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Originally posted by qty226:
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Originally posted by HonestBrother:
I'm one of those fed up black men.
But I've come to see that the black woman is not my enemy.
She too has good reasons to be fed up.
Maybe healing can begin there? Mutual acknowledgement?
Wow, HB you get a big kiss for this.....!!
Bullshit. You're the
biggest butt-licking bullshitter on this entire discussion board, honestbrother. First of all, I'm not a fed up black man. I love black women to death. But I value my worth to the effect that I won't put up with false accusations made by women of
any race and nationality including my own. I'm an equal opportunity brother - end of story. That's fundamentalist, naive, inexperienced, hypothetical talk you're driveling all over this discussion board.
Any black man, particularly, a black man who is a regular participating member of AA.org understands that women have had their frustrations and difficulties with the opposite sex. We also understand that women aren't the enemy. You're childish and simple-minded as well as a brown-nosing, sniveling baby if you think any of us view black women as the enemy.
But the point is, should an innocent brother put up with being judged, ridiculed, harrassed, accused, and criticized - prosecuted for interpersonal crimes he did not commit? Hell no! If anyone chooses to make an entire gender the enemy it's
black women.Only a woman would tell good brothers she's not attracted to them because of whatever fickle, self-absorbed, fictitious reason, then turn around and have a string of dead end relationships with a bunch of womanizing, abusive, neglectful, undesirable, thugged out negroes yet put
all black men in the same category when their failed relationships have taken their toll.
Even females like qty226 know you're just a naive little boy. They just love to gas up the heads of naive little dudes like you - watch you wag your tale and turn around in little circles like a Yorkshire Terrier until they get tired of you and find another sucker, then when you realize you've been made a fool of you react angrily, then you've fallen for the you're-just-like-the-rest-of-them trap.
Black women may have a good reason to be fed up but they sure as hell don't have a good reason to prosecute all black men because they make poor choices in the men they choose to give their heart to. You can talk to any one of these women and I'll bet you 9 out of 10 will tell you the same kind of long drawn out story about how they were mistreated for 5 to 8 years by one dude. But when they're single and in search of a new guy they seem to avoid all of the decent guys and go for the same type of thugged out, irresponsible, abusive negroes.
Another point that you fail to understand is this:
Many women don't want mutual acknowledgement. Many of them love to wallow in their own misery. They love to have a reason and an excuse to be just as afraid of commitment as they acuse men of being.
Just because a woman contributes a significant amount of time to a failing relationship doesn't mean she's ready to settle down. In fact, it means quite the opposite. Women that purposefully commit themselves to undesirable, incapable men are just as bad if not worse than brothers that are unfairly labeled as being afraid of commitment. Many of these women have self-absorbed personality characteristics that is a combination of being narcissistic and self sabbotaging. They're so into their looks, materialism, and independence they'll involve themselves with a dude they know is no good so when the relationship fails they can have an excuse to continue living their narcissistic, self-absorbed lives:
"I tried to love Jonathan and make a happy home but he beat me up/stole my car and took his boys for a ride/ got me pregnant but said it wasn't his. blah, blah, blah.....""I thought helping Tim catch up his car note, putting rims on his car, and buying him a whole new wardrobe would bring us closer together.....""J'Quan was so smart. All he needed was a job. Nobody would hire him because he wouldn't cut his dreads. Can you blame him for wanting to sell drugs to make ends meet? College ain't for everybody. It's the white man's fault...."Pick your story - I've heard them all from these sisters that follow that path of good intentions everyday. However, miraculously, no matter which story is used they all end up the same damn way:
"I just couldn't take it anymore. I got tired of being treated that way. I changed the locks on my door and told J'Quan/Marcus/Rakeem to get his shit. It's all HIS fault. I did the best I could and he messed up everything. I have to start my life all over. I'll never trust another man again."Their stories are full of red flags that lead up to the failure of their relationship - they don't know how they got into that mess - they know how to be at odds with each other when they fight each other and stab each other in the back over a no good negro but somehow they now how to band together and use Mary J. Blidge as their poster child while they mentally castrate and emasculate all black men.