Quote by sunnubian: ""As you know, transitions are not easy. I'd love to get your advice on how you've handled transitions in your own life," she said in a video posted on YouTube."

"It's so stressful to not know what you're doing next. People ask you what are you doing and then they can't believe that you don't know what you're doing," she said."

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IMO, this marriage was never about love.

It was more of a high profile, high visibility professional/political relationship that a lovng relationship that lasted 25 years complete with children and now that Arnold's total career has run it's course, it's time for him to move on and leave her behind.

Since Arnold's days as a 7 time Mr. Olympia championship bodybuilder, he has been widely known throughout those circles as a crafty user and opportunist; a cunning and conniving person who wants to win at any cost and did not hesitiate to take full advantage of another's weakness and their good will towards him and manulipate people in order to get what he wanted without any remorse and with a upcoming spilt with the high probability of possible divorce in the near future, I feel that he knowingly (his most inner thoughts not being revealed to her) used her since he said publically that 'he wanted to marry a Kennedy"...An unkonwn non-revealing intenion In order to raise his poitical profile and allow her Kennedy legacy, bloodline and pedigree to bolster his credibility and ambitions in becoming the governor of California. Without her and her vast political background and experience, he would have never been taken seriously as an actor who wanted to become a candidate and eventually the Governor of California.

And not letting her off the hook, he also raised her celebrity profile also and besides being a Kennedy and being a somewhat of a nationally known journalist working for NBC to that of the wife of a movie mega superstar and now two term ex-Governor.

Arnold Schwarzenegger: Champion bodybuilder, Movie superstar, Two term Governor and now back to the big screen.....Now Arnold, what about your wife Maria and all the sacrifices over those 25 years that she made for you?

Arnold no longer has (in his mind) a reasonable or justifiable use for Maria Shriver and now at this point with the kids now grown or close to adulthood), he's looking elsewhere. She cashed in all her chips supporting Arnold and now that he has fulfilled all his dreams, needs and long term agenda, he's not that overly concerned now about fulfilling whatever her future aspirations are since he wants a divorce....Even if her aspirations are to, as a base foundation, to continue to be a complete loving family unit, take care of each other, the kids and grow old together...Which is more valuable than fame & multi-millions...He doesn't want that. 

He got what he wanted and needed from her.

He is a Republican, she is a Democrat and she gave up her career for him (just like a lot of White women who want to live the fantasy dream of needing and wanting to be totally taken care of) and now since he's finished with her she's somewhat lost searching for answers and is a bit on the senior side to fully restart her once flourishing journalistic TV career.

Also, just waitng to see who the younger and potentially new "Mrs. Arnold Schwarzenegger" is.

They always did strike me as a real-life "odd couple" ... and I was never sure how (or why) that relationship was working for as long as it did.

Hopefully Maria will take advantage of this opportunity to lose the 'dead weight' of her husband - and the negative reputation he has as the prime destroyer of the state of California (which, as a Republican, should have been expected but star-struck voters wanting "The Terminator" for a Governor willingly gave him the bazooka that ultimately blew them away!!  ).

I wish her luck.  She's gonna need it.

Arnold Schwarzenegger Admits He Fathered Child Out of Wedlock with long time household staffer.

The marital split of former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger and broadcast journalist Maria Shriver took a shocking new twist Tuesday with a Los Angeles Times report that the couple separated after Shriver was informed that her husband and a longtime female member of their household staff had a child together more than ten years ago.

According to the Times, the 25-year marriage hit the rocks earlier this year, when Shriver moved out of the couple's Brentwood mansion after Schwarzenegger confirmed the paternity. The employee had retired in January after 20 years with the family, says the paper.

In a statement to the newspaper, Schwarzenegger, 63, said Monday: "After leaving the governor's office I told my wife about this event, which occurred over a decade ago. I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family.

"There are no excuses and I take full responsibility for the hurt I have caused. I have apologized to Maria, my children and my family. I am truly sorry."

He added: "I ask that the media respect my wife and children through this extremely difficult time," the statement concluded. "While I deserve your attention and criticism, my family does not. "

Schwarzenegger also said he financially provided for the child. Shriver's spokesman told PEOPLE the former first lady, 55, had no comment. Schwarzenegger and Shriver have four children together.

Last week with the invite to Common to the Whitehouse a bunch of these boobs, dorks and idiots with selective memory said the current administration was "lowering the standards". Lets see how quick they come to the defense of this former steriod user and womanizer!!!

Say whaaaaattttt???? 

Mannnnnn ... Maria ought to be kickin' ass and takin' names, right about now!! 

And the poor little child in question ....   He or she has a poor excuse for both a mother AND a father!! 

I heard that bomb explode this morning as I was getting out of the shower.  Well, I guess some female gave birth to her a meal ticket for the next 18-26 years.  Wow. But evidently Maria doesn't play that sh!t, because it looks as if she booked as soon as she knew about it.  Man, I thought they were a perfect couple, love Maria and Arnold was one of the few republicans I actually did like. 

