LOL...I LOVE those videos!

"Vagina's can't talk!"....

"I became a therapist because of the amount of therapy it took me to become an adult human being!" -Dr. Pat Allen


.....PRICELESS!!!

Very insightful videos...

What I was wondering when watching the first video and watching his reaction to what she said about "you play with vaginas, but you can't marry a vagina...you want to marry a woman of virtue..." ....was why he looked like he was confused?

Many Men seem to believe that they want to have sex first, then let love and commitment come...sort of like a "test drive". Think, "R.Kelly" ..."you remind me of my Jeep"...LOL.

...and I think, "But aren't you falling in lust then, and not love, if the sex is what makes you want to commit or not commit?"

Many Women want to be in love and have a commitment before they give up the goods....and many Men seem to think this is UnRealistic because they come from the StandPoint of, "What if we get married and the sex is wack?" (Like Women don't want good sex, too!)

But we're (meaning society) told that Men consider other issues when deciding to commit, while sex is a major issue.

Personally, I think that dealing with SomeOne who respects where you're at and who is willing to build a solid FriendShip with you, is the best individual to deal with...and you don't have to build FriendShips with just one person.

Get to know several key people...and go from there. There's nothing wrong with dating several people at once, as you have no commitment....just be honest about that with all people involved. Now, that DOES NOT mean you should have sex with those people. Rather, go out and have fun, find out what you both like and see how the other party thinks.

Using this process, eventually it will be easy to spot who you'd want to spend your life with.

"Wisdom Is A Woman UnderStanding!"
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Originally posted by kevin1122:
Video #2 was very insightful. In Vid #1, I noticed the lady giving advice was like 100 years old and was giving the younger man advice about the women of today. I get a feeling her advice might not apply to the type of women this man is looking for.

Kevin


That adviser in video #1 is the same woman who was in video #2. I remember seeing that on the Bravo show "Millionaire Matchmaker."
Oh lord I was going to say something about this. . but it would've come across crass. So in short, I will say this. If I were a man, I would want a wife too. How sweet it is to have someone support all your needs and stroke your ego as a prerequisite and take total care of you. Roll Eyes Sounds more like a mommy and not an wife. Yes I'm jaded, today.
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Originally posted by Yemaya:
Oh lord I was going to say something about this. . but it would've come across crass. So in short, I will say this. If I were a man, I would want a wife too. How sweet it is to have someone support all your needs and stroke your ego as a prerequisite and take total care of you. Roll Eyes Sounds more like a mommy and not an wife. Yes I'm jaded, today.


Okay, maybe that's what it is, Yemaya!! 19

'Cause I watched the #2 video TWICE ... but instead of all of that *insight* everybody else seemed to be able to see, I was like Confused 19 Confused 19 Confused



I didn't get it ... but, your interpretation does make it make at least a little sense for me!! I'll take what I can get! Big Grin
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Originally posted by EbonyRose:
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Originally posted by Yemaya:
Oh lord I was going to say something about this. . but it would've come across crass. So in short, I will say this. If I were a man, I would want a wife too. How sweet it is to have someone support all your needs and stroke your ego as a prerequisite and take total care of you. Roll Eyes Sounds more like a mommy and not an wife. Yes I'm jaded, today.


Okay, maybe that's what it is, Yemaya!! 19

'Cause I watched the #2 video TWICE ... but instead of all of that *insight* everybody else seemed to be able to see, I was like Confused 19 Confused 19 Confused



I didn't get it ... but, your interpretation does make it make at least a little sense for me!! I'll take what I can get! Big Grin


I'm no psychotherapist, hell I don't even have a bachelor's degree. However, I work almost exclusively with MEN. And this shit is expected of women in ADDITION to all the other things adults are responsible for in life. Instead of taking a mature and spiritual approach of working together as a TEAM to build a life together.
Then ya'll should watch video #2 on mo' again, ladies!

She said: (pardon my poor job of transcribing)

1. Men are EXTREMELY attracted to happy women, women who are happy ALONE and are willing to share it, as well as being in love with themselves, as a result men want to share it.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT?

2. A good man knows his job is to give, protect, and cherish and that he should expect to be appreciated for that along with some fun.

WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT?

3. Women need to realize how men feel about their daughters under age 10, and his mamma. All other women are to respect him or he will go away. The more he's respected,the more he feels cherished, and he reciprocates that.

I AGREE WITH THAT. I don't believe in UNCONDITIONAL love in any case, except for that of my mother and daughter. Everyone else will get the boot for their transgressions.

4. When a woman says "love ME better than you love YOURSELF".. this is disrespectful and outta pocket. Any man who falls for this is not a man.

I AGREE WITH THIS AS WELL. I believe in some of the words of King Solomon when he said 'don't give your strength to women, or your ways to that which destroy Kings".

This is the opposite of what the ladies are saying about "EGO". I don't need my ego stroked or my ass kissed by ANY WOMEN. I want you to show some respect and behave yourself. I don't and will not be so much in love with anyone who I won't give the boot for disrespect.

5. If a woman gives up that INDEPENDENCE, then she DESERVES to be cherished and protected.

I AGREE WITH THAT TOO.

6. Complementary energy attracts intimacy, and competitive energy neutralizes it as well.

I AGREE WITH THAT.

7. Mothering is Emasculating (this is what she MEANT TO SAY). BOYS need MOTHERS - not men.

I AGREE WITH THAT.

8. Mind, Body, and Spirit need to be negotiated.

I AGREE WITH THAT.

So again, ladies, what is the issue with video #2 again.
Okay, DODDY ....

With THAT translation ... I can agree with you (and her)!! Smile

As I said before, she confused me and I wasn't really sure what she was trying to say! Eek But ... since you broke it down for me (in Black people speak Big Grin), I can comprehendingly give y'all a tfro.
I didn’t care for the advice she gave in video #1. To dehumanize the women he has been with by calling them “viginas” was stupid. To say “you can’t talk to a vigina”, just because you are having sex with a woman doesn’t mean you can’t talk to her also; and to say he will become bored with a woman who is great in bed but not a great conversationalist, how does she know this? Does she know his track record with the women he has been with?
I’ll bet with many men, if the woman is a great conversationalist but refuses to have sex, they will become bored as well; I know I would.

I thought video #1 was rather dumb

Kevin

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