Originally posted by Sweetwuzzy:
I agree, but the thing is a lot of black men bring this on themselves.Some black men always have to justify their relationships by degrading black women or comparing them to white/non-black women. How many times have you heard the following:
Either that guy who was bitter over the sisters, must've been hurt really bad from an ex, or he watched way too many episodes of "Girlfriends."
1.black women are loud, bitchy,have attitudes, and are unsupportive.
2. black women are sexually stagnant
3. black women are not attractive
4."Most" black women have kids
It's very patheric, and it reminds me of people who always talk about their ex's to their new girlfriends/boyfriends. If more black men(and black women for that matter) would stop justifying their interracial relationships by degrading their own people,I think that many black women/black men would not care as much.
Of course you have black women and black men who do not like it at all.
Sometimes when I see a beautiful white or non-black woman, I overanalyze my own thinking (saying "do I like her because I think she's cute, or do I like her because society has conditioned me to like her?"). In case I'm attracted to her, I want to like her for the right reason.
Anyway, since there are many times when black men bring this bitterness on themselves, there are also some times when black women bring it on themselves too.
For example, when a black man does date a white or non-black woman of color (regardless of his reason), one sista would might say "do you love your mother/sister/grandmother/aunt? When you diss me you're dissing your mother/grandmother/aunt..."
Sometimes you just want to say to the woman:
"Look I'm not dissing my mom, I'm dissing you.
What does my mother, grandmother, aunt have to do with this? I love my mother, sister, grandmother, and aunts...but I don't want to DATE
If a woman tells a man "I'd rather see you date your mama than a woman of a different race," she's gonna be lonely for long time. That's a deranged, crazy thing to say to a guy.