Skip to main content

Replies sorted oldest to newest

Yes I have been disappointed in women. I was in a relationship with a young lady, I allowed her to move in with me, I busted my ass paid all the bills, helped her get a job,and I was always concerned about making sure we grew together. She basically decieved me, told me what she thought I wanted to hear,and was really only concerned about what she wanted to do. All along she was still in love with her first love, (who left her for a white girl)and when I caught on to it she tried to blow it off as them just being friends. Im like if you have been broken up with this dude for over a year, and you have a new phone , why is his number in there. To make a long story short, she betrayed me, and I havent spoken to her since.

I am in no ways perfect, I am sure Ive hurt women, but i never betrayed anyone. Thats a feeling I wouldnt wish on anyone.


On general note. Just from laying back observing women, most seem to be attracted to men that look like they got something going on, nice car, flashy clothes, got women chasing them. They love a dude like that. Seems to me most women get off on men who they think are bad boys, but are really frontin.

Also women say men are all about sex and things like that. But it seems to me women are just as bad or worst. If you can put it down in the bedroom, nine times out of ten they will basically put up with anything else. Their idea of a man it seems to me is strictly physical, they say its emotional, but to me her emotions are tied to sex.

Most women I meet say they are intelligent and want a man thats intelligent as well, are really not deep , really not concerned about anything intellectually stimulating , they only care about how you can make her feel. Dont get me wrong knowing how to please your woman in the bedroom is important, but that to me is a small piece in building a strong productive relationship. I know plenty of dudes with nothing going on but the bedroom and they seem to always keep women. Any man that wants to respect a woman for the totallity of what they are are often seen as weak. I was joking with one of my friends the other day. we were like if you say hello, how you doing today sweetheart, a woman will look at you like your crazy, but if you say whatsup shorty they start skinnin and grinin, im rambling i know but just some of the instances
quote:
Originally posted by The one and only ME:
Zakar has sparked my interest in this topic

Have you been disappointed by women? How so?


I have yet to hear a man NOT disappointed in some way...

but men are human, I'm sure just as there are women that disappoint them... and there are those that fill their heart...

depends on the woman...

and their compatibility...


Peace,
Khalliqa
quote:
Originally posted by qty226:
quote:
Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
Yes.

The list of why and how so is to long to put down here.


Just a brief summary would suffice.. Big Grin
lol

*Also please mention what you did to her* Razz



lol....*trying to open up this big can of worms I see. *

The high ability to decieve, manipulate, and undercut a good thing.

The only thing I did was drop them like a bad habit, on the curb in the rain when I got fed up. daz tongue
lol
Forgive me, but I am beginning to see a pattern here.

Could this be the communication issue that women speak of? You expect us to uphold a certain standard-tell you what we want, need, give you our life history but you can't even be bothered with us when we are trying to find out what "WE" as women can do to improve ourselves in the eyes of the black man..........? (That is the ultimate goal of this topic, FOR ME)
quote:
Originally posted by The one and only ME:
Forgive me, but I am beginning to see a pattern here.

Could this be the communication issue that women speak of? You expect us to uphold a certain standard-tell you what we want, need, give you our life history but you can't even be bothered with us when we are trying to find out what "WE" as women can do to improve ourselves in the eyes of the black man..........? (That is the ultimate goal of this topic, FOR ME)


This is a fair question. I'll do my best in trying to answer it:

For me it's simple. Take THAT ONE friend that every woman has. You know the that to her face you go "Yeah girl;do yo thang girl" to but in your mind your shaking your head and thinking "what the hell is wrong with you?". Take that friend, examine her actions, thoughts and just her general life processes and DON'T BE HER OR LIKE HER!

But thats just me and my thoughts......
one and only -

You're new here; let me school you on how things usually go down around here.

Example 1: Woman launches into rant thread about how terrible men are.

95% of the ladies co-sign

Men defend themselves or proclaim that they and their friends do not engage in subject of rant.

Ladies say we are being dishonest and continue to rant, often with little regard for the language used or civility.

Example 2: Man launches into rant thread about how terrible women are.

80-85% of men co-sign

Ladies deny that the behavior occurs, then suggest that ultimately men are the reason the women being ranted about behaved the way they did.

If a lady happens to agree with the male rant, she is quickly shouted down or accused of having some issue (suck-up, brainwashed, naive, unenlightened).

Ladies then relaunch the rants from their threads, overrunning the male poster's thread.

Read through some old threads in the Den, Sista's Spot, and Dating/Relationships. We know how it happens around here; we open up, only to be told our perceptions aren't valid - it's tiring & annoying; so when someone new, possibly with good intentions, posts this type of question, many of us are skeptical.

Lucy's pulled the football away too many times... Wink
Yes, D, I am new here and, trust me, it is not my intention to disclaim anyone's views or opinions. I was asking for real life examples/experiences. Not perspective (which we all know can be questioned).

I don't know any of the other sistas on the site so I can only speak for myself when I say that the only way to "fix" this is to fully communicate the issues and look for REAL ways to adjust...... I mean, if its too late for me, let me teach my daughters to be "good" women in the eyes of society-MOST importantly, the black man.
Have I been disappointed by a woman? Of course. Many times.

How so? By her allowing her friends into our relationship. She began treating me the way her friends treated their unfaithful, irresponsible domineering men; even though, she acknowledged that I exhibited none of those traits.

By her [a different woman] being unfaithful. When we got together she made no bones about her desire to be a "stay-at-home take care of the house" woman. I had no problem with that. I made enough $$$ to meet our financial needs. Her fling was with a hustlin' Bad Boy. He was my polar opposite. I discovered the affair after a week when he stole some money and beat her a$$.

By her [a different woman] refusing to grow beyond where she was, despite my encouragement and support. This was a bright woman who refused to pick up a book; she would rather watch sit-com reruns after she came home from her cashiering job. She actually turned down a promotion because it would've interfered with her TV watching.

By her [a different woman] refusing to allow me to grow beyond where I was. She was an attempted dream-killer. enuff said.

By her [a different woman] spending every dime I made, while b!tching and moaning that I worked too much.

But all of these disappointments taught me lessons and made me the man that I am today. So, I can complain.
quote:
Could this be the communication issue that women speak of? You expect us to uphold a certain standard-tell you what we want, need, give you our life history but you can't even be bothered with us when we are trying to find out what "WE" as women can do to improve ourselves in the eyes of the black man..........? (That is the ultimate goal of this topic, FOR ME)

Here is a start...

1) Don't fuck your man's brother, best friend, cousin, and / or enemy

2) Don't sleep with your girlfriend... unless I am invited.

3) Be where you say you are

4) Keep your pants on in the company of another man.

5) Don't "overlaugh" in the company of another man.

6) When you are in a relationship with a dude, DO NOT PURSUE "FRIENDSHIPS" WITH OTHER MEN."

7) Don't talk to OTHER men about your relationship.

8) Stay out of situations your man would not appreciate.

9) Never go on a vacation without your man.

10) Male friends you had before your relationship with your current man or husband, must be put on CHILL mode.

11) It is okay to dance with another dude at a party or club. It is NOT okay to allow him to rub up on your ass.

12) Do not accept MONEY or GIFTS from any man when you are in a relationship. No HOOKUPS either. And I don't care if your car catches fire in the company parking lot, do not accept a ride from a cat who you KNOW is jocking you.


Chew on this list for awhile....

Add Reply

Post
×
×
×
×
Link copied to your clipboard.
×