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quote:Originally posted by virtue:
With all of the trouble many sistas find with finding a black man that will appreciate them.... dang.... maybe it's time to look elsewhere....
quote:Originally posted by virtue:
Sigh... I never thought I'd ever say this but..... dang! With all of the trouble many sistas find with finding a black man that will appreciate them.... dang.... maybe it's time to look elsewhere....
Virtue
quote:Originally posted by Huey:Btw, I don't think I would add Woody Allen and Soon Yi on the list. Yes, they're interracial, but come on. Soon Yi is Woody's step-daughter/wife. He adopted her, had sex with her, then married her and sired a child with her. Ewww!
She's screwed for life. She's her own grandmother now!
quote:Originally posted by detroit1:quote:Originally posted by virtue:
With all of the trouble many sistas find with finding a black man that will appreciate them.... dang.... maybe it's time to look elsewhere....
The deceptive rhetoric continues......
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by virtue:
Sigh... I never thought I'd ever say this but..... dang! With all of the trouble many sistas find with finding a black man that will appreciate them.... dang.... maybe it's time to look elsewhere....
Virtue
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
How do you know it's "love"?
How do you know these *men* aren't using these women for their own superficial agenda?
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
How do you know it's "love"?
How do you know these *men* aren't using these women for their own superficial agenda?
quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:
Why would you assume that it isn't for love? Do you imagine somehow that these Black women aren't worthy of love?
1. There are some conversations white folk don't need to be involved in.
2. Sorry, but I don't feel obligated to justify or explain the inner relationships between black men and black women to a white person. I stopped doing that long ago.
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:
1. There are some conversations white folk don't need to be involved in.
quote:2. Sorry, but I don't feel obligated to justify or explain the inner relationships between black men and black women to a white person. I stopped doing that long ago.
quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:quote:Originally posted by Dissident:
1. There are some conversations white folk don't need to be involved in.
That may be, but this particular thread wouldn't seem to be one of those conversations.
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:
2. Sorry, but I don't feel obligated to justify or explain the inner relationships between black men and black women to a white person. I stopped doing that long ago.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:Let me answer your question with a question..........
What makes you think they are not in love.........?
If they get married, family etc.....then who am i to dispute it?
My hopes are to find a black man that i can love, and give him several gifts, of beautiful black babies..............but if black men are not desiring this, what should i do?
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:quote:Originally posted by qty226:Let me answer your question with a question..........
What makes you think they are not in love.........?
If they get married, family etc.....then who am i to dispute it?
My hopes are to find a black man that i can love, and give him several gifts, of beautiful black babies..............but if black men are not desiring this, what should i do?
I don't know if they're committed or not...neither do you. That was my point. You based your assumption of 'love' on a photograph. You were reading into things. How two people inner act in public may be something totally different in private. However I can say with certainty...from my own observations and life experiences...the few black women i've encountered who may head down that unforgiveable road of no return do so not for love but superficial rationale as I stated earlier... while perpetuate double standards in black men vs white men of dating/marriage material. I can elaborate but do you really want me too?
What do you mean by "if black men are not desiring this"? I see Black men desiring black women everyday. I see Black men marrying and having children with black women everyday. What planet are you from? This is the same scripted crapola I hear from a few disgruntled women who make excuses for their short-comings in the dating scene...and their self-hatred and emotional insecurities often exaserbates the problem. The defeatist psyche of some women always pollutes the minds of many. I'm sick of it! Honestly those same women who make excuses should take a hard look at themselves. More often than not they are the problem and not black men they frequently chastise.
You may find this strange but, black women I date don't have any issues with black men. Nor do they ever say they can't find good black men. However, I find it repugnant when I hear a black woman publically tear down black men (especially in the company of non-black people) and complain about black male ineligibility e.g., there are no good black men, can't find eligible black men etc.
In my lifetime I can say with absolute certainty that I have never ever, ever, ever, heard any white or asian woman say all white or asian men are dogs, or they can't find a good man of their own race. Nor do I know of or ever heard of any white or asian woman who's been in a sour relationship ever say they no longer desire to date or marry men of their own race. This phenomenom is only prevalent among black people. Why? A white man can murder his pregnant wife, sever her head off and throw her body in the ocean over a extramarital affair yet white women still love white men nor will they abandon white men. A black man repossess his credit card from a black woman and suddenly all black men are no good dogs. Go figure.
