Originally posted by Huey
Man up, my ass. If she saying this to her potential suitors, then she also better "woman up" and change her fecal attitude of hers, before she ends up alone for the rest of her life.
Wow! Brotha Huey. I think the word "Man Up" may be a bit too harsh. In fact, she didn't even say that. She said "just be a man." Two completely different phases. And a phase that women have used for years...but! To be fair it was the author of this the article that entitled it "man up" cuz obviously that's how he/she perceived what she was conveying....but! I think Taraji meant what she actually
said "just be a man"...but not in an insulting way...I think in a more encouraging/realistic[this is how you do it to get me kinda] projection; in other words..."just be yourself." And I can only suppose she meant it based on her experience of men she's dated under the umbrella of false expectations....especially in the entertainment business. Cuz you never KNOW who's being REAL with you...or who's really being with you FOR YOU or your money/status.
This is one of the reasons why Maxwell (the singer) said he left the music industry for a while. He (in a Jet interview stated that he) just wanted to be accepted socially by [potential] women he dated for "him" not for who he was or what he does for a living. And that's reasonable. Cuz it is no doubt folks in limelight are subjected to phony people who may have hidden agendas. I think when she said "most men are fragile" she could have been talking about their "egos." How can they (who are natural hunters and aggressor in relationships) compete with a woman who financially has everything; who is independent, who is self-sustaining, a single mother and a celebrity? Cuz we all know many men are not only competitive but proud of their ability to take care of their own….especially their women/family.....right? So if it's hard for a single mother who is totally successful and capable in the real world to find the right man comfortable with who she is as a person/human being....then you know it must be even more difficult for a woman to achieve this common goal in the entertainment industry. All you have to do is look at other celebrities and their ongoing struggle for a normal relationship/life under the microscope of fame...and the realities of their experiences are there...but! I'm just sayin.
BTW: I remember my first semester in college[I was all of sixteen years old-a baby] I had a fellow cheerleader [the biggest whore on campus] come to me and tell me if I wanted to date one of the football players[I had my eyes on]...I'd had to tone it down academically otherwise I would hurt his ego
That were during my days as a militant poet...you know black power....but! I had a HUGE ego too and was also a girl jock/athlete. So. I told her to fock off cuz I wasn't desperate for "d"...I was going to be MYSELF if he liked it or not! Needless to say, I dated him throughout college....he became my best friend in the whole wide world....later we had a lifetime together. So...be yourself (your confident self) is ALL she meant. I promise.