I'm absolutely lovin' this article I just saw in Essence magazine. I'm typing fast so I apologize for any mistakes.

Bringing Daddies to the Altar

June is traditionally the most popular month for weddings, but Brooklyn writer Maryann Reid has convinced nearly a dozen couples that this September will be a fine time to say "I do," That's when she's holding Marry Your Baby Daddy Day, an all-expense-paid mass wedding to be held in New York City. Despite the evnt's cheesy name, Reid says it has a serious purpose: to reverse what she calls antimarriage trends among Blacks. In 2002 more than half of Black children were born out of wedlock. Reid, a single 29-year-old, has recruited a minister, wedding planners and dress designers to unite ten couples on September 29 (timed to coincide with the release of her book Marry Your Baby Daddy) and has even gotten local businesses to foot the bill.

"Many couples with children want to get married but don't because of the enormous expense involved," she says. Skeptics might point out that a City Hall wedding costs less than a touch-up at the salon. And some activists caution against promoting marriage in a vacuum. Joe Jones, president of Baltimore's Center for Fathers, Families and Workforce Development, says we should support marriage, "but at the same time, we as a society need to make sure that families, particularly low-income ones, have access to the necessary social support they'll need to make it work."
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I think it's a good concept, but what about the already inclining divorce rate.

This movement is very lucrative for marriage counselors. Man I love economics bsm

I've got faith in the fidelity of my brothers don't get me wrong, but lately it seems that a man (lowercase) is only as faithful as his next best option.

The media has exposed every single black lying cheating husband. If we want this movement to work, we need to promote our success stories. There are plenty successful black men that have successful marriages. That's what we need to see, that's what we need to hear.
I love it!!

I see so many young black mothers alone and too few young black fathers not in the equation. So yes, lets do like we did years ago, GET PREGNANT - GET MARRIED. I do agree they need social support to have a successful marriage once they put the cart before the horse. Marriage is tough without children so I can imagine what its like when you marry and have a family already.

Sadly, today its not uncommon for "DADDY" not to be mentioned at the baby shower or at the hospital. Surely, the girl didn't get pregnant by herself. We need to change this trend of NO SHAME in getting pregnant before marriage. This is a serious problem for US!!

I wish I had a magic wand!!
HeruStar writes:
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The media has exposed every single black lying cheating husband. If we want this movement to work, we need to promote our success stories. There are plenty successful black men that have successful marriages. That's what we need to see, that's what we need to hear.


You are so RIGHT!! Promote whats good as an example of how one should conduct oneself.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
Many couples with children want to get married but don't because of the enormous expense involved. Skeptics might point out that a City Hall wedding costs less than a touch-up at the salon.



Yeah, and I happen to be one of those skeptics. Listen, the whole "weddings are too expensive" excuse is nothing but bullshit. Somehow having two, three, four, and five children is a walk on the beach, but getting married, that's "too expensive???" That doesn't make any sense. When are people going to simply admit to being afraid of growing up and having grown up responsibilities? I also love the other excuse, "the divorce rate is too high." People, you're not buying real estate property or car insurance, you're getting married to someone you profess to love and cannot live without. Genuine, I-was-made-for-you love cannot be confined to monitoring "rates," "quotes," and "statistics." Therefore one cannot allow other people's failures to determine the outcomes of your experiences. Perhaps some of these "extended, long overdue flings" are not love at all and these people are simply afraid to admit this to themselves and the other person. Love should not require a ten year test run. Either you love someone or you don't. If you don't love the person, then you need to end it and move on.
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I think we can agree that "Marry Your Baby Daddy" day has less to do with love than it has to do with a societal jump-start on the black family and community. It's closer to an arranged marriage. This western concept of falling head-over-heals in love and marrying the man or woman of your dreams has failed is failing and will continue to fail until people get there head out of the clouds and be more realistic.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
I'm absolutely lovin' this article I just saw in Essence magazine. I'm typing fast so I apologize for any mistakes.

Bringing Daddies to the Altar

June is traditionally the most popular month for weddings, but Brooklyn writer Maryann Reid has convinced nearly a dozen couples that this September will be a fine time to say "I do," That's when she's holding Marry Your Baby Daddy Day, an all-expense-paid mass wedding to be held in New York City. Despite the evnt's cheesy name, Reid says it has a serious purpose: to reverse what she calls antimarriage trends among Blacks. In 2002 more than half of Black children were born out of wedlock. Reid, a single 29-year-old, has recruited a minister, wedding planners and dress designers to unite ten couples on September 29 (timed to coincide with the release of her book Marry Your Baby Daddy) and has even gotten local businesses to foot the bill.

"Many couples with children want to get married but don't because of the enormous expense involved," she says. Skeptics might point out that a City Hall wedding costs less than a touch-up at the salon. And some activists caution against promoting marriage in a vacuum. Joe Jones, president of Baltimore's Center for Fathers, Families and Workforce Development, says we should support marriage, "but at the same time, we as a society need to make sure that families, particularly low-income ones, have access to the necessary social support they'll need to make it work."


sounds like a good idea, but most of those situations [babymomma - babydaddy] are not love based. So many of those children were born from short relationships. What would happen when the babydaddy has multiple babymommas?? polygamy??
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
I'm absolutely lovin' this article I just saw in Essence magazine. I'm typing fast so I apologize for any mistakes.

