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Vox...

I've responded to 50% or more of my post, to forums that were created........concerning black women!

I've mentioned to you, that i've never disrespected or complained about black men. My issue was the constant, dogging of black women.

It was only fair that i responded....

Thats neither here nor there.......i'll follow other young black women.......who have told me, that i was stupid for even caring!

These women have weighed their options (are dating/marrying).......theyre happy, and i will be also!

Nuff said about this!!
Has anyone asked why I/R couples generate so much discourse? Its not a large activity percentage wise and why concern yourself if that brother/sister is with someone of a different race? After all even if they did stay "within thier own", theres nothing saying that they would be with you. I would rather focus my energies on finding that special sista to compliment me but if my fate is to be with someone of another race so be it.

*If its not taking place under your roof, its out of your hands*

Now off to class I go..........
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Originally posted by Vox:

When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!


A friend of ours from my wife's city in Colombia always has foreign students coming up to him in bars here in Ames and trying to speak to him in Chinese and Japanese.

His mother visited the US last year, flying here on the same flight with us during our return flight from Colombia. Asians kept coming up to her in the airports speaking Chinese and Japanese, too. She didn't know what to think, since she speaks only spanish. It was pretty funny. Her son has been here in Ames for a year or so, so he speaks some english, in addition to spanish.
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by Vox:

When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!


A friend of ours from my wife's city in Colombia always has foreign students coming up to him in bars here in Ames and trying to speak to him in Chinese and Japanese.

His mother visited the US last year, flying here on the same flight with us during our return flight from Colombia. Asians kept coming up to her in the airports speaking Chinese and Japanese, too. She didn't know what to think, since she speaks only spanish. It was pretty funny. Her son has been here in Ames for a year or so, so he speaks some english, in addition to spanish.



Ricardo, is she Asian (racially speaking)? Like Alberto Fujimori? Or does she just look it, because of native (a la Inca) extraction?
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Originally posted by Vox:
... the problem is, you're wrong.


Then tell me when the last time was that you looked for an eligible man to date. Since I am apparently "wrong" about what I see and experience and so are these other sistas. Please, break it down for us and tell us what it is exactly that we run into out there. Clearly, we are all bitter liars inventing fantastic stories so that we can remain single and childless. Roll Eyes

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Like I said, when I was in a setting in which I'm there and a couple of overtly gay guys are there, and the black women nearby stand there looking THROUGH me at the gay guys and bemoan what they see as proof that all the good men are either dead, in jail, or GAY, then I can and do have a clue as to what black women encounter.


What does that have to do with the price of beans in China? That speaks exclusively to your experience with women. It says ZIP, ZERO, NADA about what is going on with men.

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When most of the women I'm initially attracted to have boyfriends, etc... all I'm saying is that there is definitely something else going on than what's being discussed.


Still waiting for that part where you discuss finding men.

You guys have a real problem trying to completely invalidate the experiences of people are are actually walking the walk. It's absolutely infuriating. I don't tell you "Vox, you're wrong. Those women were not looking past you at gay men, you are just too bitter and jaded to see that they wanted your attention." Cut it out. Acknowledge that your road is not everyone else's road and don't presume to make people feel like they are insane/delusional for remarking on the world around them. You do not experience this life the same way that I do.

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And in case you overlooked it, I also took men to task for making up excuses for their reported interracial experiences, as well.


I didn't even touch the interracial aspect in my post. The ones that tear down Black women to justify seeking out Becky are doing us all a favor by taking themselves out of circulation. I'm speaking to what's left.

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Finally... as for this statement:
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Qty, girl didn't you know you're supposed to drink the bathwater of any internet yahoo who pays you a compliment on your physical attributes?? Get with it girl!


You uncharacteristically miss my point. The point wasn't that QTY should be delving all into conversation with posters here who compliment her. The point is that if she has devoted 50,000% more of her posts here toward guys who say the types of things she decries about black men, than toward those she doesn't have similar problems with, then it serves as evidence of the direction in which her energies off line lie.


