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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
@ ricardo....


fanning flames again..

you walk into a heated thread between black people about sensitive black issues

having the nerve...

the nerve!...

to try and give directives to a black man

you don't get to have that....


Do you have daughters her age?

This is bullsh!t.


Shut up.... You are full of BS..

go crawl underneath the gotdamn cave you came from...

you have no place here..... none...

gotdamn cracka


Virtue,

You may not like me because I an white...

That's fine with me...

You don't have to like me...

I feel that we are not so far apart on this issue, however...

But I am here....

And until MBM decides otherwise, I will remain here and comment how I see fit...

No offense to you, personally...

hug


Then let's be clear.... I do not dislike you or like you... I feel nothing for you...

I dislike ACTIONS... and I never like it when someone from a culturally oppressive group inserts himself in such sensitive and critical matters...

do not mistake my anger for a shallow reaction to color....

it is a reaction to not only who you are but what you represent.... and how you choose to interact among us...

I laugh at your jokes when theyre funny... I listen when you have something relevant to say...

but if you walk up into something personal between brother and sister.... dictating to a black man how black he should be...

I'm going to say something...

but then you cursed... thus setting the tone for my post in response...


and unless you're trying to be like other posters here and call me Virtue to blatantly disrespect my wishes... I will not take your "hug" seriously... I will take it as another jab...

call me Khalliqa... or please do not address me at all....

Peace....
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
@ ricardo....


fanning flames again..

you walk into a heated thread between black people about sensitive black issues

having the nerve...

the nerve!...

to try and give directives to a black man

you don't get to have that....


Do you have daughters her age?

This is bullsh!t.


Shut up.... You are full of BS..

go crawl underneath the gotdamn cave you came from...

you have no place here..... none...

gotdamn cracka


Virtue,

You may not like me because I an white...

That's fine with me...

You don't have to like me...

I feel that we are not so far apart on this issue, however...

But I am here....

And until MBM decides otherwise, I will remain here and comment how I see fit...

No offense to you, personally...

hug


Then let's be clear.... I do not dislike you or like you... I feel nothing for you...

I dislike ACTIONS... and I never like it when someone from a culturally oppressive group inserts himself in such sensitive and critical matters...

do not mistake my anger for a shallow reaction to color....

it is a reaction to not only who you are but what you represent.... and how you choose to interact among us...

I laugh at your jokes when theyre funny... I listen when you have something relevant to say...

but if you walk up into something personal between brother and sister.... dictating to a black man how black he should be...

I'm going to say something...

but then you cursed... thus setting the tone for my post in response...


and unless you're trying to be like other posters here and call me Virtue to blatantly disrespect my wishes... I will not take your "hug" seriously... I will take it as another jab...

call me Khalliqa... or please do not address me at all....

Peace....


Khallika,

I used your previous name because it comes to me naturally, and I know how to spell it instinctively, but I will make a special effort to address you in the manner in which you prefer...

I assumed from your phrase "gotdamn cracka" that you were upset at my being white. Perhaps I was mistaken...

I'm glad that you laugh at my jokes, since although I try, they aren't always very funny....I think that I'm pretty funny for a mathematician, but then, the competician isn't all that stiff (with all apologies to HB)...

You may see Zakar's response as something personal between brother and sister, but I do not. Zakar is a grown man. He ought to know better. And he chose to make the comment publicly.

As I said, I have two daughters, 26 and 17. If I seem a bit paternalistic to you, perhaps it is because I am a little bit paternalistic. This tendency of mine is not likely to decrease as I get older. That's one of the prices of aging...

I'd like to think that I get wiser as I get older, but I'm afraid that I'll just have to settle for just being me...

Hope you don't mind...

I'll avoid the huggy icon this time...
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
Khallika,

I used your previous name because it comes to me naturally, and I know how to spell it instinctively, but I will make a special effort to address you in the manner in which you prefer...


Thank you... a small gesture, perhaps but one that is appreciated...


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I assumed from your phrase "gotdamn cracka" that you were upset at my being white. Perhaps I was mistaken...


No, you were correct... I responded in kind to YOUR post... you hauled off with cursing, and your arrogance and nerve to question me about my family (you didn't even read the thread!) was unmitigated gaul.... typical behavior of a GOTDAMN CRACKA... (arrogant culturally and racially insensitive white folk) and BLACK OR WHITE I RESPECT NO MAN that has to curse at me to make his point....

