Originally posted by ocatchings:
My brothers a question that has come up many times before. "Can a man be too nice?"
catch...these prying eyes have a question for you.
first i'm sorry your recent relationship ended, sincerly sorry, you're a great guy from what i know!!
now my question...was the ONLY reason the latest 'miss right' dumped you because you are too nice? were there other issues that played into it, and the too nice comment and the lack of physical knuckle contact the thing that stands out the most in your mind? if the only reason she gave is you being too nice--be happy things are over, sounds like she has some things to work on within herself before she's ready for a "nice guy".
secondly...i have a question for the board.
i hear a lot men talking about women in a way that says the more sexually confident, sexy looking, or uninhibited a woman is--the more desirable she is. billions of dollars are made based on selling the look, smell, feel, and idea of sex using women as the focus. sex sells. the Budwiser commercial featuring the TWINS comes to mind.
i also hear a lot of men say that when it comes time to get serious, or when they're looking for marriage material they want a woman who is classy on the outside, who has that pta mom look. a woman who is the direct opposite of a trashy hoe but who is also a freak behind closed doors. when that great woman during the day doesn't perform all the 'naughty things' in private she gets labeled a prude (or worse) and runs the chance of her man getting his freaky tendancies met elsewhere.
is it possible that there is a condition where men and women seem to want what appears GOOD/NICE/WHOLESOME, with a little bit of roughness or naughtiness to it--definatley not to the point of abuse or super sexually deviant, but just a little bit of bad boy/bad girl?