Originally posted by Suz:
My, my, my, times are really changing. Now women should wear the pants & men wear the panties. Some things I'm in agreement with women being equal to men. Key words: "some things". And some things I feel it's a zone she should not venture in. Now while I'm sure it's a ego thriller to the male psych for a woman to actively pursue him, but let's examine the outcome. At best where will she stand with said man? Will marriage or a sincere relationship occur? More than likely no, oh yeah she'll definately be a booty call since she's proven without a doubt that she wants him bad, perhaps at any cost. I believe men are natural predators, & his instincts have always lead him to pursue whatever female that strikes his fancy, so ok a little light weight flirting on her part is acceptable, ya know like dangling the worm to catch the fish but that's where she should draw the line. And for the men nay-sayers understand I know that what a man say's & how he really feels can be worlds apart. Of course this is just my humble opinion & far from being the gospel.
Well, to be fair Sister Suz, the title of this thread asks should sistas chase down their
man, which suggests that the man already belongs to us, but in actuality, he doesn't. Like some of the brothers have said, women tend to take some things for granted. Don't you think that women should do something to earn
the affections of a man in which she's interested, or does a man "belong" to us simply because he's expressed an interest in us?
I think women get so caught up in feeling flattered by a man's interest that we forget that even though a man may have expressed an interest in us, he still doesn't belong to us. In others, he's not "our man" and there is still a very long series of events and stages that the relationship has to survive before we can call a man ours. However, in the mind of some women, the relationship begins the second the man approaches us. We forget that men are visual, and they are attracted to not just us, but to many women.
Great topic Sister Spiritual.