calling all fASHIONista men!!

Testicular fortitude and I have it

I am lost? what do you mean by fashion?

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Originally posted by Blacksanction:
Testicular fortitude and I have it

well that's something that never goes out of fashion.

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Originally posted by folobatuyi:
I am lost? what do you mean by fashion?

fashion=trend or style or look

hey... well women have their hipster jeans, etc. guys their homey show-your-ass jeans and fades... I just wondered what is the latest thing MALES are doing/wearing to look cool/sexy?

And don't say iPod!
Maybe it's just your own individual style not a trend you are following... like blancsanction...

Art-gurl, forget it, you're not going to get very many responses from men on this one. Unless he is a wanna-be pimp or a rap star, the average Black men doesn't give a damn about "fashion." They get a hair cut, take a shower, and put on the basics (jeans and shirt) and that's "fashion" enough for them. Yet in the Sistas Spot, we are getting advice on how we need to "change our hairstyles" and "wear different clothing" to attract men in 4 weeks. Go figure.

Truthfully, the only fashion a man needs is either a nice car or a fat wallet... the rest doesn't matter.

Guys can look any old way and there will be an attractive woman who will "find the good in him" as long as his pockets are fat... JMHO

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Originally posted by AudioGuy:
Truthfully, the only fashion a man needs is either a nice car or a fat wallet... the rest doesn't matter.

Guys can look any old way and there will be an attractive woman who will "find the good in him" as long as his pockets are fat... JMHO

That might be true for the majority but it isn't true for me. I don't have time to be that shallow. Just have a mission or a goal and be working toward that. Unless you're born into money we all have to start at zero and work our way up.

Alright, check it out:

Brown phat farm sweater; brown Kangol hat ("leaning the brim" is optional); phat farm or standard white button-up shirt worn underneath the sweater; Regular Blue denim polo jeans (not too tight , not too baggy); and brown shoes work best, but wheat-colored low-top shoes works ok, too (they look like low top construction boots).

Or how about this:

Brown Dekko skully-cap (that's a low-cost cashmere skully cap...cheap but very stylish). When you put the cap on make sure the label is a little off to the side - like over your left eye. It works...trust me.

Cream-Colored Mecca zip-up sweater (with brown Mecca logo in the left chest area).

Underneath the sweater: White tank-top (Hanes or Fruit of the Loom).

Pants: This is critical-DEEP DARK BLUE denim jeans (relaxed or baggy).

Shoes: You guessed it: Payless wheat-colored low-cut shoes (shit they go with damn near everything)- you could go with black shoes, but make sure they're not too shiny, though.

When I put all this together, I unzipped the sweater all the way down mid-chest (exposing the tank-top); pulled-up the sleeves- giving you a more masculine look- I wore this ensemble to my sister's X-mas party (plus I had a 5 o'clock shadow). I looked so good even I wanted to fuck me!


It's cold in the NYC...winter is a bitch, shit but that's no reason to cramp my style!

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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:

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Originally posted by AudioGuy:
Truthfully, the only fashion a man needs is either a nice car or a fat wallet... the rest doesn't matter.

Guys can look any old way and there will be an attractive woman who will "find the good in him" as long as his pockets are fat... JMHO

That might be true for the majority but it isn't true for me. I don't have time to be that shallow. Just have a mission or a goal and be working toward that. Unless you're born into money we all have to start at zero and work our way up.

I have to agree with AG on this. A man needs to have a fat wallet if he is to support a family. Who the hell wants to marry a poor man and disgrace herself and her family. A smart woman would look for a man with a fat wallet, bank accounts, and good credit because that means this man won't be free-loading off you.

Art-gurl is it me, or do some people need to lighten the fuck up?

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what is the COOL men's fashion accessory right NOW?

Old-school sneakers! (Pumas, hi-tops, etc in styles from the early 90s). My 17-year-old nephews drove me crazy at Christmas looking for those things. Couldn't believe the prices and how quickly they were selling out.

I think the teenage years are probably the last time most men care about what is "in." After that, they just want what feels comfortable or what looks good on them specifically. JMHO.