What makes you think that?? I talk about plenty of things online that I don't with my friends or acquaintances. I also encounter viewpoints online that I do not see in real life, so clearly my online energies would not match my offline energies. It's very rare that in real life I would be in a room with a shitload of men talking about the Black woman's dating experience. It's rare that men in real life would be as brazen about some of their opinions about women in real life. There's no directly proportional relationship. Confused

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Just like all of the ignorant, loud, dramatic black women seem to be disproportionately in the world of the men who derive some sort of comfort in believing that these are the majority of black women.


Here again you draw a direct paralell between your world as a man and my world as a woman.

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For a guy like me, who tends to look inward for his solutions, the loud, ignorant black women never, ever have come into my dating focus. Even during times when you'd think I would be prone to settle, I never focused on them. And believe me, they abound! It would have been EASY for me to do like what you do, and focus on them as the reason for being alone.


This is not about training one's focus on only "the worst." This is men refusing to believe that women describing dating, PERIOD, is accurate. If you meet 10 guys and 9 of them are full of shit and 1 is gay, and you say so, does that mean you are "only seeing the worst" (which is what you all love to say) or describing your dating experience with accuracy (which is what some women are doing)? See what I'm saying?

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But just think of the decent women I would have completely ignored, like some men do... You women are doing the same things.


Here again is that parallel where it does not exist. You don't know what we are doing because you don't know what we experience (or you choose not to believe what we say our experience is).

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The comment about QTY's lines of text supports THAT idea, NOT the idea that she should be thankful and give play to fools like IronHorse.


Come on, Vox. "You get 50 compliments by strangers on your looks (not even as a person, mind you, but on your looks in a picture on a random website by Lord knows who) and you don't respond. Therefore, you are bitterly looking past good men in your real dating life." Seriously?! Who is to say that men in her real life respond the same way as do these men online? As a matter of fact, I'm positive the sista has spoken numerous times about how her looks are frequently regarded by some of the Black men she meets. But I guess if you choose not believe that women have any clue about their own lives, then you wouldn't pick up on that either. And I'm sure I've seen that sista say Thank You before.
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Originally posted by Vox:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by Vox:

When I went to Puerto Rico, I had a couple of American tourists try to ask me directions in Spanish... That was comical!


A friend of ours from my wife's city in Colombia always has foreign students coming up to him in bars here in Ames and trying to speak to him in Chinese and Japanese.

His mother visited the US last year, flying here on the same flight with us during our return flight from Colombia. Asians kept coming up to her in the airports speaking Chinese and Japanese, too. She didn't know what to think, since she speaks only spanish. It was pretty funny. Her son has been here in Ames for a year or so, so he speaks some english, in addition to spanish.



Ricardo, is she Asian (racially speaking)? Like Alberto Fujimori? Or does she just look it, because of native (a la Inca) extraction?


Their anscestors are from Japan. I believe that her grandparents (his great grandparents) were the last genetration in their family to speak Japonese.

What I find particularly amusing is that my wife and pretty much everybody else often refers to him as "el chino", dispite the fact that "japonés" is a perfectly good spanish word. It's just not much used. I've never quite understood that.
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This is men refusing to believe that women describing dating, PERIOD, is accurate. If you meet 10 guys and 9 of them are full of shit and 1 is gay, and you say so, does that mean you are "only seeing the worst"


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You don't know what we are doing because you don't know what we experience (or you choose not to believe what we say our experience is).



Frenchy I'm curious... about the guys that you do meet who you think are full of shit?
What's wrong with them? This is not a 'dig', I'm just wondering what are the off-putting qualities about them. Are they thugs? Bores? Not interesting enough...? And is it usually like that on average in the groups of men you meet?

Just asking. Certainly not asking you to settle 'for less' than you deserve. Smile
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Hey, Frenchy, your post above my 6:10 post wasn't there when I began typing it, so I missed it.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:

Please, break it down for us and tell us what it is exactly that we run into out there. Clearly, we are all bitter liars inventing fantastic stories so that we can remain single and childless.


Okay, I know that I expressly described what I think is going on as something other than that you're 'LYING.' If you're going to try and re-cast my conclusions in some way that is obviously inaccurate, then further participation in this discussion is pointless. Especially with someone who knows better. When it comes to your discussion style in dating topics, you've got quite an Nmagination...
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Okay, I know that I expressly described what I think is going on as something other than that you're 'LYING.'