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You may see Zakar's response as something personal between brother and sister, but I do not. Zakar is a grown man. He ought to know better. And he chose to make the comment publicly.

As I said, I have two daughters, 26 and 17. If I seem a bit paternalistic to you, perhaps it is because I am a little bit paternalistic. This tendency of mine is not likely to decrease as I get older. That's one of the prices of aging...


You are blind.... the world isn't just principles and YOUR life, there are BLACK people in it.. with cultural sensitivites that you aren't apart of....

respect this... or you'll constantly be startled when someone takes offense to your color blindness... get a culturally sensitive cane... to help mine your way through....

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I'll just have to settle for just being me...



As will I....

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I'll avoid the huggy icon this time...


gracias...



Peace.....
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:

I responded in kind to YOUR post... you hauled off with cursing,


And I responded to yours in kind. Do you really expect to tell somebody (not for the first time) that they are fanning the flames, simply for expressing an opinion, and not expect to be burned by those very same flames?

I really think that you know better...and that you are not surprised nor "startled"...

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You may see Zakar's response as something personal between brother and sister, but I do not. Zakar is a grown man. He ought to know better. And he chose to make the comment publicly.

As I said, I have two daughters, 26 and 17. If I seem a bit paternalistic to you, perhaps it is because I am a little bit paternalistic. This tendency of mine is not likely to decrease as I get older. That's one of the prices of aging...


You are blind.... the world isn't just principles and YOUR life, there are BLACK people in it.. with cultural sensitivites that you aren't apart of....

respect this... or you'll constantly be startled when someone takes offense to your color blindness... get a culturally sensitive cane... to help mine your way through....


Don't worry...you don't startle me...I'll be just fine...
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Originally posted by Shango67:
Listen Black Viking, you bitch ass mut... be grown and holla my name.

Oh stop, you're killing me... lol

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I've made my peace with this sista in a private and productive conversation.

Yes, I've noticed that that is your MO...

Tear people down in public. Then smooth it all out in private.... so you can tear them down in public again.

Interesting...

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And I also made some mistakes in HOW I communicated with her.

No shit?!?!? I think that may have been the second thing you've ever written that I agree with. Don't bother lighting a match... I'll handle it.

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Nevertheless.... The message is CLEAR...

WHITE MEN ARE NOT AN OPTION

For you.

One day, if you're lucky... you might realize how little control you have over other people's options. I won't hold my breath though.

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ANY SISTER ON AN AFRICAN BLACK website shouldn't be celebrating white men WHILE tearing down brothers.

That's not what was happening here. This response was expected though. I know reading comprehension isn't your strong suit.
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Yes, I've noticed that that is your MO...

She contacted me, half breed. And we worked some things out. Besides that... how would you know ANYTHING about who I talk to in private?
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And I also made some mistakes in HOW I communicated with her.

No shit?!?!? I think that may have been the second thing you've ever written that I agree with. Don't bother lighting a match... I'll handle it.

You know I could give a rats ass about your agreement on what I have written.
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ANY SISTER ON AN AFRICAN BLACK website shouldn't be celebrating white men WHILE tearing down brothers.

That's not what was happening here. This response was expected though. I know reading comprehension isn't your strong suit.

There are MANY things happening here... Brothers being shit upon is one of them. But since you are a cum stain on the matress of some broad at the Alta Vista trailer park and don't function as a brother, you wouldn't be able to see a brother's POV.
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Originally posted by Shango67:
Besides that... how would you know ANYTHING about who I talk to in private?

Because every time you do that, you come right out and boast about it on the main board... just like you did here.

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There are MANY things happening here... Brothers being shit upon is one of them.

Bullshit...

Please point to the post where Brothers were "being shit on". Or, if that's too much work for you... then you can engage in one of your trademark skillful dodges. Or, you could always just shut the fuck up. That'd be OK too.

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But since you are a cum stain on the matress of some broad at the Alta Vista trailer park and don't function as a brother, you wouldn't be able to see a brother's POV.

You really crack me up with this dumbshit... laugh

Your POV has not a damn thing to do with being a Brother. It has to do with you being a bigoted basket-case. Trust me, there are FAR more White people in this world that share your "point of view" than there are Black folks. Like I've told you before, you're preaching to the wrong choir... my Brotha.
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Her identity is a Black woman regardless of her location or experiences... this could have been affirmed...

