quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:
What about your black artists? Sculptors? Writers? Painters? Engineers? Accountants? Scholars? Dentists? Community Activists? We have some of those you know? These aren't cream of the crop? And they're deserving men.
Have Black Women Gotten Out Of The Black Man's Reach?
Brother Honestbrother, Frenchy's argument is that whatever a woman's idea of a best pick is, she should be able to pursue such a man, if she so chooses. Whether her idea of a best pick is Denzel or Mr. T--that is her business. Women are not children that require special guidance or direction. Women are grown adults just as men are adults, responsible for making their own decisions.
Also, another explanation for why more women are demanding the right to be selective is that, traditionally, women didn't enjoy as much "independence" and "freedom" as they do today. Both men and women must accept, however, that times have dramatically changed. A woman no longer has to sit around and wait on whoever comes along that is willing to marry and create a life for her. Women can now develop standards and criteria as to what "types" of men they will accept and won't accept. And though some men will never admit it, this reality causes them great anxiety. They worry that women, particularly "super educated" Black women, are becoming too judgemental and unwilling to view the average Joe as acceptable partners.