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Second Graders Caught Engaging in Oral Sex in Class with Teacher Present

By Boyce Watkins, PhD on Jan 21st 2011 6:44PM


Two second-graders in an Oakland elementary school shocked the country when they were disciplined for performing oral sex on each other in class with a teacher present. The teacher has been placed on administrative leave during the investigation. Reportedly, some children had taken their clothes off in a separate incident as well.

The events took place at Markham Elementary school, but came to the principal's attention just this week when one of the students told a staff member about the events. Oakland school district spokesman Troy Flint said that the teacher was unaware of the incident.


"We believe the substance of the story is true," said Flint.

Counselors have been brought to the school to help the children to understand what happened and how to deal with their sexual curiosities. Flint admitted that the school district is embarrassed.

"We are striving to create schools as safe havens where students can feel secure and trust in adult guidance," Flint said. "Obviously, that trust was violated in this incident, which was unacceptable. We're going to get to the bottom of this and make sure there's no recurrence. "

Just when you think you've seen everything, something like this happens. I am not quite sure what to say, other than what everyone reading this article is already thinking. Clearly, the teacher in the classroom is the first line of accountability in this terrible incident. After that, the school district, the city of Oakland and the school itself may be open to significant legal liability. I would be personally outraged as a parent if this kind of thing went on in front of my child, and I'm sure the parents in Oakland feel the same way.

There is then the broader question of where second graders are learning about things like oral sex. I knew nothing about this sort of thing when I was seven years old. I don't even think I knew anything about regular sex, where babies came from, or that there was no Santa Clause. One of the saddest things about this incident is that the innocence of our youth is something we should be allowed to have for at least a little while. One has to wonder what images the children are seeing on television, at home or with their friends that lead to this kind of behavior. Also, when you see hip hop artists like Lil Wayne rapping about having sex with every girl in the world, you quickly learn that the culprit is probably as close as your nearest electronic device. This incident should never have happened and we all need to be more critical about the music and television shows presented to our kids.

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This is shocking.  I do believe that the teacher dropped to ball; how could you not know that each child is doing in your classroom?  At least long enough for something like this to occur.  The parents share some of the blame as well because these children had see this some where, either their own parents or something on t.v.  Parents should make sure that their children can't even access certain t.v. channels and movie channels or view raunchy rap/music videos.  Parents need to realize and accept the fact that each generation knows, processes and understands far more than the previous one, and that we live in a world now where our children can be exposed to anything if we are not careful and diligently monitoring what they are doing, and being sure of who our children are around.  
Even if you do all these things for your child, another parent may not, so your child could very well see or be shown things you don't approve of at a friend's house.  I will say one thing for these kids' innocence, and that is the fact that they even engaged in such an act right there in a classroom where everyone could see them, let you know that they probably didn't even know that what they were doing was wrong. 

America is loosing so many battles.
Sista Sunnubian wrote: The parents share some of the blame as well because these childrenh had see this some where, either their own parents or something on t.v.  Parents should make sure that their children can't even access certain t.v. channels and movie channels or view raunchy rap/music videos.  

Yep!  Exactly....my sista.  This  type of incident happened to a couple of colleagues of mine who were very shocked that children that young were modeling the behavior of something they apparently "SAW."  One was sumthing they watched on televison in the presence of other adults who didn't feel the NEED to restrict that type of observation.  And the other happened when another student came to school to teach her school mates what she saw on a music video.  Each time adults/parents were present and didn't feel the need to monitor in both cases.  And the children were sent home with a request for a parent conference.  That's when they flipped!  But at the same time wouldn't accept blame or responsibility.  These new parents. OMG!  I know it's an impossible request....but I'm gonna say it anyway...DON'T HAVE CHILDREN IF YOU DON'T HAVE TIME TO BE A PARENT!

Parents need to realize and accept the fact that each generation knows, processes and understands far more than the previous one, and that we live in a world now where our children can be exposed to anything if we are not careful and diligently monitoring what they are doing, and being sure of who our children are around.  

True dat...my sista.  And some of these parents drop their kids off....without even getting outta the car....leaving their children to the unsupervised woes of who they think are responsible adults/teachers.  Not!  What gets me is they i.e. parents sometimes have the NERVE to put their hands on their hips and TRY to bully teachers/adminstrators...when they KNOW got damn well...they're not RAISING their children RIGHT.  So it's double edge sword.  Cuz another thang while I'm talking about it....this is off topic but still applies.....KIDS will LIE too.  Let's not forget that-which causes another set of problems.  But getting back on point.  I agree parents have to become a little more mature and aggressive about what their children are doing WITH and without them.  Otherwise, we will see more little girls/boys trying to "play" grown up roles.  Cuz they really THINK it's play..and apparently there is NO adult in their little lives to tell them different.  And yes this is another battle America continues to lose...each generation at a time...but!
I disagree. There isn't that much rap music in the world that would put the idea of oral sex in a child's mind. Oh no... for some child to perform oral sex on another child they would have to believe that it is normal behavior. This type of open behavior hits much more close to home rather than the television. This is something that has either happened to the child(ren) or something that they have been exposed to through copying the behavior of someone close to them. There needs to be an investigation of the family situation.
Sista Yemaya wrote: 
I disagree. There isn't that much rap music in the world that would put the idea of oral sex in a child's mind. Oh no... for some child to perform oral sex on another child they would have to believe that it is normal behavior.

  My sista have you SEEN some of these [rap] videos?  OMG!  Many of 'em are short of a porn clip.....and!  That's the thing some children[that young] aren't able to distinguish between-what is fiction and what is real life.  And as children do, they model what they deemed is normal behavior....even if it is not.  One of the children in the same situation told my colleague that she SAW a "scene" with two women on television[cable] and thought it was okay to share what she saw to two of her classmates.  She didn't KNOW it was WRONG.  The adults in her life didn't EXPLAIN it to her.  Despite popular belief, young children do experience some type of sexual stimulation when they are exposed to something that triggers the physical untapped human desire. And that is why when some children are molested and feel guilty that the touching felt good to them...therapists tell them that that's a normal response.  So when parents/adults are NOT there to monitor what their children are exposed to, misinformation about what is seen can be "innocently" misinterpreted.

This type of open behavior hits much more close to home rather than the television. This is something that has either happened to the child(ren) or something that they have been exposed to through copying the behavior of someone close to them.

Exactly!

There needs to be an investigation of the family situation.

There can be many dynamics in this situation:  young parents, uniformed parents, immature parents, irresponsible parents....and parents who just don't care what their children do or see.  I project there will be many more incidents like this in the future...but!  I'm just sayin

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