This occurs at every Black wedding I've ever been to: some one grabs the microphone and says "Black love is a beautiful thing" (or something very close to that statement). I've attended interracial, white, etc marriage ceremonies and no one's ever made mention about the beauty of the love in relation to the race or ethnicity of the couple. Is "Black Love" any more beautiful, precious, or rare than any other type of love? Is my experience with this "Black Love" statement at weddings unique? Why is it necessary to make such a statement? Please comment...
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It's funny you should mention this!! Something I thought of earlier today actually answers this question!

First of all, I, personnally, have never been a wedding where any such a statement or even anything close to such a statement was made. I guess at the Black weddings I've been to, everybody knew everybody there was Black and no racial issues, comments or statements ever seemed necessary! Smile

But, in answer to your query as to why such statements are or may be necessary, my answer is to look at it this way:

Warning: soapbox

During a job hunting experience, I ran across the Houston Lawyers Association. This is not the same as the (Your state or town) Bar Association. This is an association of Black lawyers. In their mission statement, it states that at the time this association was formed, Black lawyers were not allowed into the Bar Association. So the formed their own. The same is true about all the flap a few years ago with the United Negro College Fund. Some White man legally protested and won an argument about there being such a Fund and the alleged discriminatory practices of it. But back in the day, the "Negro" could not even attend college, let alone be given money to do so!! So such a fund was a necessity. Eek

Now, I actually said all that to say that there is nothing wrong with being Black in America ... or as being an American, and celebrating our own culture/heritage/achievements as a race. I actually believe I am offended by those who find falut with it! We are, after all, both Black and Americans!!! Are we not? As America (usually proudly) boasts as being a "melting pot" nation, there's obviously all kinds of people from all kinds of places here ... we are just one "kinds" of those people. We are Black people! And I don't see how or why there has to be a problem with us acknowledging that in any way! Why should someone else get offended about that? Why not instead celebrate their own heritage and culture! Eek Or is American all the they have?? Roll Eyes

Anyway, now, on to the American part of this equation. In this big 'ol "melting pot" of ours, Black people are the only people who were brought here in chains! All others got the option to come here, and did so, for the proverbial, "better life", "safety from persecution", "land of the free, home of the brave" "better opportunity", blah, blah, blah. History dictates that the ancestors of most Europeans found their way here for one or other of the reasons stated above ... while most of our ancestors were brought here bound, captives and sold to those European ancestors to be treated worse than animals!

Yet, White people want us to celebrate our Americanism in the same way they do, without regard or acknowledgement of our own unique experience as "Americans". I don't have a problem with waving the flag of freedom here in this country ... but, why should I also forget that when it was first hoisted, there was no freedom for me? Since my experience here is twofold, why should I not be able to celebrate or appreciate both experiences?

I know this is more answer than you bargained for with what seemed to be a simple "wedding" question! Big Grin But, as you ask why it seems to be "necessary" to invoke Blackness into a situation where it seemingly doesn't belong, the answer is that it DOES belong. And there is nothing wrong with it belonging. Being Black is relevant. It is important. As is the distinction of being a Black American. Our situation is unique. Special rules apply. Appreciation is a wonderful thing. Do those who discourage it do so because they have nothing to appreciate? Confused

And on a more personal note ... I think anybody who's ever experienced love other than Black love would have to say that Black love is indeed at least a different kind of love than any other! And so "more beautiful, precious and/or rare" might just indeed apply! Big Grin Big Grin

But that's just my opinion!
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Originally posted by ThaWatcher:
This occurs at every Black wedding I've ever been to: some one grabs the microphone and says "Black love is a beautiful thing" (or something very close to that statement). I've attended interracial, white, etc marriage ceremonies and no one's ever made mention about the beauty of the love in relation to the race or ethnicity of the couple. Is "Black Love" any more beautiful, precious, or rare than any other type of love? Is my experience with this "Black Love" statement at weddings unique? Why is it necessary to make such a statement? Please comment...


Aparently, it's not as universal as you have observed, as several people have already noted, but perhaps it should be...

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ARTICLE VIII forbids curates to celebrate marriages of slaves without consent of the masters, and forbids masters to force their slaves to marry against their will.

ARTICLE IX enacts that children born from the marriages of slaves shall belong to the master of the mother.

ARTICLE X enacts that if the husband be a slave and the wife a free woman, the children shall be free like their mother. If the husband be free and the wife a slave, the children shall be slaves.


http://www.toptags.com/aama/docs/lublkcodes.htm
LOL @ Vox...

I guess I've been having a unique experience (It must be a Boston thing). I've been to about 5 black weddings in the last 2 years and during the reception someone grabs the mic and makes that comment. I don't find it offensive at all, but I have heard the statement so much that it has become a cliché....
Could be, Watcher... it happens, I guess.
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Originally posted by MBM:
Hey Vox, were the bride and groom black? If not, maybe that's why no one said anything about "black love".


LOL@MBM. I guess I'll have to try and check the bride & groom's birth certificates and let u know!! brosmile
Strong post, EbonyRose! Even though my prospect of marrying an Afro woman remain slim, there's admittedly something I find special about the 'joining' of two Afro-americans -- presumely, a man and his lady!

After living here in the Bay Area for about a year, I'm definitely realizing just how uncommon it is (or even will be) to witness the marriage of two happy Afros. Indeed the witnessing of such an event has become so seemingly rare for me I've moved to consider the union a delicacy.

I grew up simply a generation removed from segregation, so all I ever saw or dared to dream about was marrying someone from within the 'effects' of this world. The only woman I was ever customarily taught ~ if not presumed ~ and encouraged to love was of the Afro-american persuasion. However, America change rapidly from the 70s, even for women. Yet humans on a some socio-microcosmic level evolve rather slowly if not begrudingly. I'm of this class of course.

I can't say whether the idea of 'Afro Love' has become a relic of my generation ~ or will be for that of my children. To live it and think are two different things! Yet, I shutter at the prospect of having married someone of a different persuasion and realize that I've had to 'give this up too!'
Well, mocove ...

At the risk of being called a bunch of derogatory names, I will share with you that I have dated men of other races ... and probably will again, because the fact is that .... well, I just love men! Big Grin But, I am also a believer that variety is the spice of life, and the opportunity to experience new things is one that I just don't often let pass by!

However, although I doubt that marriage and I will ever be connected to each other, if it were to happen, there's about a 110% chance that it will be to a Black men ... because out of all the men I love, I love Black men the most! And the best!! My brother's are beautiful ... inside and out, and when it comes to the physical/sensual aspect of a relationship, there really isn't anyone better! Wink So, if I'm gonna spend the rest of all my days connected with a man, it will have to be with the best of 'em! Big Grin

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