Originally posted by Fagunwa:
Also you must be commited to your marriage before all else. My wife comes first before job,money,other family members before everything.
MEN ARE FROM MARS (the Planet of Achievement and Respect) WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS (the Planet of Family and Relationships)
And this, I believe, is the single most difficult and challenging thing for men to do (place their wife and family above all else), especially when they are young. They just don't seem to be able to focus on such things until much later on in their development. Everything else [e.g. money, sportscar, clothes, respect from male peers, you name it], they all seem to be more important and more valuable to them than family and building a family. Family, wife, and children are simply not as important to them as gaining respect and status among their peers. But for women, having a family is important to them, at any age. They are at least concerned about it. And its all because of the way we are socialized. Women and men are socialized to desire and aspire toward completely opposite things and achievements in life, from infancy to adulthood, especially in Western society. That is why the divorce rate is so high here I suppose.
Do you think this type of socialization helps maintain a healthy and necessary balance between the sexes or do you think they divide us and keep us from getting and maintaining relationships, especially in relation to African Americans.