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Originally posted by EbonyRose:
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Originally posted by Kweli4Real:
I never understood why the newbies/beginners/unskaters had to be in the middle ... how the heck were we supposed to get to the middle? Mad


19 Well now ... that IS one of the great mysteries of life ... isn't it?? 19

'Cause hell if I know! laugh


That is a good question... Cuz in Ice skating rinks the rules are reversed... 19

P.S. ER,

I used to love going to World on Wheels! This is a very strange coincidence. I also broke my leg when a really big tall woman fell on me. How weird is that? ... My injury was long before the riots though... BTW I used to skate there alot during that time period. We may have been in there at the same time sometimes. Small world.
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Originally posted by Oshun Auset:
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Originally posted by EbonyRose:
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Originally posted by Kweli4Real:
I never understood why the newbies/beginners/unskaters had to be in the middle ... how the heck were we supposed to get to the middle? Mad


19 Well now ... that IS one of the great mysteries of life ... isn't it?? 19

'Cause hell if I know! laugh


That is a good question... Cuz in Ice skating rinks the rules are reversed... 19

P.S. ER,

I used to love going to World on Wheels! This is a very strange coincidence. I also broke my leg when a really big tall woman fell on me. How weird is that? ... My injury was long before the riots though... BTW I used to skate there alot during that time period. We may have been in there at the same time sometimes. Small world.


Get outta here! Eek Eek That IS a weird coincidence for real! 19

It's hard to remember exactly when I started skating there ... 'cause I had been skating in front of the Sports Arena on Sundays for years before I finally let them talk me into going indoors into the rink! But I'ma say by 1992 I had been skating for at least 2 years ... every Tuesday and Thursday (adult night) without fail! Big Grin

So, if you were there on those days during that time, then yeah ... our paths more than likely did cross at one time or the other!

And yeah ... I tried ice skating, too (long before that) at the rink in Culver City!! It didn't last long, though ... too cold and not enough Black people! Big Grin
Some people are plain USERS and act surprised when you finally call them on their BS.

I give folk enough rope to hang themselves then, I'm done.

At that point, I am just as loyal & steadfast in eliminating them from my life as I was in being their friend.

And they act surprised; took kindness for weakness.....

sorry but that's YOUR bad...next time pay attention to what & who you're dealing with. Wink
OK. First, let me say, I LOVE my daughter with all my heart, she's a sweet child and I feel blessed every time I look at her.

But she is in no way PERFECT....and I know this.

Recently, by omission, she lied to me.

Yep, she totally misrepresented a situation. Eek

I couldn't believe it, she has never (to my knowledge) lied to me before. I understand that she's getting older and losing some of that child-like innocence but I was shocked nonetheless. "How could you lie to me like that?" I asked.

"I didn't lie Mommy, I just didn't tell you the whole story."

The 'whole' story, huh?

Hmmmmmmm.... Confused

anyway,

I thought about all the ways I could punish her and finally settled on what I felt would be most effective.

And so...

when she asked if she could go skating with her friends (over the weekend), I responded (smiling) "sure you can."

I then waited until she was dressed & ready to leave to begin preparing our dinner.

"Mom, I'm ready to go."

"Are you?"

"Yes, do you want me to get your car keys?"

"Nope."

"Aren't you taking me to the skating rink."

"Nope, you can't go."

"But you said I could."

"I know. I lied."

"Why would you do that Mom?" she was starting to whine right about now, "you said I could go."

"I know but 'now' I'm saying you can't go. I misrepresented my intentions. Now you know how it feels to be LIED to. Yes, I said you could go but I lied, you can't go."

tears filled her eyes but I was unmoved.

po thang.

I continued....

"NOW you know how *I* felt when YOU lied to me. doesn't feel too good does it?"

She walked away with her head held down.

One day she will understand.

The end.
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Originally posted by Fabulous:
OK. First, let me say, I LOVE my daughter with all my heart, she's a sweet child and I feel blessed every time I look at her.

But she is in no way PERFECT....and I know this.

Recently, by omission, she lied to me.

Yep, she totally misrepresented a situation. Eek

I couldn't believe it, she has never (to my knowledge) lied to me before. I understand that she's getting older and losing some of that child-like innocence but I was shocked nonetheless. "How could you lie to me like that?" I asked.

"I didn't lie Mommy, I just didn't tell you the whole story."

The 'whole' story, huh?

Hmmmmmmm.... Confused

anyway,

I thought about all the ways I could punish her and finally settled on what I felt would be most effective.