Lastly, I find it disturbing it wasn't too long ago white men systematically raped black women for sport... for power... the same women that belong to a race who were labeled 3/5 human by those who were doing the raping. I wonder if black women take comfort in knowing a system of supremacy is indoctrinated towards white male privilege which is the same system that destroys black families and black male masculinity? I also wonder if black women who erase high standards for non-black men do so with the assumption of non-black men courting black women unconditionally out of good faith? Not likely. It's not everyday a snivelling white man from the burbs courts a black tennis player from Compton....unless he has something to gain other than "love."
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
I've mentioned on this board, that in my area.........TONS of black men are dating white women.
...............
On this board.....several black men have stated that they date white women.
Now with all of this going on........what did you think was going to happen? (What happened was....this allowed white men the right, to approach black women.......and it happens everyday.......trust)
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
HonestBrother
I may be wrong.......and please excuse me if i am. (I'll look for the thread)
But didnt you mention that you DATE white women, because you cant find a decent black woman?
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You have issues with black women dating/marrying white men??![]()
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
I've mentioned on this board, that in my area.........TONS of black men are dating white women.
...............
On this board.....several black men have stated that they date white women.
Now with all of this going on........what did you think was going to happen? (What happened was....this allowed white men the right, to approach black women.......and it happens everyday.......trust)
I don't know about where you live but where I live I don't see tons of black men dating white women.
And if I'm one of the people on thee boards you're talking about (dating white women), I'VE ALSO said that I've dated black women exclusively (EXCLUSIVELY - that is turning down everyone else) for the last few years. And if I've dated white women in the past, it's because I couldn't find a black woman who
1) Didn't have a major attitude problem about black men
2) Wasn't look for a 6 figure earning fancy car driving man
3) Wasn't looking for a 6 ft. tall guy with a little (or even a lot of) thug in him
4) Wasn't a Jesus freak from Mars
5) Just was plain not interested for whatever reason.
I repeat, I've EXCLUSIVELY dated black women for a few years now and its been the most depressing dating period of my life. I'm tired of this crap.
I'm not saying that I'm Denzel. I'm not chopped liver either. But DAAAAYUM. My experience seems to suggest that Sistas have some major damn problems too......
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
I've mentioned on this board, that in my area.........TONS of black men are dating white women.
...............
On this board.....several black men have stated that they date white women.
Now with all of this going on........what did you think was going to happen? (What happened was....this allowed white men the right, to approach black women.......and it happens everyday.......trust)
I don't know about where you live but where I live I don't see tons of black men dating white women.
And if I'm one of the people on these boards you're talking about (dating white women), I'VE ALSO said that I've dated black women exclusively (EXCLUSIVELY - that is turning down everyone else) for the last few years. And if I've dated white women in the past, it's because I couldn't find a black woman who
1) Didn't have a major attitude problem about black men
2) Wasn't look for a 6 figure earning fancy car driving man
3) Wasn't looking for a 6 ft. tall guy with a little (or even a lot of) thug in him
4) Wasn't a Jesus freak from Mars
5) Just was plain not interested for whatever reason.
I repeat, I've EXCLUSIVELY dated black women for a few years now and its been the most depressing dating period of my life. I'm tired of this crap.
I'm not saying that I'm Denzel. I'm not chopped liver either. But DAAAAYUM. My experience seems to suggest that Sistas have some major damn problems too......
So i can say the same about you, that Dissident, is saying about black women........??
Youre making excuses!!! ???????
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
I went to a club last weekend......and stood around as black men........ran behind the white women. The club was filled with black men/white women. (ohh and believe me.......not to be vain, but i was on point! It didnt matter) I left!!
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
I went to a club last weekend......and stood around as black men........ran behind the white women. The club was filled with black men/white women. (ohh and believe me.......not to be vain, but i was on point! It didnt matter) I left!!
This is sad. I wish I lived in your town! I can honestly say I would never walk passed you in a club.
But,, I've found that clubs aren't the best place to find quality women anyway. Not that they are not there, just that the entire environment is loaded with preconceptions that make it difficult to actually get to know someone, even superficially. I sure the same goes for men. Would you really want the attention of one of these men, under these circumstances?
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
These pro ball players, entertainers....ALL have white wives, etc.
quote:On this board.....several black men have stated that they date white women.
quote:For the most part.......MOST black men are OK with dating I/R.......and i cant understand why you feel its OK for them..........but not ok for black women.
quote:I've always dated black men......because deep in my heart, thats who i love, and im quite sure a lot of black women feel this way.
quote:Originally posted by thayfen:
Radio: Good bit of research.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Honest Brother.....