Okay, Vox, then explain to me what you call it when someone says "A" and you say "No, that's not true. That cannot possibly be the real case." Are you not making a statement about the truth of the original remark?
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Originally posted by art_gurl:
Frenchy I'm curious... about the guys that you do meet who you think are full of shit?
What's wrong with them? This is not a 'dig', I'm just wondering what are the off-putting qualities about them. Are they thugs? Bores? Not interesting enough...?


I hesitate to answer that because then the discussion is going to turn onto my personal dating criteria. I think in general women want someone who freely gives respect, love, attention, intellectual stimulation, maturity, vision.

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And is it usually like that on average in the groups of men you meet?


It's just an illustration. Wink My point is that that could very well be my experience and saying so is not a mark on my character or disposition.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
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Okay, I know that I expressly described what I think is going on as something other than that you're 'LYING.'


Okay, Vox, then explain to me what you call it when someone says "A" and you say "No, that's not true. That cannot possibly be the real case." Are you not making a statement about the truth of the original remark?


As Stephen Covey said, "The way we see the problem is the problem," and we often see things through a distorted perception. This was the clear, unadulterated, elementary point of my first post on this subject, but you act like u didn't understand that. Instead, I'm saying that you were LYING. Never mind what I already actually said.

So what u're saying is, if I ever said you comport yourself in a logical, rational, and intellectually honest manner on these threads, then now that it turns out I was wrong, I must have been LYING, right? There's no other explanation, especially not the one I expressly offered in my first post on this thread. I was LYING when I thought you could engage in rational discussion. Fine, then I was LYING.
Are you getting petulant?! I don't know what you think my tone is, but I was genuinely giving you an opportunity to explain and respond. Snippy remarks aside, the analogy does not fit. Your scenario is changing your own mind. The one that actually took place is you commenting on the truth of this sista's dating experience.

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QTY, if you look anything like you do in the various avatars you've put up, there is no way that you can't find black men who find you attractive enough to want to get with.


Those are your own words.

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As Stephen Covey said, "The way we see the problem is the problem," and we often see things through a distorted perception. This was the clear, unadulterated, elementary point of my first post on this subject, but you act like u didn't understand that. Instead, I'm saying that you were LYING. Never mind what I already actually said.


Take Covey's advice. You are trying to look at women's dating problems in the same way that you view your own and make assumptions accordingly. Which is flawed. I've already addressed how and why.
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Originally posted by qty226:
Black Viking...

Black men have options........and they are exercising those options. (Im just one of many women they can chose from)

As i've mentioned before (some people want to ignore this fact)........this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!

This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.

(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)

I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.


That's a truth that some people don't really know.... and I can understand your apprehension. I know you pretty well... u're prettier than a lot of your friends.
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Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
Has anyone asked why I/R couples generate so much discourse? Its not a large activity percentage wise and why concern yourself if that brother/sister is with someone of a different race? After all even if they did stay "within thier own", theres nothing saying that they would be with you. I would rather focus my energies on finding that special sista to compliment me but if my fate is to be with someone of another race so be it.

*If its not taking place under your roof, its out of your hands*

Now off to class I go..........


very true.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
That is NOT going to get you out of The Doghouse, Buddy. spank hit Cool

Pull up a chair right next to ddouble who lives there permanently. bsm


For somebody in your doghouse, I sure get a lot of visits from you!. If keeping you honest puts me in the doghouse, please bring my bone, water bowl, chew toy, and food! And rub my tummy while you're at it! thanks
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
I hesitate to answer that because then the discussion is going to turn onto my personal dating criteria.

I honestly wasn't trying to 'go there', I was just curious about what the negatives were. Smile
I was wondering if they were generally 'undesirable' rather than matching any personal criteria. Wink

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I think in general women want someone who freely gives respect, love, attention, intellectual stimulation, maturity, vision.

gurl I know we all want that... because... heck, what's the alternative? Roll Eyes
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Originally posted by qty226:
this is a problem in the black community. If a woman is too dark.....she goes unnoticed, i dont care how beautiful she is. Her light skinned friends, are the ones that get picked first!! They only want me, after these women turn them down....!!

This has always been a problem for me. Its happened since high school, and im therefore cautious of black men.

