Damn all this explanation and justification. If you a grown ass woman and you playing "ring tricks", then you deserve to be sitting at home alone on a Friday night - on your bed choking on Bon Bons, chocolate chip cookies, and potato chips while looking at taped re-runs of 'The Young and the Restless' and wearing your favorite pair of goofy ass, puffy white socks with pink toes and heels, and Noxema smeared all over your face.
~Awww! Po'thang! I guess that WOULD hurt a bit to know that even though she's alone at night stuffing her noxema creamed face with bonbons, SHE STILL would rather use the "ring trick" to keep YOU AWAY. Ouch!~
Forgive me for having this little handicap called MORALS
but I don't ask women that have a ring on their wedding finger if they're single.
~Nor should you. That's good manners. Now, take your morals and integrity one step further and allow her her personal space. If she'd rather be seen as married when she isn't, then she has her personal reasons. Respect them. What's it to you? Bottom line is SHE IS UNAVAILABLE by CHOICE. HER CHOICE. She's allowed to do that. She's off limits, be it for real reasons or fake ones, and it doesn't really matter WHICH in the end does it? The end result is still the same. You and She will NOT be hooking up. She'd RATHER be single. Hurts?~
That's some typical fickle woman shit just like the dress issue. You can't tell a woman the truth and say she looks fat in the dress - you can't lie and tell her she looks good or she'll deny she looks good in the dress and change into another one. But if you don't say SHIT when she asks you what she looks like in a certain dress, then you're a low-down, dirty bastard that doesn't give her any attention.
~LOL! That is NOT the same thing. Apples and oranges. If she is wearing a wedding ring, then the answer is "Yes, she is married", whether she IS or NOT. Again, she's made the decision to be OFF LIMITS to you. There is no reason FOR you to ask her and then be given the run around by her. If you cross the line into her personal space and actually ASK her to audibly verify what you believe the ring means, then that's on you. You forced her to lie to you (if the ring is fake). Ever heard of "Ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies."? Sure you have. It was none of your business if the ring was fake or not. It was none of your business if she wanted to appear married even though she wasn't. It was not your place to ask for verification of the visible clues. So, you did good. You've got morals and integrity
. But why do you have to follow that up with a string of insults about her?~
Same deal with the ring. Fools think you're supposed to read their mind. If you acknowledge the ring and don't ask her out, then she gets mad. You ask her if she's married and she's wearing a fake ass ring she gets pissed. You ask her if she's single and the ring is REAL, then you're REALLY a low-down, dirty, womanizing, ho-hopping bastard. damned if you do, damned if you don't.[/QUOTE]
~SEE! That's EXACTLY what I was talking about! PLEEEEEASE tell me that you did NOT do all of that! Geesh!
If she is wearing a ring only for the purpose of keeping men away, then let it be that. Haven't you ever made any personal decisions without outside interference whining about it? Who is to say that once she got to know you better that she wouldn't have CONFIDED in you that she was indeed available and had been checking you out? Giving her that space is much better than the alternative that causes tension and bad blood between you, imo. But, you do you. Good luck with that.