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I don't have a universal answer on when it is the right time to take a relationship in the sexual direction, it would depend on the relationship-each relationship is different and would require a different time. It would be the same for a goodnight kiss/hug. I would expect a hug on the first date, at least, if the date went good but not a kiss well maybe a kiss on the check. kiss now the second date it's on cabbage eyes Wink I would expect a kiss by the third successful date- not a deep tongue down my throat kiss stck, but a kiss on the mouth yes. eyes
Hugging or pecking doesn't really count as sexual for me. At least not on a first dates it doesn't (those are things that increase in value or something. . .later--I know, I'm probably weird in that mindset, lol).

So I don't see it as taboo early on.

My timeline on those is pretty much like MPG's.

But we probably deviate on the stuff that I consider sexual.

At least in regards to sex.

I'm going to be celibate until marriage.

At least that's the goal.
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Originally posted by ma'am:
Hugging or pecking doesn't really count as sexual for me. At least not on a first dates it doesn't (those are things that increase in value or something. . .later--I know, I'm probably weird in that mindset, lol).

So I don't see it as taboo early on.

My timeline on those is pretty much like MPG's.

But we probably deviate on the stuff that I consider sexual.

At least in regards to sex.

I'm going to be celibate until marriage.

At least that's the goal.


I forgot you were waiting ah....if i could go back 19
I hear you Ma'am...I've been abstaining for seven years.

Getting sexual should be reserved for when you fully know that individual and they know you. If you are going to get intimate with that individual, you are raising the stakes of the union and upping the ante on any expectations express or implied.

That's a sore spot for some, as some don't express or imply the same thing at various times.
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Originally posted by ShayaButHer:
If you are going to get intimate with that individual, you are raising the stakes of the union and upping the ante on any expectations express or implied.

That's a sore spot for some, as some don't express or imply the same thing at various times.


How do you mean?

From fellow ex-romantics (buds who were waiting for the ring and slipped), the advice has been to keep the bar lower than what you are willing. Like, if you are willing to do oral before marriage, just go as far as one step below oral. That type of thing.

Is that how you mean?
Ma'am,

I'm saying that once the two start engaging in sex or heightened intimacy, expecially on a regular basis, most people tend to be a lot more invested in the RelationShip, therefore becoming more attached.

For most Women, sex is not just sex and for many Men, sex is ONLY sex. So people need to be clear about how their intentions and interactions are affecting another individual. They need to be on the same page about what sex for them means and about the direction their RelationShip is heading.

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