Originally Posted by Yemaya:
A while back, a few years ago, I broke down the reasons why our young people wear their pants sagging down. The reason I gave was that grown folks didn't have enough sense to instill ritual and tradition in our children.Sooo you can blame this kid and say he should be grown up, BUT fact of the matter is while we as grown people point the finger at this boy FIVE are pointing back at us for not doing what we as grown folks should be doing.
Just reminding y'all. . . ;-)
I don't think many of us here have ever shirked our responsibility for dropping the ball when it came to 'putting our foot down' - or better yet, the lack thereof - when it comes to the madness (and I mean that literally) that is our current younger generations ... the last 2 at least!! 
And it's even harder for some of us to forget ... due to the fact that many grandparents today have the responsibility of raising not only their own (adult), (teen and young adult) grandchildren, and even their children in cases where the parents either can't or aren't even around to raise them themselves.
In defense of my own generation - which is personally where I think the downhill spiral started - it was really hard (actually impossible) at that time to (1) stop your teen-aged daughter from wanting to trap the 'boyfriend of the month' and getting pregnant with his child only to end up as an immature, uneducated, emotionally-underdeveloped, high-school dropout single mother with adult problems tht they were not able to handle in 'adult' ways ... or (2) to stop your teen-aged son from screwing everything that might walk in a skirt and ending up as an immature, uneducated, emotionally-underdeveloped, high-school dropout single father with the emotional and intellectual inability to be a man in a still 'teen' body and accept the responsibility of the "life" he created.
That particular situation made it VERY HARD for the "grown folks" to "instill ritual and tradition" (along with manners, common courtesy, home-training, an education, maturity .. and everything else that comes with a 'normal" growth process of rearing your child into adulthood, when the "younguns" were not only professing to be old enough to handle adult responsibilities ... (like being a PARENT to an even younger human being), but actually acting the part by actually (and often failing at) BEING a parent (and a responsible adult) in handling the responsibilities that come with that.
That, IMO, was the beginning of the end!! But ... be that as it may ... I think every generation since mine has let the generation below it down. And, to be honest, I think you're about the ONLY person in your generation that I've EVER heard be willing to cop to any type of shortcomings where the youth (or themselves) are concerned!! A lot of people your age absolutely REFUSE to even acknowledge a problem ("there's nothing wrong with us!!") ... let alone say that even a part of the failure lies with them ("It's the White man, the government, the CIA, the older people, slavery, Willie Lynch, 'nobody understands us'", yada, yada, yada) ... or a whole host of other excuses as to why THEY should not be blamed for anything!!
But I say give (or take) the credit where the credit is due!! And I believe there's plenty of it to pass around.
I do have to admit, it's kinda funny though ... that whenever Bill Cosby says 'what's wrong with our children is our OWN fault" ... everybody wants to crucify him!! Yet you can say what is essentially the same thing, "we need to acknowledge that we are to blame for what's wrong with our kids today" ... but somehow, it's different?? 
But ... since you're a "solutions" girl ... let's talk solutions!!! 
Now, this boy's first like of defense should be/should have been his momma, daddy, grandma or pa, an uncle, aunt ... some type of relative that should have 'taught' him better. And, the fact of the matter is, it's QUITE possible that there was/is somebody who did just that!! He got to college for goodness sakes!! So somebody had to have done something right for him!! Right?? But still ... he's did 'his own thing'. As most young people these days do. So it really doesn't matter how much home-training he may have gotten.
But ... for others who have been 'out there' on their own with no adult/parental guidance since they were born and are falling deeper into the abyss? If their family isn't capable of helping to save them ... then who do you suppose should??