So this is what i gather........
When you make these statements.......these are because of your experiences. But when black women make these statements.............shes COMPLAINING.
Dont you think thats weird?
I dont make excuses, about why im single...........my only problem is that a lot black men are no longer interested in black women......me and other women, are feeling the brunt of this behavior.
But i keep telling you.......if you feel better about dating 'other' races, then do so!!!
I cant understand the problem????![]()
quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
how do you know that 'these men are not complaining!!'...it's just a picture.![]()
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Honest Brother.....
So this is what i gather........
When you make these statements.......these are because of your experiences. But when black women make these statements.............shes COMPLAINING.
Dont you think thats weird?
I dont make excuses, about why im single...........my only problem is that a lot black men are no longer interested in black women......me and other women, are feeling the brunt of this behavior.
But i keep telling you.......if you feel better about dating 'other' races, then do so!!!
I cant understand the problem????![]()
Qty aren't you supposed to be in law school or something? Listening to what people ACTUALLY say - as opposed to putting YOUR words in their mouth - is a pretty important skill for a lawyer. Wouldn't you say?
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
how do you know that 'these men are not complaining!!'...it's just a picture.![]()
Question....
Why are you so concerned with WHAT black women are doing...???
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Was that supposed to be a low blow? hhhmmmm think again...and answer the question.
Whats your problem? You are dating white women.......but you want the sistas to do what???
quote:
Whats your problem? You are dating white women.......but you want the sistas to do what???
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Was that supposed to be a low blow? hhhmmmm think again...and answer the question.
Whats your problem? You are dating white women.......but you want the sistas to do what???
It's true. YOU SEEM TO NEVER ADDRESS WHAT I ACTUALLY SAY.
You just saidquote:
Whats your problem? You are dating white women.......but you want the sistas to do what???
INSPITE of the fact that I have repeatedly said that I've dated EXCLUSIVELY black in the last few years. Inspite of the fact, I've said I would prefeer to marry black.
Where I'm concerned you've repeatedly shown yourself to be an extremely poor listener. You latch on to just enough to prove your point. And then the rest goes out the window.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Why complain when you have someone else to love?????
quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
how do you know that 'these men are not complaining!!'...it's just a picture.![]()
Question....
Why are you so concerned with WHAT black women are doing...???
actually I not, I was wonder how you can infer so much from a photograph. that's all. As for IR couples, I'm one of the few proponents of such union. I feel love is colorblind and that why I started this celebration thread topic.
question 2:
pictured also are black men with white women, some are married to them, can it also be assumed that they are in love too?? I feel that is a valid question since so many of the black women pictured with other race men are 'just dating'. Explanation please![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Why complain when you have someone else to love?????
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Why complain when you have someone else to love?????
And oh yeah, thanks for illustrating the mental problems some of you sistas have![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Why complain when you have someone else to love?????
And oh yeah, thanks for illustrating the mental problems some of you sistas have![]()
Thats the best you got??
More excuses huh?
I feel you!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Why complain when you have someone else to love?????
Take your bitterness somewhere else. If you can't have an adult conversation then maybe you need to go to the kiddy table![]()
I can't talk to somebody got cotton stuffed up in their ears.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
HB....im not bitter. Believe that.....
Im a black woman, that will never allow ANYONE to boldly display affection for white women...........while degrading black women.
Stop with your personal attacks!!
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Take your bitterness somewhere else. If you can't have an adult conversation then maybe you need to go to the kiddy table![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
What issues do i have........im a 23 year old, black woman, no children, educated woman. The problem that you are having with me, is the fact that I have no issues..........thus, calling you out when you make statements concerning black women.
Gimmie a break...!!
Stop with the personal attacks!!
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
how do you know that 'these men are not complaining!!'...it's just a picture.![]()
Question....
Why are you so concerned with WHAT black women are doing...???
actually I not, I was wonder how you can infer so much from a photograph. that's all. As for IR couples, I'm one of the few proponents of such union. I feel love is colorblind and that why I started this celebration thread topic.
question 2:
pictured also are black men with white women, some are married to them, can it also be assumed that they are in love too?? I feel that is a valid question since so many of the black women pictured with other race men are 'just dating'. Explanation please![]()
I made an observation, concerning black women..........(because im a black woman).
