Skip to main content

and now my mother is acting sooo weird kinda like she doesn't care that i might be moving out but she drops these subtle hints of displeasure. sad
like i said before, i have strict haitian parents but most of the time they are quick to voice their opinions on something they disagree with me on but now both my mom and dad have become... quiet and non-chalant. i kinda don't want to go away for college now if they are going to act like that. Have any suggestions? Confused
---------------------------------------------- College = being broke for 4 years
Original Post

Replies sorted oldest to newest

quote:
Originally posted by caribbeanflavored:
and now my mother is acting sooo weird kinda like she doesn't care that i might be moving out but she drops these subtle hints of displeasure. sad
like i said before, i have strict haitian parents but most of the time they are quick to voice their opinions on something they disagree with me on but now both my mom and dad have become... quiet and non-chalant. i kinda don't want to go away for college now if they are going to act like that. Have any suggestions? Confused


I have no suggestions... But congrats on getting into Spelman! tfro

I take it back... I do have a suggestion... Their "displeasure" is in seeing you grow up and go away... They're just sad... They probably approve and are proud of you getting into Spelman.

Advice: Give them some time and let them get used to the idea of you leaving home. They'll become more outwardly supportive.
quote:
Originally posted by caribbeanflavored:
and now my mother is acting sooo weird kinda like she doesn't care that i might be moving out but she drops these subtle hints of displeasure. sad
like i said before, i have strict haitian parents but most of the time they are quick to voice their opinions on something they disagree with me on but now both my mom and dad have become... quiet and non-chalant. i kinda don't want to go away for college now if they are going to act like that. Have any suggestions? Confused




It's basically parental apprehension based on the fact that "the little bird" is now leaving the nest.

Congrads on your admission to Spelman!!!!!
Congrats on getting into Spelman. Your parents will eventually get used to the fact you are leaving. Besides, like HB stated, I am sure they are happy that you got into Spelman. It is a great school from what I have heard and seen. Did you get any scholarships?

no, they haven't written me about any financial aid offers yet but i hope i get a full scholorship.
***********************************************
also my mother flat out told me her opinion about me wanting to be a social worker and an early childhood educator anyway, she and my grandmother kinda ganged up on me today and told me about how poor i'm going to be and how i won't "save" them from their so-called "poverty" w/ a high profile job. she told me that even if i don't want to be a doctor or lawyer, it should'nt matter b/c green is all i should be thinking of getting. i don't know about her but i'd rather get paid $9 dollars/hr for a job i love than $200/hr for one i can't stand. sleep
i'd quit my first week of medical school anyway and as for being a lawyer, i can't really lie with a straight face. Big Grin
quote:
Originally posted by caribbeanflavored:
Congrats on getting into Spelman. Your parents will eventually get used to the fact you are leaving. Besides, like HB stated, I am sure they are happy that you got into Spelman. It is a great school from what I have heard and seen. Did you get any scholarships?



Lady dance to your own tune cuz no one can really choreograph your life for you.....except you!

no, they haven't written me about any financial aid offers yet but i hope i get a full scholorship.
***********************************************
also my mother flat out told me her opinion about me wanting to be a social worker and an early childhood educator anyway, she and my grandmother kinda ganged up on me today and told me about how poor i'm going to be and how i won't "save" them from their so-called "poverty" w/ a high profile job. she told me that even if i don't want to be a doctor or lawyer, it should'nt matter b/c green is all i should be thinking of getting. i don't know about her but i'd rather get paid $9 dollars/hr for a job i love than $200/hr for one i can't stand. sleep
i'd quit my first week of medical school anyway and as for being a lawyer, i can't really lie with a straight face. Big Grin
Spelman? cabbage go head girl, do you thing... your mother will eventually get over it. The important thing is that you get an education, that's probably why they haven't come right out and objected to you leaving. I do have a question for you though, are you the youngest or the only girl? Because if you are than that might have something to do with it.
OH, then your dealing with the "I don't want you to leave because if you do than I'll have to face the fact that you are growing up. But I still need you to be my little girl," thing. Trust me this will past once your parents get through the first month maybe month and a half without you around the house. Then when you come home for break it'll be the "Hi, happy your back. Now what time does your flight leave again," thing.
quote:
OH, then your dealing with the "I don't want you to leave because if you do than I'll have to face the fact that you are growing up. But I still need you to be my little girl," thing. Trust me this will past once your parents get through the first month maybe month and a half without you around the house. Then when you come home for break it'll be the "Hi, happy your back. Now what time does your flight leave again," thing.