  Once a MANWHORE...always a MANWHORE!!! What?!!  Did Maria actually THINK she could CHANGE him....a womanizer?  He USED her for his own political aspiration.  I WOULD be sooooooo pissed at him. I would NEVER ever allow him to speak to ME again, if I were her.  Bottom line.  It is sooooo hard trusting a man with that kind of baggage.  It really is.  So we have to give Maria kudos for trying.  And he was such a DOG!!! Having an affair under her nose.  That's like pooping where you eat!  No class...no dignity....just a selfish ego-driven prick.  He didn't think about HIS wife, HIS children...just his penis.  Some men NEVER grow up.  They continue to THINK it's all about SEX...it's all about if they can get a hard when it's not.   Now he has destroyed his family....and his children will NEVER believe a damn thang he says...they probably will NEVER respect him again.  Cuz why?  He did it in the home they grew up in!  What a bastard...but!  I'm just sayin 

Just think about this ish for a minute.......

He fathered the kid over 10 years ago with a household staffer.

He lied to his wife by not telling her about it at the time.

The staffer has the gall and continues to work in the home for 10 long years.

The Terminator and his baby mama lied to his wife for 10+ years while living and working (respectively) in the house with the whole family there.

It's one thing to do it, and come clean right away (still doesn't make it right). But, then to live a lie like this to your wife for 10 years right in her own home with their kids?

Maria probably had many in-depth, personal consoling discussions (with and without Arnold present) with her about her pregnancy and helped her while she was pregeant for nine months (and she never "officially" introduced the "SO-CALLED" father she constantly lied about). Probably was there in the hospital when the baby was born, held the baby, cherished the baby, cared for the baby, bought baby clothes and toys, was there in the church when the baby was baptized, probably threw a retirement party for her when she left her job, baby grew up with her own kids playing, slumber parties, birthday parties etc... And those two lying bitches just stood there......

And this heifer did not even have the decency to quit her job as the household staffer while she was pregeant and even after she had the baby.

And what about the child when he or she asked mom "where is daddy or who is my daddy?" Did she tell him or her at some point and sworn him or her to secrecy or not.

He secretly provides financial support to his kid for 10 years. Doesn't tell his wife. While doing all this lying, he decides to run for Governor of California. I guess he felt pretty comfortable that he could keep it all secret and continue lying to his wife, his family and a lot of others through his campaign, elections and his terms as Governor.

That's a calculating, selfish black hearted and and cold blooded son-of-a-bitch who could care less about Maria and only married and used her for the Kennedy name, her political acumen and professional contacts in order to further his career political goals since without her background, her support and undying love for him, no one would have taken him seriously as a candidate for Governor....Also, complete with the birth of several kids in order to "paint that perfect picture of stability"

In addition, Maria lost both of her parents last year causing unbearable pain and now add this on top of it? 

Ten years later, after leaving office for one year, he comes clean? Something had to cause him to fess up. Maybe the baby mama who retired after 20 years threatened him or finally spilled the beans to a reporter forcing the Terminator to finally come clean to his wife and family after 10 years of lying.

Seems that the lying for 10 years is worse than the rest. What must have been going through his mind (and the staffer's mind) each time he was home and both his wife and the household staffer was there in the same room or while he was alone with the staffer?

He and the staffer probably didn't and still don't give a fuck.

Just how many sexual trists did they have in that house (and else where) over the ten year period and currently does the sexual relationship between asshole and the staffer continues to do so? 

.......OR........

Maybe Maria found out from Arnold when the staffer was deemed pregeant or when she had the baby and kept quiet as his private wife and public ex-First Lady of California because she's a Kennedy and throughout her family's male lineage in politics, there have been several political womenizing hound dogs with secrets (publically open and closed) throughout the decades that her female relatives probably had to bite the bullet and suffer with years of lies, deception and infidelity for the sake of the bigger picture: the Kennedy name....And they probably taught her to do the exact same. 

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Mildred 'Patty' Baena, 50, identified as mother of Arnold Schwarzenegger's love child: reports.

The mother of Arnold Schwarzenegger's mystery love child was identified late Tuesday as 50-year-old housekeeper Mildred "Patty" Baena.

Multiple outlets including TMZ.com and Radaronline.com identified the woman citing anonymous sources.

Baena described herself as a "proud parent" with a body type that included "some extra baggage" in a MySpace.com profile that included photos of her with a young boy.

The boy, now 14 years old, bears more than a passing resemblance to the "Terminator" actor, with an eerily similar gap-toothed grin and flowing sandy blond curls like Schwarzenegger's "Conan" character.

Baena, who bought a new four-bedroom house with a pool about two hours north of Los Angeles last year, filed for divorce from her husband in February 2008, court records show.