**Understood, but I thought you had some extra information to post about those you spoke about. I guess not. Maybe you are seeing what you want to see and no what is actually there.***
So i'll tell you what.........You make the same observation concerning black men.
**I deal in reality. I need not make any type of statements for anyone. It serves no purpose.**
Why should I........am not a man.
**I dont understand your point?? Are you suppose to 'cheer on' black women no matter what? I dont unerstand the gender divide here. All of the couples are mixed, why not cheer them all??
Also Radio.......since you feel to celebrate this on a black site...........do you feel the need to celebrate this info on a white one?
**I ONLY belong to this site. Are there white sites you can recommend?? I would gladly celebrate mixed doubles love there too
I think white women should know how YOU feel....
**sounds good to me!!!...but my love is colorless. I can see beauty is all races**
Youre not looking at black women, why should i care what YOU think.....or who you want to celebrate?
**WHERE / WHEN did I say this?? Are you putting words in my mouth?? Currently, I am dating a black woman [I stated this several times]. I guess you only want to personalize this discussion and add in untruths. Good luck with that. I'm finished!!
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Now in answer to your other post........
Instead of saying ALL, i'll say MOST!!
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Now in answer to your other post........
Instead of saying ALL, i'll say MOST!!
qty, 92% of all married Black men are married to Black women.
Of course, they're not all celebrities, but that's OK. Right?
quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by RadioRaheem:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by qty226:
Yes this was an interesting thread.
What i notice is that, these black women are different in every way, but found love............and seem to be getting married.
Some are light skin, dark skin, over weight, athletic, short hair, long hair, etc...............and these men are not complaining!!
I love it!!!![]()
how do you know that 'these men are not complaining!!'...it's just a picture.![]()
Question....
Why are you so concerned with WHAT black women are doing...???
actually I not, I was wonder how you can infer so much from a photograph. that's all. As for IR couples, I'm one of the few proponents of such union. I feel love is colorblind and that why I started this celebration thread topic.
question 2:
pictured also are black men with white women, some are married to them, can it also be assumed that they are in love too?? I feel that is a valid question since so many of the black women pictured with other race men are 'just dating'. Explanation please![]()
I made an observation, concerning black women..........(because im a black woman).
**Understood, but I thought you had some extra information to post about those you spoke about. I guess not. Maybe you are seeing what you want to see and no what is actually there.***
@ Radio.......how could you figure that.....i saw dark skin, light skin, over weight, athletic, etc....ALL with smiles on their faces.
So i'll tell you what.........You make the same observation concerning black men.
**I deal in reality. I need not make any type of statements for anyone. It serves no purpose.**
@ Radio, if it serves no purpose.....then you should not comment on such!!
**I dont understand your point?? Are you suppose to 'cheer on' black women no matter what? I dont unerstand the gender divide here. All of the couples are mixed, why not cheer them all??
@ Radio, I commented on black women.......because im a black woman. Thats reason enough....!!
Also Radio.......since you feel to celebrate this on a black site...........do you feel the need to celebrate this info on a white one?
**I ONLY belong to this site. Are there white sites you can recommend?? I would gladly celebrate mixed doubles love there too
@ Radio, youre the king of the internet.......im quite sure if you can find pics of women all day.......you can look for different sites, to show off your art work!!
I think white women should know how YOU feel....
**sounds good to me!!!...but my love is colorless. I can see beauty is all races**
@ Radio.......whatever floats your boat!!
Youre not looking at black women, why should i care what YOU think.....or who you want to celebrate?
**WHERE / WHEN did I say this?? Are you putting words in my mouth?? Currently, I am dating a black woman [I stated this several times]. I guess you only want to personalize this discussion and add in untruths. Good luck with that. I'm finished!!
@ Radio, i dont care who you are dating....
I made a statement, and i will continue to stand by it!!!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Now in answer to your other post........
Instead of saying ALL, i'll say MOST!!
qty, 92% of all married Black men are married to Black women.
Of course, they're not all celebrities, but that's OK. Right?
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Ok, so out of the 40% of black men that are married, a small percentage.....are married to white women? Thats fair to say...!
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Now in answer to your other post........
Instead of saying ALL, i'll say MOST!!
qty, 92% of all married Black men are married to Black women.
Of course, they're not all celebrities, but that's OK. Right?
Ok, so out of the 40% of black men that are married, a small percentage.....are married to white women? Thats fair to say...!
Honestbrother........its tearing you up, at the fact that i could careless about your reasonings for dating white women.
