessons in how to raise a chinese child so that she know her chinese hertiage when she gets older.
Jazzdog, I have noticed the same thing. Not just black children, but children of all races in America who need to be adopted. However, couples will go through the trouble and financial hassle of going to Asia and adopting children. That's one of those benevolent things to show how good Americans are to people abroad. That's how deeply ingrained the idea of superiority is into the psyche of some groups of people. Prime example.

Our people have made the mistake of confusing the methods with the objectives. As long as we agree on objectives, we should never fall out with each other just because we believe in different methods, or tactics, or strategy. We have to keep in mind at all times that we are not fighting for separation. We are fighting for recognition as free humans in this society
Malcolm X, 1965
I disagree and don't think that white people should adopt black children. It's more than sending a child to school and giving them good values. For me in addition to the above it's also about Culture. We as afrikan adults who are on the path of developing greater respect and appreciation of who we are (historical/Presently) can only raise black children with the same outlook. I can imagine that black child being raised by white parents get mixed messages.
Daoodobaid, while I agree that the best place for a black child is with a STABLE black family, it is better for these children to be with a white family than to be recycled throughout the system. We have enough problems regarding self-esteem from black kids with families.

Maybe it doesn't need to be said, but the best way to prevent black kids from going to white families is to adopt one.
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Originally posted by Yssys:
Do any AA couples or Asian couples or Native American couples adopt white children?? Has anyone seen that on a personal level, not on TV or read about it?


Only informally.

Like the kid calls the family mom and dad and is supported by them, but the family didn't go through the whole legal process for whatever reason.

I think minorities who go through adoption are more likely to get a minority because they are so hard to place.
Wow, this is a great thread, I agree with many of the comments. Unfortunately, I believe that the reason that people go to eastern block countries or Asia to adopt is because they do not want children who were exposed to drugs in the womb. True or not crack babies are the big fear and they are deemed to come from Black poor women. Meth Babies, don't seem to get the same publicity because they are mainly white.

Most people want to adopt a healthy child and babies exposed to drugs in the womb have the stigma, rightly or wrongly of being special needs children and people frankly don't want to deal.

The destruction of the Black family has been the goal of this government since slavery. Like it or not we are in a vicious cycle that spawns concentric ramifications to achieve one goal.

Suffice it to say, any adoption by people who love a child for that child's sake are what we need more of in this world and they all come from the human race.
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Great points 'Nikcara'. I recently met two gay couples, (women) who decided that they want/wanted children,and both couples opted for artificial insemination from a sperm bank, and guess what? Both of the 'mothers' were inseminated with the sperm of African American males! I was like, what...the? So these children will grow up in the family of a gay couple Confused, by artificial insemination, who'se parents are white. How's that for diversity?
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Great points 'Nikcara'. I recently met two gay couples, (women) who decided that they want/wanted children,and both couples opted for artificial insemination from a sperm bank, and guess what? Both of the 'mothers' were inseminated with the sperm of African American males! I was like, what...the? So these children will grow up in the family of a gay couple Confused, by artificial insemination, who'se parents are white. How's that for diversity?
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I heard of this one case where this blackman was taught all his life by his white family that he had a skin disorder and he really wasnt black.This blackman found out at the age of about 25 he had a black father and the fact was he was a black child.How can white person raise a black child in this country in these days and times. How possibly can those white people with European values teach black children about their culture?
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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
I heard of this one case where this blackman was taught all his life by his white family that he had a skin disorder and he really wasnt black.This blackman found out at the age of about 25 he had a black father and the fact was he was a black child.How can white person raise a black child in this country in these days and times. How possibly can those white people with European values teach black children about their culture?


I read about this situation too. The man was actually biracial and the result of an affair that his mother had with a black man at a hospital where the two worked. After the child was born, he was raised to believe he was white with a skin disorder that covered his whole entire body. In this man's adult life his mother confessed but later described the affair with the black man as a rape. The Mother distanced herself toward her son once he took an interest in his African American ancestry, and in return she said that because he started to make race a part of his life, this made her feel hatred toward the whole black race.

I tried to research on this issue, but I wasn't able to locate. As far as the adoption issue, I would rather black children be in black homes, but we simply do not have enough blacks families available.
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I disagree and don't think that white people should adopt black children. It's more than sending a child to school and giving them good values. For me in addition to the above it's also about Culture. We as afrikan adults who are on the path of developing greater respect and appreciation of who we are (historical/Presently) can only raise black children with the same outlook. I can imagine that black child being raised by white parents get mixed messages.


first off... I think all love involves honesty - family or partner or offspring or siblings.

The reality is that people adopt because they have love to give a child - hopefully any child not just a particular 'made-to-order' child. Successful adoption in any way shape or form is a huge task fraught with pitfalls and no guarantees... everyone does the best they possibly can.

How can anyone dispute the importance of love in child-rearing? I think all successful parenting comes down to the individuals involved.

Whether a couple is culturally sensitive to that child's history (whatever the race of the child) is something else. To deny the child's racial history, I believe, is to do a serious disservice to the child.

Being a white female, I had cause to think about being a white parent of a black child, a little more closely before my ex (who is very dark-skinned), and I broke up... because we had been talking forever-after. IF we stayed together I might have chosen to have a child with him (might = more to do with the clock than race), I would consider a complete immersion in African heritage and African American history to be essential... in my mind, no question.... and in his mind a no-brainer, due to his wide knowledge of African and Egyptian history; having been involved in black action back in the day, and having travelled to the continent and spent time there himself.

Now, if I was with another black partner - and we had to adopt - I would expect him to be equally up to speed on his history and yes, I would adopt a black child.... but if I was with a white partner then I would not, because I do agree with a lot of the sentiments in the above... however I feel a biracial (as opposed to all white) upbringing can offer two worlds and two perspectives. It's really up to the two individual people who are the parents.
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I read about this situation too. The man was actually biracial and the result of an affair that his mother had with a black man at a hospital where the two worked. After the child was born, he was raised to believe he was white with a skin disorder that covered his whole entire body. In this man's adult life his mother confessed but later described the affair with the black man as a rape. The Mother distanced herself toward her son once he took an interest in his African American ancestry, and in return she said that because he started to make race a part of his life, this made her feel hatred toward the whole black race.

The above is so miserable and despicable as to not warrant a comment... except to say this... affairs are affairs and rape is rape... totally different things. And women - of any race - who lie about this should burn in hell - if there is one - for eternity. Simple as that. tongue
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I am Adopted and my mum is english white, my Dad is Half indian Quatrter German And spanish, my brother is also morrocan and im brasilian portugese. the adoption agency let my parents adopt me bcause of my mixed hertigde and they thought that me and my family had that in common?....al though i dont know how most of them link togther,but i think other races adopting is fine as long as you know what the hell you are talking about as for gay couples adopting i dont think that should be alowed, i dont have a problem with gays but i do with them adopting children as theres all sorts of complications involved.

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