The longtime employee struck up a sexual relationship with Schwarzenegger in the late 1990s and didn't tell the actor he was the father until the boy was a toddler, TMZ reported.

At the time that Baena was pregeant, Maria was also pregeant with their youngest child.

"This is a painful and heartbreaking time," Maria Shriver said in a brief statement issued after Schwarzenegger admitted siring a child out of wedlock.

"As a mother, my concern is for the children," she said. "I ask for compassion, respect and privacy as my children and I try to rebuild our lives and heal."

Two of the couple's four children took to Twitter.

"This is definitely not easy but I appreciate your love and support as i begin to heal and move forward in life. I will always love my family," wrote eldest child Kristina Schwarzenegger, 21.

Her brother Patrick then quoted music lyrics saying "some days you feel like s--t, some days you want to quit and just be normal for a bit."

Schwarzenegger revealed the bombshell betrayal in a statement made first to the Los Angeles Times.

"After leaving the governor's office I told my wife about this event, which occurred over a decade ago," he said. "I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family. There are no excuses and I take full responsibility for the hurt I have caused. I have apologized to Maria, my children and my family. I am truly sorry."

According to the Times, the woman retired from the family's household staff in January on good terms with a severance package.

"I don't think Maria suspected it. This was obviously a trusted person in her life, someone who stuck around for a decade after this event," Kennedy expert Laurence Leamer, author of the Schwarzenegger biography "Fantastic," told the Daily News.

"What's appalling is that Arnold apparently did this in the house. It's really a double betrayal for Maria. It's just creepy," he said.

The former Mr. Universe, now trying to stage a Hollywood comeback, battled accusations of sexual misconduct during his initial run for the California governor's office, and his crude sexual advances have been an open secret in Hollywood for decades.

Shriver, 55, stood by Schwarzenegger and vouched for his integrity, all but sealing his election victory.

After admission of his infidelity, a 2003 story in the London Daily Mail that claimed Schwarzenegger fathered a son with his personal flight attendant Tammy Tousignant quickly resurfaced.

"It's not his child," a legal source close to the Tousignant family told the News.

The source confirmed "scientific tests" disproved Schwarzenegger's paternity years ago.

Shriver moved out of the family's Brentwood mansion weeks ago and reportedly met with a financial advisor to prepare for a possible divorce filing, TMZ reported.

http://www.nydailynews.com/gos...html?r=news/politics

Please explain how this is an issue directly affecting black America? Thanks.

  This is just proof to me that MASSA will always LIE LIE  LIE!  And its continuous.  From the beginning to NOW! So...when a white politican with this kinda history runs for office says" who are gonna believe me?  Or your lying eyes?"  I'm gonna believe my lying eyes! But....I'm just sayin  

It doesn't affect Black America directly, but hey, Maria is a Kennedy and Black America has followed the Kennedys since JFK and don't feel too kindly about those that hurt them, considering all they did and sacrificed for Black people in this country, and all they have done or tried to do for the greater good of ALL people in America in general.  

Side Note:

It never ceases to amaze me how weak some men are when it comes to sex.  You would think that in this age of medical advancement that men have money, clout and power (EVERYTHING to lose) at stake would not ony use a condom, but would also have their sperm frozen, get a vasectomy. 

Brotha Cholly wrote: 

Maria probably had many in-depth, personal consoling discussions (with and without Arnold present) with her about her pregnancy and helped her while she was pregeant for nine months (and she never "officially" introduced the "SO-CALLED" father she constantly lied about). Probably was there in the hospital when the baby was born, held the baby, cherished the baby, cared for the baby, bought baby clothes and toys, was there in the church when the baby was baptized, probably threw a retirement party for her when she left her job, baby grew up with her own kids playing, slumber parties, birthday parties etc... And those two lying bitches just stood there......

  You are a SMART man....Brotha Cholly!  I think that's exactly how it happened.  And let's not forget old Arnold is an ACTOR.  So he was playing both his wife and mistress...but!  I do think the maid came on to him first.  Yet just like SOME men who can't seem to turn coochie down...Arnold couldn't.  Cuz why?  It's a man thang.  Like sista Sunnubian said with all this modern medical stuff going on.....you think Arnold would PUT a condom on. You think he WOULD protect his wife....especially if hefer had a transferable disease.  But he didn't.  They were both pregnant at the SAME time for chrissake! I know his EGO was way up there.  In terms of having his mistress under the same roof.  But!  To be fair....Arnold did have a bad history with women...Maria chose to ignore it to her dismay.  I just feel sooooo sorry for the children...including the love child. Now they are saying Arnold bought her that house in San Bernardino Polo Retirement track.  She was probably blackmailing him then!  And her ex-husband?  She probably was paying him off to keep quiet.  Cuz the minute she had that baby...he knew the baby wasn't his and booked soonafter.  So I think both ex-hubby and mistress got paid big time....but!  I'm just sayin