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Originally posted by Rowe:

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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:

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Originally posted by AudioGuy:
Truthfully, the only fashion a man needs is either a nice car or a fat wallet... the rest doesn't matter.

Guys can look any old way and there will be an attractive woman who will "find the good in him" as long as his pockets are fat... JMHO

That might be true for the majority but it isn't true for me. I don't have time to be that shallow. Just have a mission or a goal and be working toward that. Unless you're born into money we all have to start at zero and work our way up.

I have to agree with AG on this. A man needs to have a fat wallet if he is to support a family. Who the hell wants to marry a poor man and disgrace herself and her family. A smart woman would look for a man with a fat wallet, bank accounts, and good credit because that means this man won't be free-loading off you.

Rowe what you are saying and what AG is saying sound like two different things to me. It only makes sense to desire a man who can take care of his woman and family. But that term "fat wallet" has golddigger written all over it.

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Originally posted by Max:
Art-gurl is it me, or do some people need to lighten the fuck up?

It's you.

Must be a new year thing - I actually agree with Frenchy!

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Originally posted by Frenchy:
I think the teenage years are probably the last time most men care about what is "in." After that, they just want what feels comfortable or what looks good on them specifically. JMHO.

This is SPOT ON !!

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Originally posted by ddouble:
Must be a new year thing - I actually agree with Frenchy!

Don't EVER let me see you do that again!

The new K-swiss kicks are kinda cool- simple, not too sporty & stylish.

..oh and uh Souljah? Blow.

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Originally posted by Frenchy:
Old-school sneakers! (Pumas, hi-tops, etc in styles from the early 90s).

Great Frenchy, encourage Black men's obsession with "tennis shoes." I think we need to encourage brothas to move away from this obsession with atheletic gear. I hate to confess it, but the flyest dressers in D.C. tend to be the White guys, especially in the "artsy" parts of town. I recently saw this White dude with a very stylish hair cut sporting a warm-red velvet blazer, crisp white shirt underneath, relaxed-fit denim, and these wierd-looking dress shoes, with a subtle hint of red in them. He was also wearing a cashmere scarf that was tuck-tied around his neck. I wanted to ask him where he got it. White guys tend to invest a lot more thought into what they wear.

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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:
[Rowe what you are saying and what AG is saying sound like two different things to me. It only makes sense to desire a man who can take care of his woman and family. But that term "fat wallet" has golddigger written all over it.

Oh my goodness sista, didn't you know, a Black woman who requires a man to have money in his pocket to support himself and his family is (and always has been) a "golddigger." Besides "golddigger" is a sexist term, mainly used to describe Black women. Therefore, I choose not to use it.

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Originally posted by Rowe:

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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:
[Rowe what you are saying and what AG is saying sound like two different things to me. It only makes sense to desire a man who can take care of his woman and family. But that term "fat wallet" has golddigger written all over it.

Oh my goodness sista, didn't you know, a Black woman who requires a man to have money in his pocket to support himself and his family is (and always has been) a "golddigger." Besides "golddigger" is a sexist term, mainly used to describe Black women. Therefore, I choose not to use it.

But just let me interject that black women don't even seem to be willing to make reasonable investments in rising stock. I.e., when I was in graduate school, I couldn't get a sista to take a second look. Literally, the day after I got Ph.D. after my name and a job to go with it all of a sudden I was hot property.

Yes. Get a man that's worth something. But stop treating mate selection like (1) Shopping - product exactly tailored to fit customer's taste - or (2) hitting the Jack Pot: i.e., everything I want right here right now or nothing.

I mean for real, ya'll do NOT believe in "building something together"

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Originally posted by Rowe:

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Originally posted by Frenchy:
Old-school sneakers! (Pumas, hi-tops, etc in styles from the early 90s).

Great Frenchy, encourage Black men's obsession with "tennis shoes." I think we need to encourage brothas to move away from this obsession with atheletic gear.

I agree...athletic gear is ok on athletic guys, but not as the ONLY mode of clothing... pleeez!