(Yeah, as Thayfen mentioned, the truth can be ugly)

I dont complain about the situation, i just move on in life.
Frown Qty. I'm from the South....---way worse down here than in the North---my experience-- in the North there was a "cultural revolution" that allowed Black people to mentally accept in one another things that many in the South took a while to accept--- I know.... I've experienced both..... I know exactly what you mean.....) People won't talk about it because those that don't experience this tend to be blind to the very real pain that this causes for others.... they tend to look at themselves and say "I'm black...It doesn't happen to me.... It must be the way you're looking at things" .....and the one's that are affected by it.... try to ignore it or explain it away..... Black people... No... Black Men........ historically their ideal example of beauty is not the "white" woman as many revolutionaries like to point towards.... It is the "Latina" look or "Mixed" look.... something near there or a variation there of....

But just know that since you are younger than me..... when I was your age.... sigh.... dear it was WAY worse than it is now.... I have a sister around your age that experienced it but not very much..... and her self-esteem (I'm very proud of her) doesn't suffer nearly as much as others in my age group..... I hesitated answering this post..... Qty. because this is an extremely painful subject.... one I just couldn't look past.....

I was going to put this in your PM... but I'll put it out here.... Why not? Most of my bi'ness out heah anywhoo..... sigh....

But, as a young girl.... I was a model... (White folks always love my look....whaeva....) Most people called me "Black Barbie" or some variation of this.... I was complemented a lot..... But those who were close to me could not figure out why I was sad or didn't think I was "pretty" enough.... I had very popular friends.... was in good social circles and had the attention of guys left and right..... This meant nothing to me..... Having a model agent expound upon your beauty.... or having your friends do so.... or even your momma say nice things... IS O.K. But when you are young and developing your identity--while going through puberty..... this means NADA..... It is when you go to school and the most popular boy says " Virtue (*ahem*)-- You are pretty... I would get with you if you weren't so DAMN BLACK"

Nice.....

You see how this type of thinking could cause just a lil' confusion..... ?



***ddouble--- this happened at Southwest too....***

Sigh... OH MY FAVORITE IS: "You're pretty to be Black".... or "You must be from Ethiopia".... it's like they're saying I like you but can only accept you if I know that your look is something exotic.....or being Black e.g. dark-skinned is a handicap that I have overcome.....

I went to school with many "bougeois" Black people.... in that circle.... and at that time.... the "light skinned" guy was "in".... El Debarge was the ideal looking mate and I suppose any mixed looking woman was "in".... you know... light skinned.... long hair.... fine features..... see.... I had a real complex.... because I have fine features.... at the time long hair..... but "very" dark skin.... so.... this is how it would go.... I was accepted among the "popular" females... in fact I would attract female friends that were absolutely beautiful..... I have always had friends that were drop dead gorgeous.... I could never figure out why.... Here's why.... I realized that I was pretty enough to hang out with meaning no female hanging around me would feel like she lowered her standards socially.... but dark enough so that I wouldn't be a threat.... (until I got to college and hung out in "revolutionary" circles---well that's a story for another day---)
I used to have an affinity for dark chocolate brothas-still do Big Grin But would only end up friends with them.... it was some unwritten rule.... the finest chocolatist (yep its a word now-just made it up).. brotha must get with ANYTHING lighter than himself..... getting with a sister like me meant TOO MUCH BLACK going on..... Sooooo I have ALWAYS grrrrrr.... attracted some El Debarge looking brotha... nothing wrong with it.... but dark men didn't give me the time of day when I was younger.... it was almost like they had to go through some cultural conditioning (i.e read "Malcolm X".... join some ultra Black group) before they would notice me..... of course when I went to college.... this problem was eliminated completely.... It was "Black queen" this or that... etc.. or Nubian princess.... or Queen of Sheba returned.... whaeva.... my self esteem soared... I became sought after because my skin is a smooth dark chocolate..... my skin color was an immediate attraction....

Another phenomenon.... you know Qty. back in the day..... no one would notice me around my friends either... sigh... PAINFUL experience... guys were notorious for this.... but if I was ALONE I was recognized as a GEM.... See the message to me was I do have beauty.... but it just doesn't hold muster around my friends... I'm not beautiful enough......

