Yeah, and I'm laughing over here....
Mean spirited commentary? Everything I said was TruthFul. Don't blame me if you don't know how to deal with those Truths.
As far as your favorite questions: Where is your poll or research that shows many men don't want to know "who the woman is on the inside"?
Common Sense is in order here, please. While I'm schooled academically and have experience personally, brotha do I really need a poll or some research to convince you that many Men are not trying to FIRST know "who the Woman is on the inside?" If so, do your own daggone homework, because I've already been down that route in multiple venues and I've learned that even those facts don't convince those who don't really want to be convinced.
Now, I don't believe I need a poll or research to answer that question. So I will ask you this: When is the last time one of the fellas came to you and clearly expressed a desire to know everything he could about a Woman BEFORE he slept with her? Have many Men do you know that want to WAIT for sex? When you look around in OUR community, how many Men do you see complaining about what a Black Woman won't do, what Black Women NEED to do, what a Black Women SHOULD look like/dress like/smell like/talk like, etc?
You asked what the phrase means: What does get to know someone on the inside mean to you? Are you unfamiliar with getting to know every aspect of a Woman BEFORE you take it to the bedroom, or I should say, BEFORE you approach her for sex?
There is no inability to relay what that means to a man. That's Common Sense and if you are going to say to the world that Black Men are whole Men and not the 3/5th of a Man that some would argue you are, you need to THINK intelligently and quit acting like you don't know. You know what "get to know a person on the inside is" and splitting hairs is just another means to avoid dealing with the real problem at hand.
Do you KNOW her? Do you know about her family, her life, her dreams, her ambitions, if she wants kids someday, what she likes in a Man, what places she's visited around the world, if she likes sugar in her coffee, if her arches have fallen in her feet, if she's a size 14 on her period and a size 12 when off, if she likes your a$$, if she despises your a$$, if she would sniff your a$$ if you told her to, if she has a mind of her own, if she won't take your shit, if she will be in shit with you, if she will bail you out of shit, if she will like your friends, if she KNOWS your friends, if she respects her elders, if she wears perfumes or oils, if she's cool like that, if she's through like that, if she'll rub your feet, if she wants you to rub HER feet, if she'll wash for you, if she'll make YOU wash, if she likes to cook, if she wants YOU to cook, where she wants to be in five years, etc, etc, etc,....
Do you KNOW her on the inside; do you know as much as you can possibly know about her - the good, the bad, the ugly and the insane.
As far as "pointing you to the threads that said...all sistas, blah blah blah" man LOOK UP at the responses in this thread. Then go to the thread where the sistah asked for a Woman's POV, then go to the thread that asked if Sistah's are Too Strong For Our Own Good, then go to the thread about Weight, then go to the thread about How To Please A Man (what Men like), etc, etc., etc....
Before you accuse someone of NOT reading what you and others wrote, maybe you should go back and do more than just look at the words others wrote. Your tag says "READING IS FUNDAMENTAL" so read them posts: read them straight, read between the lines, & read the responses. Because I will let you know, I HAVE read a LOT of what you've written, as well as some of the others up in here - and yes, I've held back to see the responses. I've been in here since July BECAUSE of one Brotha's nonsense and have posted only recently, so don't give me that mess about NOT reading. It takes a lot of restraint to read some of the mess that some have written and NOT go off....and you know you'd feel the same if you always heard the "tired Black Man" spiel as you assumed you heard in my post, so don't front.
In addition, I didn't paint you as anything. While I'm an artist, I'm not the Master Artist and I don't have control over what you do. But I do have control over what I do and I brought you the Truth, however bothersome it may be to you. If the truth insults you, deal with Truth, but don't get pissed off at me. If you don't like the conditions, change them and stop blaming Black Women. When you blame Black Women, who've already been blamed for everything under the sun, you have to know that the finger is coming straight back to you. It's natural, it's human, as we ALL defend ourselves if we have any sense.
Finally, I don't have any questions for you. If I did, I would have asked. I'm straight forward like that, you don't have to wonder about what I'm thinking...believe that. I will tell you, whether you like it or not, whether you care for it or not and how you take it is how you make it. There's no need for "translating" anything. I told you what I thought and that is this:
The World is busted, and yes it is Men's fault if you are going to claim, "It's a Man's World!" You can't claim the glory and claim you don't understand the dung that's on the crown. If it's your crown, you know every part of it - even how the dirt got there.
I also said that Men and Women are different. You think one way, we think another.
I also said some of you all are full of shit, because you are and you know it...and don't tell me that is not true giving the rituals played by Pimps trying to teach Pimpology.
I also said some of you are liars and we can't trust you as far as we can spit, because it's the damn Truth. Talkin bout "Women need to learn to close their legs" all the while trying to get between them. "I want a wife, not a ho" but actions speak to Pimpdom, nudie tudie and hide that booty on Sunday....whateva!
I also said some of you need to get a clue, because you do. While you have more options with Women around the World, there's not a damn thing wrong with your Black Women and if we can wait out the years until you're ready, opting to put you first, you sure as hell can try to do the same for us.
I also said some of your a$$es are hypocrites. She can't have any extra pounds, but here he comes looking like the GoodYear Blimp. She can't be dark skinned, but he's not two shades lighter than an old fashioned stove himself. She can't have kids, but it's "okay" for him to "start over" with a Woman who has no kids. She can't go out to the club, but it's his second home. She better not be caught smiling at a man, but he can't stop glowing from all the lovely ladies he sees daily because "he's just the man." She can't be pissed off and voice her concerns, but he can say whatever the hell he wants to and call it a day.
Bullshit...I didn't mince my words. You got the real the first time and if you felt it was veiled, you should have appreciated my attempt to bring the real without walking all over your ego.