I keep telling you to be happy with your choice.
Why does this piss you off.......im actually agreeing with you.
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quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
What issues do i have........im a 23 year old, black woman, no children, educated woman. The problem that you are having with me, is the fact that I have no issues..........thus, calling you out when you make statements concerning black women.
Gimmie a break...!!
Stop with the personal attacks!!
The ONLY statements I've made about black women are about people I've personally experienced.
You calling me a liar?
And I'm 35, educated, with no children.
Oh that's right. I'm a black man. So I'm supposed to have multiple baby mamas. I forgot![]()
So what? You're 23, educated and no kids? You want an award?
And I've made no "personal attacks" against you. Other than saying you never respond to what I ACTUALLY say.
Which is true.
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Now in answer to your other post........
Instead of saying ALL, i'll say MOST!!
qty, 92% of all married Black men are married to Black women.
Of course, they're not all celebrities, but that's OK. Right?
Black Viking, Qty is a law student. So we should help her out.
There's a difference in meaning (sometimes profound) between the terms "All" and "Some", "Many" and "Most"...
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Listening to what people ACTUALLY say - as opposed to putting YOUR words in their mouth - is a pretty important skill for a lawyer. Wouldn't you say?
quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Listening to what people ACTUALLY say - as opposed to putting YOUR words in their mouth - is a pretty important skill for a lawyer. Wouldn't you say?
So is the ability to put words in somebody's mouth, while at the same time making it appear as if you didn't.
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quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
Should i care???![]()
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
Should i care???![]()
Whatever poor bastard wants you can have you![]()
quote:Originally posted by Ouwe:
We were talking about this subject today. I don't care if a black man decides to date white, Asian, Spanish, etc. It doesn't make a bit of difference to me. What I find offensive is the reasons some black men date women that are not black. I hate to hear a black man put use down because he prefers something other then us to justify his actions. Wesley Snipes is a prime example of putting black women down. I think the magazine was Ebony some years ago, he said that we are too loud, too many children, on welfare, gold diggers, etc. I lost all respect of him after that. And what he said does not describe me and a lot of black women.. And the most influential black women in his life would have been his mother; soooooooooooooo was he talking about his mother?????????? I just get heated when black men put us down to justify why they date other nationalities.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
Should i care???![]()
Whatever poor bastard wants you can have you![]()
I doubt if they will be poor, or bastards!!
Just do you!!
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Once and for all, WHO PUT BLACK WOMEN DOWN ON THIS THREAD??????
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
Should i care???![]()
Whatever poor bastard wants you can have you![]()
I doubt if they will be poor, or bastards!!
Just do you!!
They may be neither poor nor bastards... They might be plenty dumb though
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Qty, I think I see why you can't get a man
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
Should i care???![]()
Whatever poor bastard wants you can have you![]()
I doubt if they will be poor, or bastards!!
Just do you!!
They may be neither poor nor bastards... They might be plenty dumb though
Now dumb i can deal with........just as long as hes not poor or a bastard.
See we're agreeing here.....!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by Ouwe:
We were talking about this subject today. I don't care if a black man decides to date white, Asian, Spanish, etc. It doesn't make a bit of difference to me. What I find offensive is the reasons some black men date women that are not black. I hate to hear a black man put use down because he prefers something other then us to justify his actions. Wesley Snipes is a prime example of putting black women down. I think the magazine was Ebony some years ago, he said that we are too loud, too many children, on welfare, gold diggers, etc. I lost all respect of him after that. And what he said does not describe me and a lot of black women.. And the most influential black women in his life would have been his mother; soooooooooooooo was he talking about his mother?????????? I just get heated when black men put us down to justify why they date other nationalities.
Once and for all, WHO PUT BLACK WOMEN DOWN ON THIS THREAD??????
quote:I hate to hear a black man put use down because he prefers something other then us to justify his actions... I just get heated when black men put us down to justify why they date other nationalities.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
To all the advocates of IR relationships - how do you manage the culture conflicts along with the normal gender conflicts?
quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
Take the one-sided gender references (the phenomenon should be offensive whether it's Black men or women using the tactic) out and I agree with:quote:I hate to hear a black man put use down because he prefers something other then us to justify his actions... I just get heated when black men put us down to justify why they date other nationalities.
Raheem, you might have another riot on your hands!
