@ Kweli: I'm glad to see someone with enough sense to understand that the approach to discussing all the problems afflicting the Black community should be like a surgeon with a scapple (which takes time) instead of just using a meat cleaver by screaming empty profanity filled rants about wanting "solutions"...If more brothers were like you instead of the aforementioned type then maybe Blacks would be better off right now.
@ Fabulous: I appreciate you having a brutha's back and keeping the Barbarians at the gate while I'm offline...I mean but dang girl you're doing such a good job checking Romulousy you're not leaving much for me to do when I get home...you done took so much of that fools manhood that both him and society should be paying you for the vasectomy that you've performed on him....
@ Momentum: Instead of coming in here trying to
co-sign someone like Romulousy who not only has
bad credit but is basically
BANKRUPT perhaps you can share your own enlightened perspectives with us. As far as I know this is the first post you've made in this thread so instead of wasting space piggy backing on Romulousy's lunacy you could have taken that time to spell out your
own "solutions". Since like I said this is an OPEN discussion meaning that I welcome all other perspectives and the fact that you and Romo want to wait on me to solve all the problems tells me that YOU are placing me on a higher pedestal than even the one you claim I'm putting myself on.
You go on to spout some gibberish about my being an "ideologue" (like it's a pejorative or something) when everyone one this site is an ideologue since all we are doing online is sharing our
ideas...you then make the daft claim that Crakaz love negroes like me when in fact I'm the type they most fear I'm the
field negro that spent enough time in the house to see how it runs and is trying to share it with other field negroes so we can have our
own house. You're the negro sitting in the corner complaining while contributing
nothing to the cause slowing up the process all while lending your support to the
house negro....so no I think you're really the one that Crakaz love..
Momentum instead of saying something is from the "70's" (as if that makes something bad...besides I don't remember reading about any great separatist movements back then) why don't you either grace us with your
own rendition of solutions to Black issues or you can just
STFU and keep it moving just like your screen name implies...
@ Romulus: First of all you need to just take time and calm your hyperactive hot a$$ breath blowin self down and actually READ what people are saying for once in your miserable life....Now I never said that I was going to produce a single
magic bullet that would solve all our problems overnight. I said from the very beginning when I stated that the discussion should be shifted towards solutions that EVERYONE was encouraged to contribute.
The fact that you in such
ignorant and frankly
cry babyish tones are screaming for me to
solely produce a solution to your convoluted specifications tells me you are less concerned about contributing to a healthy dialog as you are with trying to create distractions and finding some sort of "gotcha" moment. So what you need to do is wait until I have said my peace and AFTER I have completed all of what I plan to say THEN you can jump in with a COGENT and SUBSTANTIVE rationale as to why you feel your "solutions" are better. Until then just shut your flap and try to hold on to what little amount of dignity and manhood that Fabulous has left you with...before I take the rest.
Anyway, moving on......
I have a lot to say on this subject so that's the reason that I requested before and I'm STILL requesting that others get involved to share their perspectives...because I know that if I'm the only one speaking it will appear as if I'm dictating my manifesto which is not the reason I started this thread. I welcome any REAL and SUBSTANTIVE critique of anything I say all I ask is that it be a FAIR criticism coupled with your own solution and not just the pontification and haterism from the side line that some people want to engage in. Having said that I will proceed to give my perspective on the things facing Blacks and how we should deal with it...In these postings I'm going to touch on several issues that I feel are holding blacks back some will be controversial and some people won't like what I'm going to say. These things however MUST be said and I'm not here for people to like me or win a popularity contest so I don't mind if people take issue with what I say.
Among the issues I want to address is absentee parents (especially the missing black fathers who don't even want to pay child support and how that's destroying our future). The black communities willingness to aid and abet a CRIMINAL mentality i.e., the "no snitching" movement, "thug life" etc,. Black economic decadence and Religion......
As I mentioned previously I would like us now to turn the microscope on ourselves for a moment and address some of the MANY ways blacks exacerbate the problems that we already have. Something that must be stated with respect to the two belief systems that say that the solution to the Black problem is only PERSONSAL RESPONSIBILITY or SEPARATING FROM WHITES....The fact of the matter is BOTH of these need to be done...Debating what's doing the most harm to blacks between WHITE racism and our own SELF inflicted damage is like debating which blade cuts the paper on a pair of scissors. They BOTH work together and thats the reason white racism AND our own self inflicted damage is so potent because they work TOGETHER to keep us back... Consequently the reason we are held back is because we won't work TOGETHER to deal with it.
