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Brother Ddouble, I want you to just for a moment to think critically about the question you've just asked, and then answer this question. What woman in her right mind would want to have a litter of children and no father to support her? Let's not insult the intelligence of Black women, please.
It seems like we are mixing two topics - dating and rescuing the black family. So everyone has made some valid observations.
I'll be the first to admit that there is an issue with the black family; the black men need to do better as leaders in the community and home, but I have to take issue with this statement. As Frenchy likes to point, there needs to be more emphasis on what men need to do to correct the problems with dating and the black family but let's not put blinders on.
A lot of women want to sit hear and preach about the "problem with men" and how it a SERIOUS problem and an epidemic, but like we have said, this issue is a two sided one. These women feel they are correct in their statement because "they have had something happen so many times in their dating experience or so have their girlfriends etc". So there MUST be a major problem with men.
And as it was pointed out, what good does it do to have a "gameplan" and there are no players or decent ones.
Let's say tomorrow the pool of available, ready, will, and able men was full beyond any women's wildest dreams, as someone said who said the women are ready themselves.
I'm sure from MY experience and may other black man, we could formulate an idea that there is a MAJOR problem with women – mainly that they are emotional and spiritual train wrecks. And just because they are "doing alright or got it goin on" in their careers doesn't mean that they are ready for a serious commitment.
I to have heard a common theme among men about women – that they carry to much baggage into a relationship and take their frustrations out on every new man, they are so "protective" of their emotions that the tend to be cold and unapproachable, they have children by different men, have no goals or ambition outside finding a man to take care of them and deal with their baggage, they don't know how or are unwilling to let a man take the leadership role in their lives (I'm talking about when married), they are plain old gold diggers and are only looking to get paid, use sex as a weapon etc.
So yes there needs to be more emphasis on the problems that black men face but that doesn't lessen the issues that women need to deal with because they are SERIOUS also.