HB - be careful! Your worldview at 23 was probably different than it is 35. Give qty a chance to live & adjust hers. Clearly, Tampa, has a lot to do with how she views things. I would bet 5lbs. of protein that if she went to school in the AUC, her outlook on Black dating would be a little different.
To all the advocates of IR relationships - how do you manage the culture conflicts along with the normal gender conflicts?
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
Typical.![]()
How DARE those Black women have a smile on their faces?! Don't they know they're supposed to be somebody's emotional punching bag?! I guess they didn't get the memo.![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Black Viking....Youre trying to play with my intelligence. If you want to believe, that black men are dating white women.......because of my attitude, im fat, black, ugly, uneducated.......then say it.
Its truly amazing, how black men are willing to have patience, sensitivity, working hard to communicate......with other races but not black women!!
"Typical.
How DARE those Black women have a smile on their faces?! Don't they know they're supposed to be somebody's emotional punching bag?! I guess they didn't get the memo."
Yes frenchy, typical indeed!!!
quote:
If you want to believe, that black men are dating white women.......because of my attitude, im fat, black, ugly, uneducated.......then say it.
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:
I've found that conversations white folk don't need to be involved in simply don't interest them. If they're interested, for whatever reason, then they need to be involved.
quote:Originally posted by Dissident:quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:
I've found that conversations white folk don't need to be involved in simply don't interest them. If they're interested, for whatever reason, then they need to be involved.
That is one of the most asinine comments I've ever heard! White folk love an ignorant ass negro like you... and you go right along with it. ***shaking my head****
quote:Do you allow your neighbors to get involved in your family business? If so then you're one weak ass excuse for a man. I wonder how do you live with yourself.
quote:White folk don't need to do a goddamn thing except stay out of the internal affairs of Black people unless invited. Period!
quote:I'm done with this thread.
OUT!
quote:Originally posted by qty226
Black Viking....Youre trying to play with my intelligence. If you want to believe, that black men are dating white women.......because of my attitude, im fat, black, ugly, uneducated.......then say it.
quote:Its truly amazing, how black men are willing to have patience, sensitivity, working hard to communicate......with other races but not black women!!
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
For the record, I think you're attractive. But I can't deal with that tude.
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
I find this very hard to believe. Are you sure that you actually want a Black man? You've explained the dating scene in Tampa many times, but i have a feeling there's more to it than that.
The chances of me finding a Black woman where I live is almost non-existant. That's because there just aren't any here. But there are Black men in Tampa. Considering the statistics we just explored, it can't be all the white women's doing. Can it?
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Thanks for the compliment.
If you feel i have a "tude", im sorry.....i didnt mean to come across that way.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Well lets just say this...........i cant get a black man.
I find this very hard to believe. Are you sure that you actually want a Black man? You've explained the dating scene in Tampa many times, but i have a feeling there's more to it than that.
The chances of me finding a Black woman where I live is almost non-existant. That's because there just aren't any here. But there are Black men in Tampa. Considering the statistics we just explored, it can't be all the white women's doing. Can it?
Ok, to be fair.......im going to retract, and ask....what were you implying?
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
As i've mentioned before (some people want to ignore this fact)........this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!
This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.
(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)
I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.
quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
To all the advocates of IR relationships - how do you manage the culture conflicts along with the normal gender conflicts?
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
And if I've dated white women in the past, it's because I couldn't find a black woman
May I offer my opinion?quote:who
1) Didn't have a major attitude problem about black men
quote:2) Wasn't look for a 6 figure earning fancy car driving man
quote:3) Wasn't looking for a 6 ft. tall guy with a little (or even a lot of) thug in him
quote:4) Wasn't a Jesus freak from Mars
quote:5) Just was plain not interested for whatever reason.
quote:I repeat, I've EXCLUSIVELY dated black women for a few years now and its been the most depressing dating period of my life. I'm tired of this crap.
I'm not saying that I'm Denzel. I'm not chopped liver either. But DAAAAYUM. My experience seems to suggest that Sistas have some major damn problems too......
There are many Black people that will try to make you feel that way as well......quote:Originally posted by ZAKAR:
If you dont have a firm KNOWLEDGE OF SELF, this white mans world with make you think you have no worth or you are less than any other human.But with that knowledge of who you are where you came from you have a frame of reference to draw on besides those forced on you through propaganda.Me personally I love sistas, especially attracted to brown and darkskinned sistas who loves who they are in their essence. Those who take pride in the natural texture of their hair the strong features in their appearance, and understand that god didnt make any mistakes when creating here, because she knows she is made of the best material in the universe. She is the Original Woman.
quote:Originally posted by nayo:
Black men have options........and they are exercising those options.
