Do women do more dumping in a relationship than men? I believe that they do.
Why is this? Are guys the ones that are more emotional in the relationship and can't let go? Or some other reason? Discuss.
Just letting you know...I might be a little subjective about this topic.
I think there are a couple of reasons for this. I've been victim recently, that's for sure.
1) I believe Men invest more in relationships than Women. We have to do the work to go out and get them, and *usually* we end up planning the majority of the events, and on the "special days" we are the ones that have to set it all up (Valentines, Anniversary, her Birthday, etc.). For that reason, believe it or not, it's easier for us to get attached to our girls. We have invested more in them.
Women usually have men to hit on them if they are decent looking and aren't total *****es. That doesn't happen to us, we have to go out and do the hitting.
2) This media culture of "Sex and the City" bs, and overly romantic movies are making this game even harder for us. I've found that a lot of women think that love is this mythical thing that just "happens", and that they will feel it regardless of how a guy acts, what he does, and what type of person he is. Mr. Right will come along, and their heart will be filled with a non-existent feeling of wonder that will never dissipate! Because of this new media, Women think that "Mr. Right" will solve all their problems, and that they will always feel safe and secure and they can live happily ever after, without a care in the world. Even though these women logically *know* and can vocalize that this "overly-romantic" crap isn't how it is. Somewhere deep down, this is what they are looking for. So they go through guy after guy, dropping decent guys, because they can't accept the fact that the feeling of excitement of the "new relationship" isn't going to last forever. And if they WANT a guy who will really take care of them, and will let them be independent at the same time, they need to grow the **** up, and open their eyes. Unfortunately, some guys that are strong and confident, and have distinct and worldly life goals, get burned because of these women. Why? Is it because we unknowingly fall into REAL love with them, while they are too childish to even know what that means? I am not saying that all women are childish...it's just some believe that this excitement phase can and will last forever.
Now we can split girls into two categories:
1) The ones that are mature enough to realize that love is something that GROWS, not something that "just happens". It's something that is deep, and doesn't last forever unless you are willing to WORK. Then, when a quality guy comes along, they can appreciate all the things that he does for her, how strong he is, how independent and driven he is. They realize that these things are where love starts. Then after the infatuation dies down, they don't give up. They can still see the man that they are dating, even though the initial "feelings" have died down. They can move in a more mature love.
2) Then you have the girls who believe that "Sex and City" is reality, and that there will be a guy that will come along, sweep them off there feet, and they will just have this everlasting feeling, that will never go away called "love". They've seen too many Hollywood dramas, and have unrealistic expectations from their men. They believe that if a guy can't come along and all their problems don't disappear, then he's not the right guy. These are the girls that are sweet, caring, thoughtful, but will break your heart every time.
I would also like to add that the man has to appreciate and love his woman as well.
WHICH GROUP MOST WOMEN BELONG TO?