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In school earlier this evening after my last class, a group of us were sitting around in the student lounge discussing our latest forays in the investment world (yeah, we're money geeks and I freely admit it... Big Grin). A white woman in our group, somewhat changed the subject into dating. She said "I have to be real with you guys, I am really attracted to black men who are about business and money. There is nothing sexier than to come across a brother who can make money while he's sleeping." Now there are 3 black men and 2 black women among this "round table". Me and the other two brothas sorta got quiet and you could tell we were mentally analyzing her words and trying to figure out what EXACTLY did she mean by this. One of the sistas just had her jaw open and the other one just went off... lol. Afterwards when we were all about to head home, I grabbed a bite to eat with one of the sistas and we discussed what happened. I had to admit, my guard went up when the white female made her comment. Not just the statement but the timing as well did not sit well with me. My reasoning is she made the comment to somehow "irk" the two black females (I can't explain this, its just what my gut is telling me.) My eating partner, believes she made the opening salvo into "getting one of the few black men in this town trying to be about something to be recogonized among her white girlfriends." I would be very interested in hearing different thoughts and opinions on this matter. It really broke down our group and I think it might get worse from here on. Much appreciated....
"Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do."----Bruce Lee "The Tao of Jeet Kune Do"
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Originally posted by donna529:
AS A BLACK FEMALE, I THINK THIS WHITE WOMAN, WAS NOT ONLY TRYING TO PISS THE SISTAS OF, BUT SHE WAS LETTING THE YOU, AND THE OTHER BLACK MEN IN THE GROUP SHE WAS AVAILABLE WITH A CAPITAL "A". BE CAREFUL AND BEWARE, SHE'S LOOKING FOR MONEY, AND SEX WITH A BLACK MAN.


I hear ya donna, I hear ya.... tfro
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Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
She said "I have to be real with you guys, I am really attracted to black men who are about business and money. There is nothing sexier than to come across a brother who can make money while he's sleeping."

I'm going to steal this from Vox because I love it...

FROM BLACK VIKING'S "THAT'S RIGHT, I SAID IT" DEPT:

I smell a gold-digger/mercenary/user! The stench carries pretty far. How much money you make, when you make it, or how you make it is none of her goddamn business. And if that's what she finds "sexy", then she's nothing more than an overpriced hooker.
Ok, you know im gonna tell you straight!! Razz


I see it this way.............really it doesnt matter if she was trying to "irk" the sistas, or not.

To me the comment was derogatory at best....and i really think, one of you men should've said something. It appeared that although you men were shocked.........the comment didnt really 'hit' you to the point of responding.

Im sorry, but if i was sitting there.....i would not intervene. I would be waiting for your lead........allowing you to handle the situation. But for me to 'go off on her', that would not have happened.
Sounds like she ripped a stanky in the middle of the group. Why must people do such lousy things.

I am not going to read too much into what she said as she sounds like she was giving a complement but clearly her timing stunk as the result was perhaps not what she or the rest of you expected. Sometimes we engage our mouths and expect our brains to follow.

The tell will be how she conducts herself next time the group meets (hopefully she will have taken time to reflect on her illtimed comment). If she acts as if nothing happened then pull the alarm.
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Originally posted by Black Viking:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by xxGAMBITxx:
She said "I have to be real with you guys, I am really attracted to black men who are about business and money. There is nothing sexier than to come across a brother who can make money while he's sleeping."



I will play devils advocate real quick, I hear black women say this all the time, just because this white women has a preferance for black men that makes money is she a goldigger? or is the black women with the same statement a goldigger? I feel from the situation she was letting yall brothas know come and get it but just to be sure xxGAMBITxx you take her to burgerking and then try to hit it.
A man who can make money in his sleep is universally appealing. WTF is this "hooker" business for finding a finacially-intelligent and productive man attractive?!?!

Sounds like this woman is used to dating Black men and thus has thrown in the Black references out of habit ("I love a brotha who...."), much in the same way you can go into numerous threads and see us all talking about how "We love a brotha/sista who....". Sounds like flirting. And I would be absolutely livid at anyone upbraiding me for flirting with "someone I'm not 'supposed' to." That sista made herself look real stupid if she "went off." If you're not interested, say so clearly and politely. If you're not the object of affection, shut your trap (at least until you're out of earshot). None of you were even clear on why she said what she did. What is there to get bent out of shape about?
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Originally posted by donna529:
..... BUT SHE WAS LETTING THE YOU, AND THE OTHER BLACK MEN IN THE GROUP SHE WAS AVAILABLE WITH A CAPITAL "A". BE CAREFUL AND BEWARE, SHE'S LOOKING FOR MONEY, AND SEX WITH A BLACK MAN.


Boy, if this does not spell golddigger/virus, then I don't know what does....

Hmmmm....this is when I say as a guy, one must discipline one's self to reason with the bigger head rather than with the smaller lest one might be taken/affected by the human form of a virus!
Thanks for the responses everyone. The white woman in question actually went over to one of the brothas house earlier today....he was not to happy with her and let her know that...Its my feeling she might not last much longer with the group...but thats his story to tell not mine. It will be interesting from here on out. Gotta go be a judge in a martial arts tournment. Ya'll have a good weekend *I'm already running late... lol*
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
A man who can make money in his sleep is universally appealing. WTF is this "hooker" business for finding a finacially-intelligent and productive man attractive?!?!

Sounds like this woman is used to dating Black men and thus has thrown in the Black references out of habit ("I love a brotha who...."), much in the same way you can go into numerous threads and see us all talking about how "We love a brotha/sista who....". Sounds like flirting. And I would be absolutely livid at anyone upbraiding me for flirting with "someone I'm not 'supposed' to." That sista made herself look real stupid if she "went off." If you're not interested, say so clearly and politely. If you're not the object of affection, shut your trap (at least until you're out of earshot). None of you were even clear on why she said what she did. What is there to get bent out of shape about?


I agree with Frenchy on this one.

The truth is most women are going to go for a guy that isn't financially appealing...even if she says she doesn't care how much he makes.


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Originally posted by Donna529:
I THINK THIS WHITE WOMAN, WAS NOT ONLY TRYING TO PISS THE SISTAS OF, BUT SHE WAS LETTING THE YOU, AND THE OTHER BLACK MEN IN THE GROUP SHE WAS AVAILABLE WITH A CAPITAL "A". BE CAREFUL AND BEWARE, SHE'S LOOKING FOR MONEY, AND SEX WITH A BLACK MAN.


Most women want money and sex. If the guy has no money and can't f*** do you think a woman would be interested?

I wasn't there but based on what you have written, it sounds like she tried to flirt but it came out all wrong. I don't think it was meant to piss off anyone either...sounds like she felt more comfortable than she actually was.
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Originally posted by cakeaholic:
I feel from the situation she was letting yall brothas know come and get it but just to be sure xxGAMBITxx you take her to burger king and then try to hit it.

laugh

I guess she knows what she wants and was 'putting it out there'. Ronin is right about her obviously feeling 'comfortable' saying it. Eek She certainly likes the direct approach!

If it's only money and sex she's after, then for sure, it will be an equally minded kind of guy who'll take the bait. Game set match.

I'd love to have been a fly on the wall and seen all your faces.... Wink
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Originally posted by Black Viking:
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Originally posted by cakeaholic:
just because this white women has a preferance for black men that makes money is she a goldigger? or is the black women with the same statement a goldigger?

Yes and yes. A mercenary is a mercenary, no matter the size, shape, or color. td6


I could add my own words, but I think I'll just a quote that says it all...

I ain't saying she's a goldigger, but she ain't messing with no broke, broke....--Kanye West

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