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First of all I like too state I like ladies of all sizes but I am currently started talking too a plus size lady. And shes the biggest girl I ever went out with. Sometimes Im attracted too this chick and sometimes Im not. Its odd when she wears something thats a little form fitting and shows her curves its cool, but when she wears something that trys too hide her trouble areas she ends up looking round which is a turn off too me. Ive been talking and dating for about 4 months, and she always would question why im not always all over her. So I told her yesterday.... she doesnt understand . But I just want too know if anybody else on here ever felt like this?, and what did you do about it?
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Originally posted by TruthSeeker:
Your post only references your physical attraction/non-attraction to this woman. What's her head/heart like? How do you feel about what you find there?


Well, shes very kind,smart, sweet will do anything for ya,not jaded by bad things that happened in her past, good cook, independent. All the things that I dont see in alot of females know of days. I geniunely do like, and care about her. Just sometimes theres not a strong physical attraction.
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Originally posted by cakeaholic:
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Originally posted by TruthSeeker:
Your post only references your physical attraction/non-attraction to this woman. What's her head/heart like? How do you feel about what you find there?


Well, shes very kind,smart, sweet will do anything for ya,not jaded by bad things that happened in her past, good cook, independent. All the things that I dont see in alot of females know of days. I geniunely do like, and care about her. Just sometimes theres not a strong physical attraction.


Part of fulfillment in a relationship is knowing that your man wants you physically.... it is not primary.. but it is part of a relationship... if you cannot rectify this feeling... if her physical features do not attract you then .... you should let her go...

it is not fair to her.... while you may change in the future... do not use your time spent with her... as her feelings develop for you while you are sorting yours out.....

in the meantime... try to develop more appreciation for the other qualities you mention... just do not do it on her heart clock.....

perhaps she will be available when you are ready to accept her fully...
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Originally posted by cakeaholic:
First of all I like too state I like ladies of all sizes but I am currently started talking too a plus size lady. And shes the biggest girl I ever went out with.


You mentioned that she likes to cook. So I'm assuming that you all have eaten a meal together that she's prepared. When you ate the meal, what types of food did she prepare? Perhaps the next time that she prepares a meal, you can suggests healthier food selections and smaller portions. African Americans, particularly African American women, tend to cook foods that are high in fat. They also tend to prepare an excessive amount of food. You can introduce her to foods that are healthier for the both of you. You can also tell her that "you get full quick," so she doesn't need to prepare so much food at one time- that usually works. And instead of doing activities that involve a lot sitting and eating, such as eating out and going to the movies, engage in activities that require lot of exercise and movement, such as bolling, playing tennis, bike riding, or an intimate walk in the park.

If you really like this person, then it might be worth the effort to invest in her well being.
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