So you say. Is that what I should have done?
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A black woman would warrant some benefit of the doubt if she says this was what her experience was.... I would err on the side of caution... to dismiss a woman's harrassment claims outright would be insensitive...

Not in every case - and especially when it appears as if the accuser has issues with, in this case, Black boys. No, I don't think her claim should be dismissed - but given the level of anti-Black male sentiment, it damn sure should be INVESTIGATED... unless the doctrine of innocent until PROVEN guilty doesn't apply to Black school boys.

False or unfounded accussations is a STINK that never washes off.
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I will not be dictated to..

Neither will I.
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if you say you weren't enraged... so be it... I will accept that... I do accept it... now that I know better, but you have to accept that is how you initially came off to me.... and possibly others...

Did you say that "I HAVE TO ACCEPT that is how you initially came off to me.... and possibly others...?"

Are you, the same woman who will not be TOLD what to do, TELLING me what I have to accept?

No. I will not tolerate any Black woman using language that white folks use to charcterize the behavior of Black men. I was not ENRAGED even if that was your interpretation. And throwing in the "POSSIBLY others" thing is CUTE and certainly not relevant. Do you really find it neccessary to make your point by throwing that? Real or imagined support of what you thought about my intial post doesn't change my stance on this issue. You used the term "rage" just like you label me as "harsh" - LANGUAGE as a weapon or a tool... it is part of your overall DISMISIVE tone when checking brothers who don't dance to your tune.

It is plain old WHITESPEAK.
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when I am weak... I gravitate to those who are emotionally strong.... and are receptive... not accusatory...

Good for you.
White guys have a way of keeping their desire/lust for a black woman hidden. I have had many experiences where at work, in a store, at a gas station a white guy will smile, chat, and give a compliment... but the minute someone else enters the scene he flips it back to platonic mode...

I do not like this sort of secret chocolate booty fetish behavior in white men...

this sort of "yes, i'll have some of that, but i don't want anyone else to know i like chocolate"

wassup with that?
Peace.....

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Originally posted by Shango67:
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Her identity is a Black woman regardless of her location or experiences... this could have been affirmed...

So you say. Is that what I should have done?


Brother, I was just offering a suggestion of what COULD have been done...

I saw in her writings a young girl (GIRL), raised in an environment that would not be celebrating her blackness... It is telling in her posts that her worldview stems from this...

A Black man encountering such a situation...

could take the opportunity to enlighten her and show her what she does not see...

I saw exactly what you and Zakar saw... but I also saw her humanity, her YOUTH,her naivete and her willingness to expand her experiences....

we are all older... as her older BIG BROTHER... this could have been handled with kid gloves...

that is simply my impression...

attacking her outright did not seem productive.... or fair..

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A black woman would warrant some benefit of the doubt if she says this was what her experience was.... I would err on the side of caution... to dismiss a woman's harrassment claims outright would be insensitive...

Not in every case - and especially when it appears as if the accuser has issues with, in this case, Black boys. No, I don't think her claim should be dismissed - but given the level of anti-Black male sentiment, it damn sure should be INVESTIGATED...


Before I pounced on her for having anti-Black male sentiment.... I would have waited... there are other things in her posts that suggests that this wasn't the case.... and even if it wasn't..... I think it could have been prudent to just wait a little while longer before judging someones so young and so new to the board so harshly..... plus she decided to come to a predominately Black message board... if she wanted a white boy sincerely she wouldn't be here... white boys are easily accessible...... and hungry...

and... well... if she hated Black men...

she certainly would not have contacted you...


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unless the doctrine of innocent until PROVEN guilty doesn't apply to Black school boys.

False or unfounded accussations is a STINK that never washes off.


I have two black boys, preaching to the choir here...

there is nothing wrong with holding out your impression of someone a little bit ON A MESSAGE BOARD

at least I don't think so...

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if you say you weren't enraged... so be it... I will accept that... I do accept it... now that I know better, but you have to accept that is how you initially came off to me.... and possibly others...

Did you say that "I HAVE TO ACCEPT that is how you initially came off to me.... and possibly others...?"

Are you, the same woman who will not be TOLD what to do, TELLING me what I have to accept?


No, Sir.... Black Man... I'se shole not doing dat...

jokes aside.. no, brother.... It was a simple like in kind response.... I have accepted that you do not wish to be labeled enraged for minor anger.... this is your directive to me.... I took it... I acquiesced.... I'm simply saying.. now... it's your turn

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No. I will not tolerate any Black woman using language that white folks use to charcterize the behavior of Black men.


