My mom told me today that I'm too hard on my brother. My brother is about 26 years old and is in jail. My brother and I have never had a close relationship. We are just very different from each other.
I feel like my mom and sister babys him way too much. They always take care of him. He never finished highschool and he can never keep a job. He does not even know how to drive a car. Now he does have some good qualities but the bad ones are holding him back.
My mom wants me to help him more financially. Should I? I think that is the reason he's in jail now. He's in jail because he did something stupid when he was 18 but he did not get sent to jail immediately. He was put on probation first. The problem is that he would never hold a job long enough to pay his monthly probation fee. He just likes to sit home and drink and smoke out. So, eventually the judge got tired of giving him chances and sent him off. I agree that he was given many chances and screwed up each one.
My mom raised him differently then she raised me and my sisters. She raised us to be very independent and to work hard for our needs. When my brother came along-he's the youngest-she totally spoiled him by letting him do whatever he wanted. She said she always felt sorry for him because he didn't have a father in his life. She feels guilty about that. Personally, I don't think that should have mattered. I think that she should have been harder on him.
Can anyone relate to this?