quote:Originally posted by Saracen:
What about a brotha who enjoys a few Lap dances while at the topless bar? You know it is very difficult to leave a strip club without smelling like perfume and sweat...The odor is saturated in your clothing...Oftimes, dancers like to go beyond simply dancing while on a man's lap..Many like to kiss the customers while perfoming the lap dance....
I can't really offer a "typical woman's" point-of-view on this, but I can answer with my own thoughts.
I've never really seen this happen outside of the shady, brothel-like, "jump down" strip clubs in Brooklyn. The lap dance wouldn't bother me, but I would be a little miffed/curious about the kiss. It signifies a lack of typical security for the ladies and boundaries in the club and makes me wonder what else is going on at this bootleg flophouse. These women don't kiss you because they like you or find you cute or want to date you. They don't "like" to go beyond anything other than what is required to make their living. If they are doing things beyond what a typical stripper does, that signifies a dangerous environment IMO. The pimp/boss is either expecting her to perform this way or the customer is a tightwad. I would lose respect for any man contributing to that kind of setup.
quote:I am sure that a sista would be upset if her man came home smellig like another woman with the lip stick stains on his clothing.
Not sure this would be so much of any issue if your partner knew where you were going ahead of time and was okay with the idea. Otherwise, it's a bit like being pissed you came home from a bar smelling like booze. Now, if you come home smelling like "protein," you should rightly be in the doghouse.
quote:And by the by....Do women who visit strip clubs pay men for lap dances??
Brotha, where do you get this idea that strippers do anything for free?? LOL!! These men have every right to earn a decent living as well.