Bringing Daddies to the Altar

June is traditionally the most popular month for weddings, but Brooklyn writer Maryann Reid has convinced nearly a dozen couples that this September will be a fine time to say "I do," That's when she's holding Marry Your Baby Daddy Day, an all-expense-paid mass wedding to be held in New York City. Despite the evnt's cheesy name, Reid says it has a serious purpose: to reverse what she calls antimarriage trends among Blacks. In 2002 more than half of Black children were born out of wedlock. Reid, a single 29-year-old, has recruited a minister, wedding planners and dress designers to unite ten couples on September 29 (timed to coincide with the release of her book Marry Your Baby Daddy) and has even gotten local businesses to foot the bill.

"Many couples with children want to get married but don't because of the enormous expense involved," she says. Skeptics might point out that a City Hall wedding costs less than a touch-up at the salon. And some activists caution against promoting marriage in a vacuum. Joe Jones, president of Baltimore's Center for Fathers, Families and Workforce Development, says we should support marriage, "but at the same time, we as a society need to make sure that families, particularly low-income ones, have access to the necessary social support they'll need to make it work."


Who's going to foot the bill when five or six (based on statistics) of the couples participating in this fad wedding get divorced?

Joe Jones hit the nail on the head. I'm guessing Maryann Reid didn't recruit counselors and/or psychiatrists to help these ten couples on September 30th and beyond.

Maybe she's already laying the groundwork for her next book.
i gotta say, arranged marraige is looking pretty sweet right about now. . .more of us would be married younger, with less need to fornicate and get pregnant by somebody you had a one night stand or short lived relationship with. . .it's harder to expect abstinance from our young folk when they can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. . . .
I love this, I have a federal trial for a few weeks and boom we are back to the topic of marriage amid our people. Now it is Marry Your Baby Daddy? I think RadioRaheem stated it correctly, polygamy on everyside. I wonder why the author did not write Marry Your Baby Momma? What a hoot! laugh
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Originally posted by Surfingnymph:
I love this, I have a federal trial for a few weeks and boom we are back to the topic of marriage amid our people.


SN....you're not thinking you can pop in and not tell us what the court case was about huh? Big Grin Confused Do tell!
General interstate traffic stuff nothing glamourous like a Class Action or Product Liability. Stuff that falls under the commerce clause, pretty boring, but it pays the bills.
I don't understand how we can take issue with unmarried parents and with the same mouth tear people down for marrying the father of their child/children. Confused

I think it's great. I think it's important. I think it is a jump off point for repairing the Black family unit. These women and men are willing to take that first step and make a commitment to each other before man and God, to at least give it a shot and try to make it as a family. That's beautiful! And it should be encouraged. These Black brothers and sisters haven't even hit the wedding day yet and we are already talking about the divorce.
Looks like the weddings went off without a hitch!

Ten couples say ``I do'' in Brooklyn on ``Marry Your Baby Daddy Day''

A few details from the ceremony:

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Soul music opened the wedding, with the grooms dancing down the aisle in alternating black and white tuxedoes to roars of laughter and applause from friends and family.

Then the couples' children came in, the boys wearing miniature versions of their fathers' tuxedoes, and the girls wearing princess dresses.

As the resplendent brides made their entrance, camera bulbs lit up the room and mothers, brides, and even some grooms waiting at the altar began to cry.


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The Rev. Herbert Daughtry married the couples, taking each bride and groom through the vows. He put off the much-anticipated, "You may now kiss the bride," until the very end, although Clayton Morgan couldn't wait and kissed Tanisha Forbes at the altar without permission.

The ceremony ended with the couples taking turns jumping over a broom, a tradition at many black marriages that symbolizes the beginning of a new life together.
Family photo of each couple and their children:


Kenny and Tanya


Patrick and Raquel


Greg and Keryn


Ahmeid and India


Dennis and Melissa


Orville and Nancy


Gordon and Lakeyma


Derek and Shakeisha


Gary and Mellicent


Clayton and Tanisha

Some of these are blended families (they include kids from prior relationships).

CONGRATS!!!! tfro eyes
All I can say, is I really hope these marriages work out. There is something about me that DESPISES the terms "baby daddy" and
"baby mama", to me they infer that the relationshp consists of nothing more than the fact that the other person helped create a child. As if no more respect or acknowledgement is needed. Maybe it's just me... But at least these people can now say that they're much more than just a baby mama or baby daddy and are actually a husband or wife.
I generally reject the marrying to marry idea. I was thinking whether they are going to pay for the counseling and five divorces later.

I was expecting ten younger families, but those couples look set.

I'm stereotyping based on the ages of the families, but they look a lot like those couples we all know who have been boyfriend/girlfriend forever.

That type people who say that they might get married next year and then a decade or more passes by.

That changes my opinion on the matter.

The name is tacky, but the concept is cute.

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