And the crazy thing is .... that I developed this complex of thinking....... my self esteem would have both extremes of thinking I was the bomb and thinking I was nothing..... and no one I knew could understand how I could ever think I was "unpretty"..... they just didn't get it..... "You get complimented all the time" they'd say.... or "How could you think so low of yourself when guys are calling you left and right?" How? Because men would approach me and give me the kind of attention I appreciated when I was ALONE.... and did not have to compete with 10 Jennifer Lopez's and Beyonce's around me..... It was just me.... and alone I stood out....

Then I started hanging out in more intellectual circles... I just decided to not let life get to me and just be me.... and decided what was important to me was being recognized for the beauty of my mind.... so I began to work on developing relationships with that being the focus.... being complimented on my spirit.... my thinking....and my reasoning ability first was immensely gratifying and ego boosting

God, I hope this all doesn't sound too arrogant... but I'm trying to share.... and dag gonnit it's late.... and apparently I'm developing this crazy habit of telling my life story in front of the whole world.....

WHAEVA....



Peace,
Virtue
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That's quite a moving story virtue.... which all goes to prove how stupid and shallow people can be. Frown

I feel for you and Qty - and like I've said before on this forum - the mind boggles!

However, I do feel I need to say that dark chocolate men experience that too. So if men are saying the same thing then... think about how can you work it out.

I'm not saying IR dating is for everyone, and I can understand all the reasons for black women not wanting to date anyone other than black men, but if a brother only gets attention from sistas when he turns up with a Latino or white woman on his arm, then one day he wakes up and thinks 'stuff that', I'll get me what I want when I want it.

There is no gang of white women or Latino women waiting to ambush black men. Black men (all men) ultimately choose to be with who they want to be with, which translates to... who they can be themselves with.

Likewise there are plenty of black men who will no way want to date non-black women.

I'm not sticking up for black men over black women, I simply have more insight into one side. However it seems the same issue is affecting both genders. Face it.... both sides have issues... not one more than the other.

I think there needs to be more communicating and less attitoooode on both sides. Embrace the issues and see where it goes...more talk, less aggravation.

Whoever you date should always be about free choice.
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Originally posted by Vox:
To close out, Qty & Frenchy... you two are both sexy as hell, and very intelligent.
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He's just saying that Razz

you're just jealous he said it first, LOL !
He's no fool. Wink


LOL... Well of course, since then, it only applies to QTY... Big Grin
I hear you virtue (and I've always heard qty226 too) - color complex is quite the issue. Teenage socialization is always a landmine-filled terrain. In one way or another, we all have issues to sort out. For me, I was always considered "too brainy". For someone that doesn't know your issues, the defense response seems like an unjustified lash out.
Know that with time & personal effort, things get better. Not because others change, but because you become comfortable with who you are. When that happens, the guards come down and you just live.


Now I think I understand a little better why darker sisters may have bristled at my attention back in the day. Perhaps they did not believe me to be sincere. It usually took a lot more effort to maintain those relationships.

Damn - see what happens when we get real and talk to each other instead of at each other.