The way I see it whites have provided the socio-economic construct or framework by which to marginalize and oppress blacks. However blacks provide the CONTENT that's within this framework vis-à-vis we create the social circumstances amongst ourselves that help reinforce and support the larger framework around us. So in effect we are CO-CONSPIRATOR'S in our OWN oppression it's akin to someone putting a noose around your neck that has slack in it but you take it upon yourself to push the knot closer to your own neck and tightening it.
There are like I said many ways in which blacks do this to themselves but the one I want to focus on now is parenting (or the lack thereof)......
The black family has been under assault every since we first set foot in this country we all know of the horrors black women endured during slavery when their nursing babies were RIPPED from there loving arms and sold from them. Fast forward a couple hundred years and you still see this being played out in a defacto way by the abuses in the child social services system that are separating black families (while in some cases warranted due to unfit parents) I believe there is simply NOT enough being done to reunite the black family which is the cause of A LOT of our social ills but it is simply NOT a priority to this country.
Which makes since because when you think about it whites DON'T have a vested interest in BLACK UNITY of ANY kind any such movement no matter how seemingly benign it is will be in diametric OPPOSITION to white interests. Remember we were IMPORTED in this country to be TOOLS of LABOR which means FODDER to enrich YT and this country and NOTHING else. That is why so many whites are lothe to give any concessions to blacks of any kind because as far as they are concerned we are OBSOLETE farm equipment.
While I respect social services that help distressed Fathers, Mothers and Children (I am a big giver to charities myself and here is one I give to for example...
http://www.hcz.org ) however I don't particularly like the idea that some have of letting dead beat "fathers" off the hook by cutting what they owe in back support. To me it's like giving them a wink and nod that if you can hold out long enough you can get around paying support.
I feel that too MANY black men all too OFTEN look for ways to be nickle slick and try to beat the system. Now trust me as a black man navigating a white dominated economy I know all about the "grand hustle" mentality. Where I draw the line though is as it relates to family a black man should check his hustler mentality at the door when it comes to this. He should not feel that he has "gotten over" or "gotten away" with something because he was able to get out of providing for his seed. This instead should produce a sense of SHAME and DISHONOR in him to the point that it is UNBEARABLE and should motivate him to do better by his child and the childs mother.
The reason it doesn't produce shame is because as I alluded to previously our standards for ourselves are seen through the prism of white racism so subconsciously we equate the black family as being "less than" so therefore some black men feel that it's no big deal to be "less than" decent fathers. This is in no way meant to be an excuse for this abhorrent behavior but only to shed light on the psychological factors that produce it.
The only way to deal with this type of mentality is for US black men to start holding ourselves and other black men accountable for these actions. Every black man that abandoned his family was once a child who someone had the chance to influence away from this behavior yet they did not. I am personally instrumental in the rearing of three nephews who I'm teaching to be strong and productive black men that know the importance of family and if I have it my way that is at least THREE less black men who will fall into this trap not to mention however many sons of my own I produce from here on out.
If our people are ever going to BRAKE this cycle it has to start NOW we just simply don't have the time to put it off any further. Each one of us has the power to influence someone in our lives and they are not just children either. I know for a fact that I have a lot of influence with my friends and when they need advice they often come to me. I'm sure there are others reading this who can say the same thing so always be mindful of your power to influence others because every man that is considering not paying to support his child has someone they will listen to and YOU might be that person so make yourself available.
I personally think that one issue that exemplifies the damage that individualism has done to the Black community the most is the issue of CHILD SUPPORT there are far too many Black men who feel that just because they are not with their childs mother they are "free" to live as though they have only themselves to support.
It all starts with changing this SELFISH mentality of "getting over" that's born of a INDIVIDUALISTIC mentality that too many of us seem to have I know this will be hard to do and it won't happen over night but we need to start some where. Brothers need to understand that sharing earnings with their seed is a important thing to do not just for their own family but for the viability of the entire race. Why do you think Whites and Asians work so hard to build wealth for the next generation? because they know it's the key to the survival of their entire race. Black men need to STOP letting their disdain for the mother of their children dictate whether they will do for the child. Yeah brother I know there are black women out there who are ignorant and you don't want to have anything to do with them. However, if she didn't get "ignorant" until after she had your kids then you still have to MAN UP and deal with her (at least to give her whats needed for the child) because you have an inextricable bond with her now in the person of your child.
I'm going to explore this and other issues a little further in my next post....I have to break this into different parts because like I stated I have a lot to say about this plus I don't want to overwhelm the reader all at once...for those who are really interested in solutions I thank you for your patience....