I go weak in the knees for black shirts.

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Originally posted by Max:
When I put all this together, I unzipped the sweater all the way down mid-chest (exposing the tank-top); pulled-up the sleeves- giving you a more masculine look- I wore this ensemble to my sister's X-mas party (plus I had a 5 o'clock shadow). I looked so good even I wanted to fuck me!

OMG!
you are a scream !!
Now you just KNOW you have to post a pic of yourself...! DARE!
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Frenchy: I think the teenage years are probably the last time most men care about what is "in." After that, they just want what feels comfortable or what looks good on them specifically. JMHO.

damn!
But a well dressed man always turns a sistas' head hint, hint, nudge, nudge.

Post my pic? Nah. My looks are OK, but nuthin to write home about. I'm just sayin, on THAT day, my gear & my facial-hair was in full effect! I was just havin one of those days- ya know, when the right clothes make you look better than you normally do.

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Originally posted by Rowe:
Great Frenchy, encourage Black men's obsession with "tennis shoes." I think we need to encourage brothas to move away from this obsession with atheletic gear. I hate to confess it, but the flyest dressers in D.C. tend to be the White guys, especially in the "artsy" parts of town. I recently saw this White dude with a very stylish hair cut sporting a warm-red velvet blazer, crisp white shirt underneath, relaxed-fit denim, and these wierd-looking dress shoes, with a subtle hint of red in them. He was also wearing a cashmere scarf that was tuck-tied around his neck. I wanted to ask him where he got it. White guys tend to invest a lot more thought into what they wear.

Rowe, I hate to be the one to clue you in, but that guy was GAY!!

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Originally posted by AudioGuy:
Rowe, I hate to be the one to clue you in, but that guy was GAY!!

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Originally posted by AudioGuy:
Rowe, I hate to be the one to clue you in, but that guy was GAY!!

Oh, I forgot, any man who doesn't limit his wardrobe to "white-tees" and "tennis shoes" is "gay."

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Originally posted by HonestBrother:

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Originally posted by Rowe:

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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:
[Rowe what you are saying and what AG is saying sound like two different things to me. It only makes sense to desire a man who can take care of his woman and family. But that term "fat wallet" has golddigger written all over it.

Oh my goodness sista, didn't you know, a Black woman who requires a man to have money in his pocket to support himself and his family is (and always has been) a "golddigger." Besides "golddigger" is a sexist term, mainly used to describe Black women. Therefore, I choose not to use it.

But just let me interject that black women don't even seem to be willing to make reasonable investments in rising stock. I.e., when I was in graduate school, I couldn't get a sista to take a second look. Literally, the day after I got Ph.D. after my name and a job to go with it all of a sudden I was hot property.

Yes. Get a man that's worth something. But stop treating mate selection like (1) Shopping - product exactly tailored to fit customer's taste - or (2) hitting the Jack Pot: i.e., everything I want right here right now or nothing.

Fair enough. Your advice has been processed.

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Originally posted by Max:
When I put all this together, I unzipped the sweater all the way down mid-chest (exposing the tank-top); pulled-up the sleeves- giving you a more masculine look- I wore this ensemble to my sister's X-mas party (plus I had a 5 o'clock shadow). I looked so good even I wanted to fuck me!

A brother with confidence. That's what we want! But payless shoes.

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Originally posted by Max:
Post my pic? Nah. My looks are OK, but nuthin to write home about. I'm just sayin, on THAT day, my gear & my facial-hair was in full effect! I was just havin one of those days- ya know, when the right clothes make you look better than you normally do.

I hear what you're saying, but... ooooooooh don't be shy
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Rowe said:
A brother with confidence. That's what we want! But payless shoes.

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I know. I know. I used to feel the same way. But one day I needed to get some shoes for my recital, but I didn't want to make a fuss about it-I just wanted some simple looking shoes. Much to my surprise, Payless had alot of shoes that were stylish & decent-lookin for a reasonable price; it's funny cuz down in Manhattan, the same shoes go for $100 to $200 bucks. Of course, I don't go around with a mega-phone talkin about how I shop at Payless for the rock-bottom prices; but when an impressed woman comments on how expensive (and stylish) my shoes are, I usually downplay the whole cost-issue without confirming or denying it. Suffice it to say, with the money I have left, I could either buy more gear, or take a woman out & show her a good time. So there!