And so...

when she asked if she could go skating with her friends (over the weekend), I responded (smiling) "sure you can."

I then waited until she was dressed & ready to leave to begin preparing our dinner.

"Mom, I'm ready to go."

"Are you?"

"Yes, do you want me to get your car keys?"

"Nope."

"Aren't you taking me to the skating rink."

"Nope, you can't go."

"But you said I could."

"I know. I lied."

"Why would you do that Mom?" she was starting to whine right about now, "you said I could go."

"I know but 'now' I'm saying you can't go. I misrepresented my intentions. Now you know how it feels to be LIED to. Yes, I said you could go but I lied, you can't go."

tears filled her eyes but I was unmoved.

po thang.

I continued....

"NOW you know how *I* felt when YOU lied to me. doesn't feel too good does it?"

She walked away with her head held down.

One day she will understand.

The end.


Ahhh, teenage children ... My personal favorite is when they cut their eyes and suck their teeth and when they get called on it, respond with that "What did I do?" thing.

Fab ... you have to laugh at some of their stuff ... they act like it's all brand new. lol

The first time my daughter told that lie of ommission, I did something similar ... I told her that she could go over her cousin's house, waited for her to get ready and then told her that we were not going that day, we'd go another day ... "I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you the whole story."

Yep ... she cried; but to this day she knows that a lie of ommission is a lie never-the-less.

But Fab ... lace up your boots because the lie of commission is coming next. And mark my words, it's gonna be a lie for no damned reason, about something that just doesn't matter.
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Ahhh, teenage children ... My personal favorite is when they cut their eyes and suck their teeth and when they get called on it, respond with that "What did I do?" thing.

Fab ... you have to laugh at some of their stuff ... they act like it's all brand new.

The first time my daughter told that lie of ommission, I did something similar ... I told her that she could go over her cousin's house, waited for her to get ready and then told her that we were not going that day, we'd go another day ... "I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you the whole story."

Yep ... she cried; but to this day she knows that a lie of ommission is a lie never-the-less.

But Fab ... lace up your boots because the lie of commission is coming next. And mark my words, it's gonna be a lie for no damned reason, about something that just doesn't matter.


But ... but ... she's my baby. 7

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. lol

I felt sucker-punched when I found out she had lied to me (& that's exactly what it was...a lie).

Honestly, I don't know that I'm ready for all that 7 I keep wondering what happened to the sweet little girl who practically worshipped the ground I walked on. Seems she has been replaced by a little sista (my same size) who gives me the eye roll. Roll Eyes

I used to be 'cool'...now I'm old fashion. Eek

Oh, well, bring it!

Cause my mama didn't raise no fool. Smile

btw...thank you for sharing your story (we both handled the situation pretty much the same way tfro )...there are those who felt I was being too harsh but in my heart....I know I'm doing the right thing. She's gotta learn and as a parent...I've gotta teach her.
One of the ladies in the department I work in has been having some health issues lately. Today she was trying to get in touch with her Dr. and she finally did. The latest news.....she has sickle cell trait.

Now she is a white lady and she was relaying the news to another co-worker when she asked "I wonder how that happened?"

I wanted so badly to say, maybe you have some traces of black blood or maybe someone in your tree was sneaking out back in the day. lol
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Now that my daughter is in the dog house (sorta speak) she has to read a book of 'my' choosing and write a book report. I've decided on 'Letter to My Daughter' by Maya Angelou....a series of short stories and poems.

"I gave birth to one child, a son, but I have thousands of daughters. You are Black and White, Jewish and Muslim, Asian, Spanish-speaking, Native American and Aleut. You are fat and thin and pretty and plain, gay and straight, educated and unlettered, and I am speaking to you all. Here is my offering to you."
---from Letter to My Daughter
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Originally posted by ocatchings:
One of the ladies in the department I work in has been having some health issues lately. Today she was trying to get in touch with her Dr. and she finally did. The latest news.....she has sickle cell trait.

Now she is a white lady and she was relaying the news to another co-worker when she asked "I wonder how that happened?"

I wanted so badly to say, maybe you have some traces of black blood or maybe someone in your tree was sneaking out back in the day. lol
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Actually, sickle-cell trait isn't exclusive to Black folks. It's a trait that arises wherever malaria is endemic. It occurs among mediterranean peoples such as Greeks and Italians.
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Originally posted by Malik:
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Originally posted by ocatchings:
One of the ladies in the department I work in has been having some health issues lately. Today she was trying to get in touch with her Dr. and she finally did. The latest news.....she has sickle cell trait.

