I dunno ... maybe it's my perception of a relationship that's all screwed up!

I know that I want a man that I can
trust and who
trusts me. Period. There's no room for negotiation there.
If a man doesn't trust that I can/will be faithful to him (whether such a betrayal is initiate by the other man or me!) then what's the point?

And the same goes towards him for me! If I can't made to feel confident that his female friends are not a threat to our relationship, then he's lacking a very important component to our security as a couple!
And I've only got one word for that ....
NEXT!!!Also, I have a problem understanding how a man that can meet me and like me for who I am (which is someone who has certain friends in my life) can suddenly expect me to drop them and be the same person! These are people that were there before he was, have obviously been with me longer, and are a part of who I am.

Yet, for me to kick them to the curb for him (an unproven association, at best) is a little more than presumptuous! In fact, it kinda borders on crazy-as-hell!! And egomanical at the same time!
Also, wouldn't it figure that if I wanted to do "my friend" that's what I would have been doing at the time he and I met ... and he (new guy) probably wouldn't have had much of a chance at a relatiohship with me, anyway!

Does a man really think a woman's life starts and stops with his entrance into it?

And the same goes for men toward their new woman.
Forcing two personalities into a relationship is probably the reason most of them fail. The two are either compatable and compliment each other from the beginning or don't. The person you meet either respects who you are from the beginning or they don't ... and moreso, knows how to respect you (and show respect for you) for who you are, or not!
Anybody who separates you from their friends ... or you from your friends, has issues that you really need to think about whether or not you want to bring into your life. And I would hope that if that other person can't respect you like that ... you would respect yourself like that. Because if you don't do it, how can you expect someone else to?