White folk created the English language.... all words are not forbidden to me .... when I use them... they're mine... I do not have a white person in my head speaking for me.... You may not tolerate it, but I reserve the right to describe rage when I see it... and for the record I never said you were "enraged".. I said a brother in "rage" the difference in the latter is that I was describing you as someone who was not under the control of rage.... but as someone beyond anger.... I have the right to say this if it looks this way... and I'm humble enough and respectful enough to retract it when I feel it is not accurate, which I have done...

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And throwing in the "POSSIBLY others" thing is CUTE and certainly not relevant. Do you really find it neccessary to make your point by throwing that? Real or imagined support of what you thought about my intial post doesn't change my stance on this issue.



D? Is that you? Jesus... no consipiracy.... it was just an additional thought that popped in my head... sorry I will never allude to others possibly sharing my viewpoint.

Geesh...

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You used the term "rage" just like you label me as "harsh" - LANGUAGE as a weapon or a tool... it is part of your overall DISMISIVE tone when checking brothers who don't dance to your tune. It is plain old WHITESPEAK.


You of all people know it is darn near impossible for a sister to really check a brother who feels like he has the privilege to tell her how to interpret his actions, how not to act around white boys and validate HIS overreading or underreading of her motivations...

no.... it is simple... I find you harsh at times...

that is all.... I didn't check with my "HOW TO BE DISMISSIVE TO THE BLACK MAN IN WHITESPEAK" dictionary when I said it...

It's not a tool... not a weapon... not trying to kill you with my words... or use it to manipulate you...

look you said that you thought Black women should present Brothers with their grievances....

I find you harsh sometimes... and I've learned to sort of gird myself or avoid talking to you in moments like that so that I'm not hurt....

ga..



Peace,
Khalliqa
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Originally posted by negrospiritual:
White guys have a way of keeping their desire/lust for a black woman hidden. I have had many experiences where at work, in a store, at a gas station a white guy will smile, chat, and give a compliment... but the minute someone else enters the scene he flips it back to platonic mode...

I do not like this sort of secret chocolate booty fetish behavior in white men...

this sort of "yes, i'll have some of that, but i don't want anyone else to know i like chocolate"

wassup with that?


racism...


I talk to white boys daily.. (rolls eyes at anyone about to read too deeply into this...)

they don't hide their lusts ...... so, I've never experienced the lust then hide move...

but... in all honesty, and this is scrait prejudice fa sho...

the ugliest black man next to a white man is more attractive to me...

something about recessive genes is a turn off..


*I know... I know* (ala ma'am)

*ducking the tomatoes*


I'll see myself out...



Peace,
Khalliqa
I'd have to disagree on that one Kalliqa....

I think white men still have vestiges of the slave shack syndrome. They would like to come down to the quarters at night and have fun....

but do not allow or admit that they desire and have sex with black women...

until the beige pickaninnies start showing up...

I used to say "the master's grandson will never get this".

but I do see the master's grandson peeping down my blouse and looking at my butt and then averting his eyes. For this reason, he never ever takes you seriously on the job.

Over the years I have learned to be polite and hold a conversation to avoid the "crazy black chick" label at work

but

I still eye the master's grandson suspiciously, even if he seems benign...
*shrug*
I find it very strange this lady has not returned to this thread!!! Conveniently absent when the topic is heating up. People are defending her and she has not reappeared to defend herself. I find that very strange, Im starting to believe there people who come to this website, impersonate black people start inflamatory threads and sit back and watch us fight. We have been infiltrated and the enemy is laughing!!
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
@ ricardo....


fanning flames again..

you walk into a heated thread between black people about sensitive black issues

having the nerve...

the nerve!...

to try and give directives to a black man

you don't get to have that....


Do you have daughters her age?

This is bullsh!t.


Shut up.... You are full of BS..

go crawl underneath the gotdamn cave you came from...

you have no place here..... none...

gotdamn cracka


Virtue,

You may not like me because I an white...

That's fine with me...

You don't have to like me...

I feel that we are not so far apart on this issue, however...

But I am here....

And until MBM decides otherwise, I will remain here and comment how I see fit...

No offense to you, personally...

hug


Then let's be clear.... I do not dislike you or like you... I feel nothing for you...

I dislike ACTIONS... and I never like it when someone from a culturally oppressive group inserts himself in such sensitive and critical matters...

do not mistake my anger for a shallow reaction to color....

it is a reaction to not only who you are but what you represent.... and how you choose to interact among us...