Now she is a white lady and she was relaying the news to another co-worker when she asked "I wonder how that happened?"

I wanted so badly to say, maybe you have some traces of black blood or maybe someone in your tree was sneaking out back in the day. lol
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Actually, sickle-cell trait isn't exclusive to Black folks. It's a trait that arises wherever malaria is endemic. It occurs among mediterranean peoples such as Greeks and Italians.


Thanks. I knew that but try explaining that to whites.
I invited my mother on a trip to Paris for the summer and she said, no. She doesn't like planes. She doesn't like flying. She doesn't trust the pilot or anyone else...

'Only' in an emergency would she get on a plane, she said.

I would LOVE to go to Paris with my mother *sigh* but it is not to be...

oh, well, maybe in the next life. Frown
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Originally posted by Fabulous:
I invited my mother on a trip to Paris for the summer and she said, no. She doesn't like planes. She doesn't like flying. She doesn't trust the pilot or anyone else...

'Only' in an emergency would she get on a plane, she said.

I would LOVE to go to Paris with my mother *sigh* but it is not to be...

oh, well, maybe in the next life. Frown


I will pretend to be your Mom if you wanna take me instead!! Big Grin
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Originally posted by EbonyRose:
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Originally posted by Fabulous:
I invited my mother on a trip to Paris for the summer and she said, no. She doesn't like planes. She doesn't like flying. She doesn't trust the pilot or anyone else...

'Only' in an emergency would she get on a plane, she said.

I would LOVE to go to Paris with my mother *sigh* but it is not to be...

oh, well, maybe in the next life. Frown


I will pretend to be your Mom if you wanna take me instead!! Big Grin


I'd love the company, but, EbonyRose, you are way too young to even pretend. Wink
I’m kind of bummed out because one of the cleaning & maintenance guys in the office building I work in died suddenly over the weekend. He was the coolest guy – always friendly, always joking (and not afraid to be off-color about it either, which is cool with me), and just a great guy to see around. It looks like he had a heart attack.

All that life he expressed, all the time, and then he just dropped dead. You really just never know. I know his family must be devastated. Frown
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Originally posted by Vox:
I’m kind of bummed out because one of the cleaning & maintenance guys in the office building I work in died suddenly over the weekend. He was the coolest guy – always friendly, always joking (and not afraid to be off-color about it either, which is cool with me), and just a great guy to see around. It looks like he had a heart attack.

All that life he expressed, all the time, and then he just dropped dead. You really just never know. I know his family must be devastated. Frown


Awwwwwww ..... hug

May he rest in peace. Smile
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Originally posted by ocatchings:
I like spicy mustard on my burgers!
I even perfer spicy mustard on my hotdog or smoked sausage!

I even like to add spicy mustard to my potato sald, devil eggs or other salads as it brings out a better taste!

If the press is making this much ooy of nothing, then I must really be a bad person.
sad

And Ketchup is not even in the mix. tfro

=> VOX,

Makes you want to do all you can, right now ... doesn't it?
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Originally posted by Vox:
I’m kind of bummed out because one of the cleaning & maintenance guys in the office building I work in died suddenly over the weekend. He was the coolest guy – always friendly, always joking (and not afraid to be off-color about it either, which is cool with me), and just a great guy to see around. It looks like he had a heart attack.

All that life he expressed, all the time, and then he just dropped dead. You really just never know. I know his family must be devastated. Frown


hug & ther
fro I was at an art center doing a reading program for the kids....tweens and teens when all of a sudden one young girl smacked the mess out of another girl. It was just me and the art director in there. The parents were in the lobby outside of the room. Anyway...we pulled them apart. One of the parents who heard the commotion came rushing in asking frantically what happened. Both girls played dumb. Which is typical behavior.

In the meantime, the other parent got word of her child being hit and stormed in immediately screaming " I WILL die for my child. Nobody's gonna fock with my baby"...to the embarassment of her daughter who had at the moment her mother came dashing in slumped down trying to hide her face.

Both parents approached each other in a screaming match while the daughters quietly mended their differences. (which I knew would happen] I'm tellin all of this to say: I now hate the phrase: I will DIE for my childRoll Eyes I know....how 'bout living for your kids...being there to see them grow into adulthood? How about being a positive example for them in showing them how to settle a disagreement? How about teachin' them [through your behavior] how grow folks are suppose to act...especially when they do not have all the facts? How about lettin' kids be kids...and allow them to problem solve?[the only true way they can learn]. How about that? Geez...