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All a Black woman (the average to better than average 'sister)has to do, is look, away, or look down, or look out the window and it's like, where'd he go? rotfl!!!!!![]()
quote:Originally posted by Vox:
At the same time, I used to notice that black women would spend more time bashing the men who were off-limits, and no time on giving the time of day to the men who weren't. If I'm alone in a train station, and there's a black guy with his white girlfriend and their baby, the two black women would completely ignore me and badmouth the other black guy. If I'm standing there alone, and Jo-Jo Gold-Toof is also standing alone, the black women will completely ignore me and focus on badmouthing Jo-Jo Gold-Toof. If I'm standing alone, and an effeminate gay guy is there, black women standing there are lamenting the fact that the other guy is gay... again, completely ignoring me.
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Not to start anything... But it seems like I always got the MOST attention from sistas when I was dating a white woman. When I was single looking for a black woman I couldn't get the time of day. This lasts for a year or two and then I meet another white woman. Then I get attention from sistas again.
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
Not to start anything... But it seems like I always got the MOST attention from sistas when I was dating a white woman. When I was single looking for a black woman I couldn't get the time of day. This lasts for a year or two and then I meet another white woman. Then I get attention from sistas again.
That is so damn true, and then once I'm with a white woman, sistas want to give me a hard time. I'm always thinking, "Where the hell were you when I was single! Oh yeah. Now I remember. You wouldn't give me the time of day."![]()
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
Qty, girl didn't you know you're supposed to drink the bathwater of any internet yahoo who pays you a compliment on your physical attributes?? Get with it girl!![]()
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
Here we go again with this shit. Surprised it's coming from Vox this time around. The black man's experience is not the same as the Black woman's experience. Doesn't matter what you find when you go out looking. Unless you're looking for a brotha, you don't have a single clue what Black women encounter.
Quantity IS NOT the same as quality. 50 grubby, shiftless men hitting on a woman does not mean she "has a lot of options."
quote:Qty, girl didn't you know you're supposed to drink the bathwater of any internet yahoo who pays you a compliment on your physical attributes?? Get with it girl!
quote:Originally posted by Vox:
When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!
quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:quote:Originally posted by Vox:
When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!
A friend of ours from my wife's city in Colombia always has foreign students coming up to him in bars here in Ames and trying to speak to him in Chinese and Japanese.
His mother visited the US last year, flying here on the same flight with us during our return flight from Colombia. Asians kept coming up to her in the airports speaking Chinese and Japanese, too. She didn't know what to think, since she speaks only spanish. It was pretty funny. Her son has been here in Ames for a year or so, so he speaks some english, in addition to spanish.
quote:Originally posted by Vox:
... the problem is, you're wrong.
quote:Like I said, when I was in a setting in which I'm there and a couple of overtly gay guys are there, and the black women nearby stand there looking THROUGH me at the gay guys and bemoan what they see as proof that all the good men are either dead, in jail, or GAY, then I can and do have a clue as to what black women encounter.
quote:When most of the women I'm initially attracted to have boyfriends, etc... all I'm saying is that there is definitely something else going on than what's being discussed.
quote:And in case you overlooked it, I also took men to task for making up excuses for their reported interracial experiences, as well.
quote:Finally... as for this statement:quote:Qty, girl didn't you know you're supposed to drink the bathwater of any internet yahoo who pays you a compliment on your physical attributes?? Get with it girl!
You uncharacteristically miss my point. The point wasn't that QTY should be delving all into conversation with posters here who compliment her. The point is that if she has devoted 50,000% more of her posts here toward guys who say the types of things she decries about black men, than toward those she doesn't have similar problems with, then it serves as evidence of the direction in which her energies off line lie.
quote:Just like all of the ignorant, loud, dramatic black women seem to be disproportionately in the world of the men who derive some sort of comfort in believing that these are the majority of black women.
quote:For a guy like me, who tends to look inward for his solutions, the loud, ignorant black women never, ever have come into my dating focus. Even during times when you'd think I would be prone to settle, I never focused on them. And believe me, they abound! It would have been EASY for me to do like what you do, and focus on them as the reason for being alone.
quote:But just think of the decent women I would have completely ignored, like some men do... You women are doing the same things.
quote:The comment about QTY's lines of text supports THAT idea, NOT the idea that she should be thankful and give play to fools like IronHorse.
quote:Originally posted by Vox:quote:Originally posted by ricardomath:quote:Originally posted by Vox:
When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!
