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For all the people that arent married Imagine your ideal mate. The looks, personality, also the persons character, and career. Now think about yourself truthully, and ask yourself these two questions , Am I good enough for this person? What do I bring to the table? I would apprecaite some honest answers.
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For all the people that arent married Imagine your ideal mate. The looks, personality, also the persons character, and career. Now think about yourself truthully, and ask yourself these two questions , Am I good enough for this person? What do I bring to the table? I would apprecaite some honest answers.




If one sets a standard for others they too will be judged by that same standard.
just about every black person i know, including myself, who has a list of "standards" or marriage requirement for a mate ISN'T married.

it's time to break down Mr./Mrs. Barrier.

Basically, we should be willing to marry whoever makes us happy -- on way or another.

Even if you found a mate/spouse who satisfied the criteria for marriage, PEOPLE STILL WILL CHANGE. That is why I DO beleive in divorce.
I know what you're getting at and it's true.

For myself, I don't ask for more than I give, but I guess I do ask a lot. Or do I?

I bring a mixed bag of qualities to any relationship - what I don't do is bring past baggage and too many expectations - but the bottom line is no matter what you bring to the table, whether it's values, looks, aspirations, outlook, skills, passion, energy, smarts, loyalty etc... what matters most, in reality, is finding the person who values those qualities - whatever they are. So no matter how wonderful you are - or think you are - you need to connect with someone who sees you as special to them. Because if they don't value those things about you... they don't value you. Needless to say... that works both ways. And it's hard to find any magic in that. Wink JMHO.
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Am I good enough for this person? What do I bring to the table? I would apprecaite some honest answers.


Am I good enough for the man of my dreams, honestly I believe am. I think that you dream about someone who is completely compatible to who you as you are, without changing a thing. I know that for me I want to be cherished, I also know that if I had the man of my dreams I would cherish him because I know what it feels like not to be cherished. I want honesty and I know that I can be honest, because I know what it feels like to be lied to. I want someone who is willing to work because I am willing to work. I want a believer, an over acheiever, I want someone compatible to me as I am. So do I honestly think I deserve the man of my dreams... without a doubt, because I know that he deserves me.
I will have to say as a married person that,
no I did not bring a lot to the table- hell I was broke when we met. I am ill tempered and selfish at the best of times.
I know that my wife is a much better person than I ever will be, but she chose me so the best that I can try to do is to treat her with the love and respect that she deserves ( yes I'm still a prick but I am trying!!)
So the most I can say is try to be better than you are, that is all that they should be asking from you. If they ask more or look at you as a fix it problem then move on as they will never respect you for you.

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