I told the mothers if they didn't resolve this issue like adults, the police will be called. One looked me up and down and say " you feel me....right?" Without hesitation, I said "Nope." The art director had disappeared...cowardRoll Eyes But I understand why. He didn't want to get in the middle of two screaming crazy mothers who clearly wanted to intimidate each other by acting tough. To me, that's cowardice and totally immature. And is why in so many cases we have VIOLENT children. I politely asked the mothers to leave. If not I will stop the program. They wanted to stay. I said absolutely.....not! After calling my bluff by giving me the "evil eye" and I just stood there unaffected..... they finally went back outside. The girls didn't even notice their parents leaving....they were busy laughing and giggling as if nothing had ever happened. Kids!

fro
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Originally posted by Kocolicious:
fro I was at an art center doing a reading program for the kids....tweens and teens when all of a sudden one young girl smacked the mess out of another girl. It was just me and the art director in there. The parents were in the lobby outside of the room. Anyway...we pulled them apart. One of the parents who heard the commotion came rushing in asking frantically what happened. Both girls played dumb. Which is typical behavior.

In the meantime, the other parent got word of her child being hit and stormed in immediately screaming " I WILL die for my child. Nobody's gonna fock with my baby"...to the embarassment of her daughter who had at the moment her mother came dashing in slumped down trying to hide her face.

Both parents approached each other in a screaming match while the daughters quietly mended their differences. (which I knew would happen] I'm tellin all of this to say: I now hate the phrase: I will DIE for my childRoll Eyes I know....how 'bout living for your kids...being there to see them grow into adulthood? How about being a positive example for them in showing them how to settle a disagreement? How about teachin' them [through your behavior] how grow folks are suppose to act...especially when they do not have all the facts? How about lettin' kids be kids...and allow them to problem solve?[the only true way they can learn]. How about that? Geez...

I told the mothers if they didn't resolve this issue like adults, the police will be called. One looked me up and down and say " you feel me....right?" Without hesitation, I said "Nope." The art director had disappeared...cowardRoll Eyes But I understand why. He didn't want to get in the middle of two screaming crazy mothers who clearly wanted to intimidate each other by acting tough. To me, that's cowardice and totally immature. And is why in so many cases we have VIOLENT children. I politely asked the mothers to leave. If not I will stop the program. They wanted to stay. I said absolutely.....not! After calling my bluff by giving me the "evil eye" and I just stood there unaffected..... they finally went back outside. The girls didn't even notice their parents leaving....they were busy laughing and giggling as if nothing had ever happened. Kids!

fro

tfro
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Originally posted by Kocolicious:
fro I was at an art center doing a reading program for the kids....tweens and teens when all of a sudden one young girl smacked the mess out of another girl. It was just me and the art director in there. The parents were in the lobby outside of the room. Anyway...we pulled them apart. One of the parents who heard the commotion came rushing in asking frantically what happened. Both girls played dumb. Which is typical behavior.

In the meantime, the other parent got word of her child being hit and stormed in immediately screaming " I WILL die for my child. Nobody's gonna fock with my baby"...to the embarassment of her daughter who had at the moment her mother came dashing in slumped down trying to hide her face.

Both parents approached each other in a screaming match while the daughters quietly mended their differences. (which I knew would happen] I'm tellin all of this to say: I now hate the phrase: I will DIE for my childRoll Eyes I know....how 'bout living for your kids...being there to see them grow into adulthood? How about being a positive example for them in showing them how to settle a disagreement? How about teachin' them [through your behavior] how grow folks are suppose to act...especially when they do not have all the facts? How about lettin' kids be kids...and allow them to problem solve?[the only true way they can learn]. How about that? Geez...

I told the mothers if they didn't resolve this issue like adults, the police will be called. One looked me up and down and say " you feel me....right?" Without hesitation, I said "Nope." The art director had disappeared...cowardRoll Eyes But I understand why. He didn't want to get in the middle of two screaming crazy mothers who clearly wanted to intimidate each other by acting tough. To me, that's cowardice and totally immature. And is why in so many cases we have VIOLENT children. I politely asked the mothers to leave. If not I will stop the program. They wanted to stay. I said absolutely.....not! After calling my bluff by giving me the "evil eye" and I just stood there unaffected..... they finally went back outside. The girls didn't even notice their parents leaving....they were busy laughing and giggling as if nothing had ever happened. Kids!

fro


appl & tfro

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