I laugh at your jokes when theyre funny... I listen when you have something relevant to say...

but if you walk up into something personal between brother and sister.... dictating to a black man how black he should be...

I'm going to say something...

but then you cursed... thus setting the tone for my post in response...


and unless you're trying to be like other posters here and call me Virtue to blatantly disrespect my wishes... I will not take your "hug" seriously... I will take it as another jab...

call me Khalliqa... or please do not address me at all....

Peace....


My sister!!!!!!! thanks tfro rock
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You of all people know it is darn near impossible for a sister to really check a brother who feels like he has the privilege to tell her how to interpret his actions, how not to act around white boys and validate HIS overreading or underreading of her motivations...

It is not about privilege...

I prefer to see this as being liberated, empowered, and free.
I hadn't realized this thread got so heated and for the record I am not impersinating anyone and you can even check out my homepage if you don't believe me. I just got back from a family trip to New Mexico and I didn't have access to a computer except on my sidekick but it takes forever to load so that's why I haven't been around for a few days.Just to clear some things about my paticular situation up yes I do live in a predominatly white town but I will be leaving for college in two weeks, when I was being harassed it almost became physical until I stepped in and said enough was enough and I did go to my teacher before reporting it to the authorities because I didn't wanna cause trouble because I was usually the quiet type and after talking to a counselor at the woman's help line I decided it was in my best interest and safety since the teacher wasn't doing anything to put a stop to it, I haven't really dated much because my parent's didn't allow it until 9th grade and I dressed on the modest side of things which wasn't considered "in" or "hot" which was why alot of boys wouldn't approach me, and in the end of it all I honestly have no idea what kind of guy I 'm going to end up with in life weather it be white or black I just want to end up with someone who treats me well and is interested in my ideas and feeligns and having that connection but isn't that what we all want?Also yes I have dated some white guys who are jerks or just wanted some , but there were some who treated me good like I never meant to generalize by saying all "black men are bad"I just haven't found the right kind of guy I want to date after my break up with my boyfriend of 8 months I was just sharing a negative experience I went through growing up in my kind of town where alot of African American people aren't presant thus my dating white guys because we could connect on some things, but I will be starting college in two weeks and guys are the last thing on my mind because I'm putting all my focus into earning my business degree.
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Originally posted by Shango67:
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You of all people know it is darn near impossible for a sister to really check a brother who feels like he has the privilege to tell her how to interpret his actions, how not to act around white boys and validate HIS overreading or underreading of her motivations...

It is not about privilege...

I prefer to see this as being liberated, empowered, and free.


There is a HUGE opening here you're leaving for me to attack....

but I ain't gonna...

I'll leave it be... and say..


Peace....

Khalliqa
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Originally posted by nayo:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
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Originally posted by ricardomath:
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Originally posted by virtue/Khalliqa:
@ ricardo....


fanning flames again..

you walk into a heated thread between black people about sensitive black issues

having the nerve...

the nerve!...

to try and give directives to a black man

you don't get to have that....


Do you have daughters her age?

This is bullsh!t.


Shut up.... You are full of BS..

go crawl underneath the gotdamn cave you came from...

you have no place here..... none...

gotdamn cracka


Virtue,

You may not like me because I an white...

That's fine with me...

You don't have to like me...

I feel that we are not so far apart on this issue, however...

But I am here....

And until MBM decides otherwise, I will remain here and comment how I see fit...

No offense to you, personally...

hug


Then let's be clear.... I do not dislike you or like you... I feel nothing for you...

I dislike ACTIONS... and I never like it when someone from a culturally oppressive group inserts himself in such sensitive and critical matters...

do not mistake my anger for a shallow reaction to color....

it is a reaction to not only who you are but what you represent.... and how you choose to interact among us...

I laugh at your jokes when theyre funny... I listen when you have something relevant to say...

but if you walk up into something personal between brother and sister.... dictating to a black man how black he should be...

I'm going to say something...

but then you cursed... thus setting the tone for my post in response...


and unless you're trying to be like other posters here and call me Virtue to blatantly disrespect my wishes... I will not take your "hug" seriously... I will take it as another jab...

call me Khalliqa... or please do not address me at all....

Peace....


My sister!!!!!!! thanks tfro rock


Thank you nayo...



