So I'm reading the back and forth between women like Kocolicious and Khalliqa and the men on this site and I find myself inspired to write this. I normally don't get involved in gender wars because they normally just devolve into emotional spats and side taking that divides along gender lines regardless of who's right and wrong. However, because I see women who I genuinely respect i.e. Kocolicious and Khalliqa that are seemingly trying to make sense out of why men are reacting the way they are in the "Carnival" thread...I would like to share my perspective.
For starters lets get something straight I'm addressing this from a completely honest and purely MASCULINE perspective...So I know I may say some things that from a womens perspective she may not be able to fully relate to... Anyway just accept what I'm saying in the spirit in which it's given which is only to inform. There are some fundamental things about Men that women need to understand... one being that we are VISUAL when it comes to sexuality and what that means. This is not about choice with regard to what we are stimulated by it is purely PYSIOLOGICAL ...when a man see's an attractive women actual bio chemical processes are triggered this is NATURAL. This is the driving force which motivates Men to even pursue women in the first place which consequently keeps the human race going...it's just as natural as the womans desire and drive to give birth. Women can no more understand this aspect of men as men can understand why women would seek to be impregnated carry a child for nine months and then have it pulled from her body...in some cases multiple times. To the Masculine mind the idea of this type of thing happening to our bodies is Abhorrent...we are just not wired for such a thing. Now I'm not talking about effeminate punk men who want to be women their damn self ...I'm talking about REAL TESTOSTERONE DRIVEN MEN like myself.
God knew what he was doing because if you had to depend on a man to allow himself to be penetrated and then forced to carry another human being for NINE MONTHS and then GIVE BIRTH to it...Man you wouldn't have to worry about birth control because it wouldn't happen I know it wouldn't with me. A mans whole outlook a sexuality is as a PENETRATOR not a receiver so we are naturally more aggressive. So our outlook as it relates to women will reflect that... and we take on this "hunter" mentality because of it. Now where responsibility and maturity come into play is how a man CONTROLS these base impulses not the fact that he has them..which he can't control. If a man has made a commitment to a particular women he is OBLIGATED to that women and he should be MAN ENOUGH to not cheat on her...in spite of his carnal desires.
Personally, I love looking at beautiful women just as much as the next guy but I tend to be more attracted to discretion in a women...I'm not into all the "booty shaking" videos and all that. I personally think that belly dancing is WAY more sexier than "booty shaking" but that's just me. Anyway, I understand the mens attraction to the pic's in the carnival thread however I personally would not post pics like that where women could see them...but again that's just me. I guess I'm old fashioned that way... I was raised in a household where I did not cuss or show any obscenities to my Mother or Grandmother so I try to give the ladies here the same respect.
Having said that though I'm a guy and I know that when guys get together we talk about things that women might find objectionable. So maybe part of the problem is that the Den is completely open to women perhaps some of it's content could be private 'for guys only'...Maybe this would shield women from viewing us when we are not on our best behavior...but this is just my suggestion.