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Originally posted by Vox:
And on HB's main point, how did Barack succeed at it, since he wasn't brought up in one?


I've been pondering this topic for a while and thought this was a salient question to raise (which I missed the first time around) in defense of those of us who don't come from traditionally nuclear families. I suspect that Barack learned how to pick excellent role models in his grandparents and in Michelle Robinson's family and actively internalized what he observed.

It's also obvious to me that the Robinson parents embraced him, without qualification, as their own son (which, imo, doesn't occur often enough in the AA unions I've seen). Tradition involves belonging. Without belonging, it's hard to "keep down roots".
Yeah,

But too many people make a big deal out of "coming from" a "traditional" family set. Just because one may not have been brought up in a traditional family set does NOT mean that they would not be able to function in a traditional familial role.

If one can learn to unify with others and consider the next person, navigating a RelationShip will not be hard for them. They just have to be "realistic" about what RelationShips entail, meaning that they will have to recognize the way they were raised and then learn to add to or subtract from their union, anything and everything that contributes positively to or takes away from negatively, their union.

"Wisdom Is A Woman ReGardLess of the Circumstances!"
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Originally posted by ShayaButHer:
They just have to be "realistic" about what RelationShips entail, meaning that they will have to recognize the way they were raised and then learn to add to or subtract from their union, anything and everything that contributes positively to or takes away from negatively, their union.


Agreed. It's a challenge. But doable.

The one thing I appreciate (although my ex didn't) about adults who are trying in an informed way to make their lives better than that of their broken childhood families - is that we often don't take things for granted. I think that's commendable, and something everyone, regardless of familial background, ought to be doing anyway.

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