Peace,
Khalliqa
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Originally posted by negrospiritual:
I'd have to disagree on that one Kalliqa....

I think white men still have vestiges of the slave shack syndrome. They would like to come down to the quarters at night and have fun....

but do not allow or admit that they desire and have sex with black women...

until the beige pickaninnies start showing up...

I used to say "the master's grandson will never get this".

but I do see the master's grandson peeping down my blouse and looking at my butt and then averting his eyes. For this reason, he never ever takes you seriously on the job.

Over the years I have learned to be polite and hold a conversation to avoid the "crazy black chick" label at work

but

I still eye the master's grandson suspiciously, even if he seems benign...
*shrug*


I hear you.... I don't trust men in general though.... It's just my experience that the white men I'm around don't hide their lusts.... I deal with their crap daily...


and no I'm never taken seriously on the job.... I'm looked at as a piece of meat the firm can present to their clients....


but they admit all the damn time they want sex... they freakin praise Black women at my firm..... her body that is....

"beige pickaninnies"... girl no you didn't...

lol



Peace,
Khalliqa
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Originally posted by ZAKAR:
I find it very strange this lady has not returned to this thread!!! Conveniently absent when the topic is heating up. People are defending her and she has not reappeared to defend herself.


In all honesty Zakar, she didn't have to... This argument, like Shango says was about MANY things trust me.....

As it relates to her it wasn't just her as an individual that was being defended but ideas and principles that had been fought in other threads as well as private subtle arguments...

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I find that very strange, Im starting to believe there people who come to this website, impersonate black people start inflamatory threads and sit back and watch us fight. We have been infiltrated and the enemy is laughing!!


I understand your suspicion, Zakar, this site DOES keep getting inflammatory threads started... but in this case she said nothing inflammatory... all her posts read as someone sharing...

something she herself confirmed...



Peace,
Khalliqa
Peace...


reposting...


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Originally posted by Glamour_Dollxoxo:
I hadn't realized this thread got so heated and for the record I am not impersinating anyone and you can even check out my homepage if you don't believe me. I just got back from a family trip to New Mexico and I didn't have access to a computer except on my sidekick but it takes forever to load so that's why I haven't been around for a few days.Just to clear some things about my paticular situation up yes I do live in a predominatly white town but I will be leaving for college in two weeks, when I was being harassed it almost became physical until I stepped in and said enough was enough and I did go to my teacher before reporting it to the authorities because I didn't wanna cause trouble because I was usually the quiet type and after talking to a counselor at the woman's help line I decided it was in my best interest and safety since the teacher wasn't doing anything to put a stop to it, I haven't really dated much because my parent's didn't allow it until 9th grade and I dressed on the modest side of things which wasn't considered "in" or "hot" which was why alot of boys wouldn't approach me, and in the end of it all I honestly have no idea what kind of guy I 'm going to end up with in life weather it be white or black I just want to end up with someone who treats me well and is interested in my ideas and feeligns and having that connection but isn't that what we all want?Also yes I have dated some white guys who are jerks or just wanted some , but there were some who treated me good like I never meant to generalize by saying all "black men are bad"I just haven't found the right kind of guy I want to date after my break up with my boyfriend of 8 months I was just sharing a negative experience I went through growing up in my kind of town where alot of African American people aren't presant thus my dating white guys because we could connect on some things, but I will be starting college in two weeks and guys are the last thing on my mind because I'm putting all my focus into earning my business degree.
nono Guys...guys....GUYS! She's young...a baby. Haven't even gotten her feet wet on life's lessons yet.... I can see some of you will ATTACK ANYONE...regardless of inexperience and without justification! For shame! Pick on somebody who share the same level of maturity...why dontcha! This should be a place where she can learn from both male and female adults without judgment. Jeez! Right now...I am totally embarassed...and they wonder why "kids" behave the way they do....and are sooo disrespectful toward adults. Red Face Where could they possibly get that from? Confused
fro
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Originally posted by Kocolicious:
nono Guys...guys....GUYS! She's young...a baby. Haven't even gotten her feet wet on life's lessons yet.... I can see some of you will ATTACK ANYONE...regardless of inexperience and without justification! For shame! Pick on somebody who share the same level of maturity...why dontcha! This should be a place where she can learn from both male and female adults without judgment. Jeez! Right now...I am totally embarassed...and they wonder why "kids" behave the way they do....and are sooo disrespectful toward adults. Red Face Where could they possibly get that from? Confused
fro


yeah

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