A friend of ours from my wife's city in Colombia always has foreign students coming up to him in bars here in Ames and trying to speak to him in Chinese and Japanese.
His mother visited the US last year, flying here on the same flight with us during our return flight from Colombia. Asians kept coming up to her in the airports speaking Chinese and Japanese, too. She didn't know what to think, since she speaks only spanish. It was pretty funny. Her son has been here in Ames for a year or so, so he speaks some english, in addition to spanish.
Ricardo, is she Asian (racially speaking)? Like Alberto Fujimori? Or does she just look it, because of native (a la Inca) extraction?
quote:This is men refusing to believe that women describing dating, PERIOD, is accurate. If you meet 10 guys and 9 of them are full of shit and 1 is gay, and you say so, does that mean you are "only seeing the worst"
quote:You don't know what we are doing because you don't know what we experience (or you choose not to believe what we say our experience is).
quote:Originally posted by Black Viking:
Wow, Gambit... and all this time I thought you were a six year old girl!
Just kidding...![]()
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
Please, break it down for us and tell us what it is exactly that we run into out there. Clearly, we are all bitter liars inventing fantastic stories so that we can remain single and childless.
quote:Okay, I know that I expressly described what I think is going on as something other than that you're 'LYING.'
quote:Originally posted by art_gurl:
Frenchy I'm curious... about the guys that you do meet who you think are full of shit?
What's wrong with them? This is not a 'dig', I'm just wondering what are the off-putting qualities about them. Are they thugs? Bores? Not interesting enough...?
quote:And is it usually like that on average in the groups of men you meet?
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:quote:Okay, I know that I expressly described what I think is going on as something other than that you're 'LYING.'
Okay, Vox, then explain to me what you call it when someone says "A" and you say "No, that's not true. That cannot possibly be the real case." Are you not making a statement about the truth of the original remark?
quote:QTY, if you look anything like you do in the various avatars you've put up, there is no way that you can't find black men who find you attractive enough to want to get with.
quote:As Stephen Covey said, "The way we see the problem is the problem," and we often see things through a distorted perception. This was the clear, unadulterated, elementary point of my first post on this subject, but you act like u didn't understand that. Instead, I'm saying that you were LYING. Never mind what I already actually said.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Black Viking...
Black men have options........and they are exercising those options. (Im just one of many women they can chose from)
As i've mentioned before (some people want to ignore this fact)........this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!
This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.
(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)
I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.
quote:Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
Has anyone asked why I/R couples generate so much discourse? Its not a large activity percentage wise and why concern yourself if that brother/sister is with someone of a different race? After all even if they did stay "within thier own", theres nothing saying that they would be with you. I would rather focus my energies on finding that special sista to compliment me but if my fate is to be with someone of another race so be it.
*If its not taking place under your roof, its out of your hands*
Now off to class I go..........
quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
That is NOT going to get you out of The Doghouse, Buddy.![]()
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Pull up a chair right next to ddouble who lives there permanently.![]()
quote:Originally posted by Vox:
To close out, Qty & Frenchy... you two are both sexy as hell, and very intelligent.
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quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
I hesitate to answer that because then the discussion is going to turn onto my personal dating criteria.
quote:I think in general women want someone who freely gives respect, love, attention, intellectual stimulation, maturity, vision.
quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by Vox:
To close out, Qty & Frenchy... you two are both sexy as hell, and very intelligent.
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He's just saying that![]()
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!
This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.
(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)
I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.
quote:Originally posted by art_gurl:quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by Vox:
To close out, Qty & Frenchy... you two are both sexy as hell, and very intelligent.
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He's just saying that![]()
you're just jealous he said it first, LOL !
He's no fool.![]()
quote:Black men (all men) ultimately choose to be with who they want to be with, which translates to... who they can be themselves with.
quote:Originally posted by qty226:
Thanks to all, for the compliments..
Virtue...
Thanks so much for your post.....
Okay... gotta love this..... Yep! I get "Are you Ethiopian (Eritrean) all the time..... In DC I would have Ethiopian men speaking to me in Amharic.... but I just gotta laugh.... hard.... at....quote:
"Your features are fine, what are you?" "Whats your heritage?" (You cant tell my azz is black?)
quote:You cant tell my azz is black?