It's only since I've been participating on this and a few other messageboards, that i've become aware that brothas wish to be pursued. They would like for women to step to them, instead of having to step to women in the dating and mate selection process.
IMHO, many sistas have not been raised or groomed to do this. Many sistas have had a different belief instilled in them: That if you are a clean woman, an honest woman, a hardworking woman, a kind woman, etc that brothas "would just know" that you are special, and worthy and therefore seek you out.
I am not sure how brothas are "supposed to just know" but in many circles, a sista chasing a brotha is seen as forward, loose, desparate, etc. Pursuit is even described by some sistas as a masculine endeavor. Perhaps the parameters of pursuit have changed. Let some tell it, Buffy and Heather nem, are much more adept at the art of pursuit than the sisters. Is it appropriate for a sista to chase?