thank you, that makes me feel lil bit better but i'll just have to wait and see if it really happens. munch
quote:
I'm not goin' to front, I am lazy but I know I need an education and my fam is not rich so I got to pay for it somehow.


no honey, i don't think you understand, i'm reeeaaaly lazy. i used to only work 3 hours a day monday through thursday last year and i nearly had a heart attack. that's just too much work. giveup so i had to quit. lol. you're probably like "three hours a day? that ain't nothing"

but if it came down to it and i had to take a job to pay for any student loans, i'd take a part time job to help my parent pay for it.
quote:
no honey, i don't think you understand, i'm reeeaaaly lazy. i used to only work 3 hours a day monday through thursday last year and i nearly had a heart attack. that's just too much work. so i had to quit. lol. you're probably like "three hours a day? that ain't nothing"

but if it came down to it and i had to take a job to pay for any student loans, i'd take a part time job to help my parent pay for it.



I gotta say that is sad, but your young(I'm saying that like your fifteen or somethingtongue) so technically you really don't have to work yet. To be honest I probably really don't have to because my great-granny offered to pay for my education with her retirement fund, but I told her keep so she can buy that house in Tuscanny she's always wanted. Anyway, your right I did say three hours ain't nothing, but hey it's better than nothing tfro
quote:
Originally posted by folobatuyi:
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
......I HATE college.....



Huh? Qy226...what is the deal? Why the hatred? College was great.


I attend an all white college, and although there are people that i talk with, i didnt connect with them on a social level.

My days are spent, in class......library, and then home.

Making close college friends, that i'll have a life time, didnt happen for me. Frown
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
quote:
Originally posted by folobatuyi:
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
......I HATE college.....



Huh? Qy226...what is the deal? Why the hatred? College was great.


I attend an all white college, and although there are people that i talk with, i didnt connect with them on a social level.

My days are spent, in class......library, and then home.

Making close college friends, that i'll have a life time, didnt happen for me. Frown


Qty, I hear ya... All white environments can be tough socially... I'm sorry to hear you're having a negative college experience...

Are there any black student groups?
quote:
I attend an all white college, and although there are people that i talk with, i didnt connect with them on a social level.

My days are spent, in class......library, and then home.

Making close college friends, that i'll have a life time, didnt happen for me.


that must've been rough. but i know what you mean b/c i used to attend a mostly white catholic girls high school and at times i felt kinda cornered until i discovered the black girls'cliques that related to me better and i was alright from then on.
quote:
Originally posted by HonestBrother:
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
quote:
Originally posted by folobatuyi:
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
......I HATE college.....



Huh? Qy226...what is the deal? Why the hatred? College was great.


I attend an all white college, and although there are people that i talk with, i didnt connect with them on a social level.

My days are spent, in class......library, and then home.

Making close college friends, that i'll have a life time, didnt happen for me. Frown


Qty, I hear ya... All white environments can be tough socially... I'm sorry to hear you're having a negative college experience...

Are there any black student groups?




Well i could join a sorority, as others have done. But i didnt want to join, just to make friends.

So literally, im in class, library, the gym....and home.

Its not/wasnt pleasant.....
quote:
Originally posted by HonestBrother:
A certain entering college freshman needs to update us on starting school at Spelman ... Big Grin


omg, I haven't been able to do anything lately. I'm sitting here waiting for a tuition loan company to look over my application and send me my check. School starts this Wednesday and I know for sure that I won't make it there in time since half of tuition is due before a student registers for class. Basically, I'm screwed. sad
quote:
Originally posted by caribbeanflavored:
quote:
Originally posted by HonestBrother:
A certain entering college freshman needs to update us on starting school at Spelman ... Big Grin


omg, I haven't been able to do anything lately. I'm sitting here waiting for a tuition loan company to look over my application and send me my check. School starts this Wednesday and I know for sure that I won't make it there in time since half of tuition is due before a student registers for class. Basically, I'm screwed. sad


14 ther

Add Reply

Post
×
×
×
×
Link copied to your clipboard.
×