Shy? Me? Don't know the meaning of the word.

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Originally posted by Max:
The new K-swiss kicks are kinda cool- simple, not too sporty & stylish.

..oh and uh Souljah? Blow.

...if I could find it.

Oh yeah? Oh yeah!? Well. That's why your mutha got a... You look like uh...SHUT-UP..you...stupit-head!

Piggybacking on AG - a scarf or ascot on a Black man when it's NOT COLD is ALWAYS a red flag! We just don't dress like that!

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Originally posted by Rowe:
Art-gurl, forget it, you're not going to get very many responses from men on this one. Unless he is a wanna-be pimp or a rap star, the average Black men doesn't give a damn about "fashion." They get a hair cut, take a shower, and put on the basics (jeans and shirt) and that's "fashion" enough for them. Yet in the Sistas Spot, we are getting advice on how we need to "change our hairstyles" and "wear different clothing" to attract men in 4 weeks. Go figure.

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Yeah, Rowe...sorry to disappoint you but I am that one guy you described...I am a nerd...fashion is less of a neccessity to me...there are many other things on my mind...on a regular day...it is a shirt, tie and pair of dress slacks for residency and a pair of jeans when I get home and on weekends.

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Originally posted by ddouble:
Piggybacking on AG - a scarf or ascot on a Black man when it's NOT COLD is ALWAYS a red flag! We just don't dress like that!

That's interesting because I was watching an old episode of Dave Chapelle the other night, and his musical guest was "Big Boi," one of the group members of the popular rap group, Outkast. He was wearing an outfit that was very similiar to the White dude's outfit that I described earlier in the discussion. But instead, the artist Big Boi wore a black velvet blazer with padded elbows, crisp white shirt, relaxed jeans, etc. Is Big Boi "gay?" I also spotted Will Smith wearing a velvet blazer recently in a magazine worn with jeans, and Kanye West tends to dress like White boys too, colorful pink, yellow, pastel prep clothes, etc. are these Black men "gay" too?

Why do Black men outside of the entertainment industry tend to equate dressing up with looking "gay?" Adding style and creativity to your wardrobe is NOT BEING GAY!

I don't equate dressing up with being gay - I just don't care for the look you described (and typically if you see a brother (especially in ATL!) rocking that kind of 'fashion', he's gay - AG & I are just trying to help you out!)

The look you're raving about is an Esquire, GQ type of fashion, i.e. European. Sorry, it's just not my style. Do you know how much those clown clothes cost? By the way, I'm not a fan of the mega-expensive urban wear either. I have better things to do with my money besides buying super-pricey clothes & shoes. Even if I were a multi-millionaire like the entertainers you named, I'd never wear those kind of clothes. They probably wouldn't either if they were not famous.

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Originally posted by Rowe:
Oh, I forgot, any man who doesn't limit his wardrobe to "white-tees" and "tennis shoes" is "gay."

There you go again, putting words in my mouth...

You seem to forget that I live in D.C. and I have worked in the entertainment industry for 20+ yrs. I KNOW gay when I see/hear it... and the guy you described is gay or he definetely wants to be...

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From Rowe:
...But instead, the artist Big Boi wore a black velvet blazer with padded elbows, crisp white shirt, relaxed jeans, etc. Is Big Boi "gay?" I also spotted Will Smith wearing a velvet blazer recently in a magazine worn with jeans, and Kanye West tends to dress like White boys too, colorful pink, yellow, pastel prep clothes, etc. are these Black men "gay" too...

...Why do Black men outside of the entertainment industry tend to equate dressing up with looking "gay?"

The men that you described do not pick their own clothes, their "fashions" are usually picked by gay males... And I do not work "outside" of the entertainment industry...

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from Sista S:
...if I could find it.

Sheeee's Back!!!