Thanks virtue for your honest & real moment... If I had been thinking about girls back then (my head was always in a book!), I never would of done that to you.
ALL THIS GOES BACK TO KNOWLEDGE OF SELF, IF WE REALIZE WE ARE AFRICAN PEOPLE AND APART OF THE GLOBAL AFRICAN COMMUNITY WE CAN SEE THAT WE COME IN ALL SHADES AND TEXTURES. SEEMS TO ME SOME BLACK PEOPLE ACT LIKE THEY ARE ALL PRO BLACK AND REVOLUTIONARY, BUT DEEP DOWN HARBOR RESENTMENT FOR BLACK PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY DARKSKINNED BLACK PEOPLE WITH STRONG FEATURES. IT GOES BACK TO "WILLY LYNCH". MANY LIGHTSKINNED BROTHERS AND SISTAS SUFFER TOO,BECAUSE OF THEIR LIGHTSKINNED FEATURES PEOPLE WOULD EITHER LOVE THEM OR HATE THEM AS IF THEY HAD THE ABILITY TO DARKEN THEMSELVES. REMINDS ME OF MY ROOMMATE WHO IS PUERTO RICAN.SISTAS WOULD THROW THEMSELVES AT THE BROTHER SIMPLY BECAUSE HE WAS LIGHTSKINNED AND WHEN HE WOULD CALL THEM ON IT THEY WOULD LOOK ALL BAFFLED LIKE, "WHY ARE YOU QUESTIONING MY LIKING YOU, YOUR LIGHTSKINNED STRAIGHT HAIR" YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY. bUT THIS BROTHER LOVES HIS BLACKNESS AND DEEP DOWN WISHES HE WAS DARKER. THEN ANOTHER ONE OF MY ROOMMATES. A HAITIAN BROTHER, ONLY TALKED TO lIGHTSKINNED WOMEN, I WOULD SEE BEAUTIFUL DARKSKINNED SISTAS FEELING HIM, BUT HE WOULD JUST TOY WITH THEM, BUT IS A REDBONE CAME AROUND HE WAS ALL OVER HER. I USE TO TALK SHYT TO HIM, SAYING HE GOT A COLOR COMPLEX,SEE I KNOW ALOT OF HAITIANS AND TRUTH BE TOLD THATS HOW MUST BLACK SOCIETIES IN THE CARRIBEAN COME DOWN,IF YOU LIGHT YOUR CLOSER TO POWER BECAUSE OF THE SLAVE MASTER TIES AND THE DARKER YOU ARE THE FURTHER IN THE FIELDS YOU WOULD BE. MY POINT IS LOVE YOURSELF, KNOW YOURSELF AND KNOW BLACK PEOPLE COME IN ALL SHADES, AND IF YOU GOT A PROBLEM WITH YOUR SKIN OR YOUR HAIR, LOOK DEEP INSIDE AND MAKE SURE ITS NOT SELF HATE. BUT TO ME AS A BLACK MAN, BLACK WOMEN HAVE A SERIOUS COLOR PROBLEM AND LETS NOT TALK ABOUT THE HAIR, LOL
Virtue,

yeah

My story. I'm a 'cinnamon-milk/chocolatte', and know of what you speak. Ran into that, 'your so pretty, but dark' commentary. My fam hails from Louisiana, and are a mix of almost white to a Wesley Snipes deep chocolate skin tone. The 'redbones' ruled, especially the redbone women. I would, as a child/young girl, talk 'truth' to this'power' and be reprimanded that I was 'hating'. Of course I was'nt, just acknowledging yet another 'ism' in America, and in the African/African American community. The poignancy of your story was incredibly sobering. My elementary class is having a class reunion this year, and those years were tough, as all of the pretty girls were the lighter skin; back then I was a bit defenseless; as a woman, I look forward to this event.
Thanks to all, for the compliments.. Smile


Virtue...

Thanks so much for your post.....

I dont have the type of personality, that allows me to sit back, keep quiet.......when something, or someone is attacking/hurting me. (yes im very outspoken lol)

Reading this, made me think back about my experiences. I've never judged or looked at a black man, just because of his skin color. I've always loved all skin tones.....and i couldnt understand why i wasnt viewed as beautiful to black men....but beautiful to other races.

You mentioned some things that black men actually say to me today:

"Youre beautiful for a dark skinned woman" Mad

"Your hair is beautiful, why is it so straight?" (How the fuck am i supposed to know?)

"Your features are fine, what are you?" "Whats your heritage?" (You cant tell my azz is black?)

This is not only rude.....but it causes me to attack, because my complexion, is always the center of conversation. Im just tired of the behavior of 'some' black people/men.

Now im thinking........after all i've been through, black men want me to approach them? Yeah ok!!!!!



Virtue.....Thanks again.........i've always said, it'll be interesting to see black people (those that hate their own) in 10 years. kiss
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Originally posted by qty226:
Thanks to all, for the compliments.. Smile


Virtue...

Thanks so much for your post.....

You're welcome....

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"Your features are fine, what are you?" "Whats your heritage?" (You cant tell my azz is black?)
Okay... gotta love this..... Yep! I get "Are you Ethiopian (Eritrean) all the time..... In DC I would have Ethiopian men speaking to me in Amharic.... but I just gotta laugh.... hard.... at....
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You cant tell my azz is black?


laugh laugh laugh laugh

Peace,
Virtue

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