By Lisa Respers France, CNN




(CNN) -- It was supposed to be just a picture of a happy new mother showing off her beautiful adopted son.

But when Oscar-winning actress Sandra Bullock appeared on the cover of People magazine with her newly adopted African-American baby, the image stirred discussion in the black community and on blogs aimed at that readership.

"We have a poll up right now on the site that asks a question about interracial adoption," said Marve Frazier, chief executive officer of Bossip.com and chief creative officer for its parent company, Moguldum. "For the most part people have been saying it's great that she adopted a baby from the United States."

Still, the topic of transracial adoptions is a sensitive one, made even more so when the adopted parent is a celebrity.

In a piece appearing on the site Black Voices, writer Lola Adesioye notes that Bullock joins other stars, including Madonna and Angelina Jolie, who have adopted black children. Madonna and Jolie's children are African and Bullock's new son, Louis, is from New Orleans, Louisiana.

"As Bullock's case shows, a white celebrity adopting a black child raises questions as well as suspicions," Adesioye writes. "Why do they want a black baby as opposed to a white one, when there are also white kids who are up for adoption?"

Bossip.com CEO Frazier said Bullock had already engendered sympathy from her readers when news broke of alleged infidelities by Bullock's husband, Jesse James.

"She just seems like such a regular person," Frazier said. "She's never really been on that 'Hollyweird' trip and that makes her so much more relatable."

What has thrown some fans for a loop, Frazier said, are reports of a photo of James wearing a German military hat while appearing to give a Nazi salute. The image prompted questions about James' racial views and made some African-Americans leery, Frazier said.

James' attorney, Joe Yanny, said the hat was a gift from a Jewish mentor and denied that his client was anti-Semitic. James once lived for nearly a month in an Israeli kibbutz, Yanny said.

The online magazine Clutch, which is aimed at African-American women, asked its readers "Do you think Sandra Bullock is using her new black son to curtail the negative publicity on her husband's scandalous affairs? Or is Bullock like many adoptive mothers who simply want to give children in need a happy home?"

The responses of commenters ranged from "God bless anyone who wants to adopt" to "Suspicious with the timing." One person commenting raised the parallel of Bullock's starring role as a woman whose family opens its home to a disadvantaged black football player in "The Blind Side" to her real-life adoption.

"When I saw the trailer my first thought was 'not another white savior movie!' " wrote a commenter who identified herself as "Margaret." "But in real life -- our kids need homes. I'm glad to see that Sandra Bullock chose to adopt a child from the United States. Too many of our babies are in the system."

Author and host of the Mack Lessons Radio show podcast Tariq Elite was more caustic.

The writer, actor and lecturer who has appeared on "The Tonight Show" as well as VH1 and MTV posted a skit online that he billed as an "exclusive" interview with Bullock's newborn, Louis, discussing his "business relationship" with the actress.

"People find [the skit] hysterical, but they also find what I said in it to be very true," Elite said. "This is a PR move to get her image back on track. She had a big Oscar win and then immediately this thing came out with her husband and that started to take luster away from her shine."

But according to the interview Bullock gave to People magazine, she and James began the adoption process four years ago -- well before any scandal -- and finally brought the baby home in January. She told the magazine she has filed for divorce from James and plans on completing the adoption as a single parent.

Natasha Eubanks, founder of the blog Young, Black and Fabulous, said Bullock has long enjoyed popularity among black audiences "as America's sweetheart."

"Her movies cross cultural lines and every movie she has people can relate to it," Eubanks said. "She's never been a glamour puss, she's always just been very much the girl next door."

Eubanks is a native of New Orleans, as is Bullock's new son, and said the actress is well-known for her ties to the city, most notably as one of the first celebrities to donate generously to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Eubanks said she applauds Bullock's decision to adopt from a group that has historically found it difficult to find homes.

"Young black men have it the hardest when it comes to adoption in the United States," said Eubanks, who added that she has yet to see any negative comments about the adoption from her readers. "The fact that she chose to adopt a baby from the U.S. just makes us love her even more."

 
 
 
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Another issue that most black people are pretty tired of. Transracial adoption especially by high profile white women (Madonna, Angelina Jolie, etc.). This issue of adoption is SYSTEMIC. The Child and Protective services System, is one of the many systems designed to take away our babies AND prevent the black community from getting them back. Check out how many tax breaks, incentives and extra income adoptive parents earn. I know of only a few black adoptive parents of black children. The situation is sad. I suspect that she 'bought' this baby, as with the others of her ilk.
  I see NOTHING wrong with Bullock adopting this baby.  For one, he is already here and so she didn't have to go WAY across the Atlantic Ocean to Africa.  Plus there are plenty of babies right here in the United States of good old America who desperately NEED someone to adopt them...black or white...don't matter.  Hey I'm tired of hearing blackfolks bitch and moan...but!  Won't do a damn thang about their own CULTURAL problem.  The minute someone out of the race do something POSITIVE they wanna shyte on it.  Which in my view is totally focking RIDICULOUS.  We have black kids who NEVER get to be in a family.  And after they reach 18 years old are KICKED to the curve without social skills or any way to take care of themselves...cuz why?  Foster care family DON'T get paid after the age of 18....so they no longer care. 


For me, it's NOT what color you are...if your heart is good and you wanna adopt a Black kid[cuz a lot blackfolks sho ain't doin it] then BE my guess.  That's a less person likely to grow up bitter, turn to crime and end up in JAIL or on DRUGS for the rest of his life just cuz his parents didn't give a damn.  I have learned from years of experience....that MANY blackfolks...do NOTHING but talk.  And I suspect that the only reason why anyone [black]would say sumthing NEGATIVE about this adoption...is because it shows what THEY ain't doin' for their OWN people....and they [may]feel guilty.  Cuz from where I stand....I know some blackfolks would rather SABBOTAGE a good thang...just cuz this good thing done makes them LOOK unconcerned....and really that's what it is.  Some blackfolks are just UNCONCERN about their OWN kind and will NEVER ever do anything other than bitch and moan. But!   I'm just sayin
Well, I don't see anything wrong with it, either!    As long as the baby has love and a good home .. that's really all that matters!

But .... I do have to wonder WHY??  What is it that compels these White women (and men) to want to adopt a black child?  To not care about the racial difference .. and just love the baby because s/he needs love? 

I wonder the same thing about all these White people I see going over to Africa to build wells, pass out malaria nets, build schools and villages, provide medical care and food and shoes to the children and people all over the Continent.   I saw this one report about a woman who's teaching karate/self-defense to the women in the Congo who are still getting gang raped pretty much at will.  She gave up life as she knew it .. and now she has a completely new one!

I see stories about a Black people/groups doing the same thing .. but not nearly as many as White folks ... who are willing to go deep off into the jungle .. and love every minute of it!!  But, it takes a special kind of person to have that kind of compassion.

While a Black couple adopting a Black child would be optimal ... a safe, happy and loving home for a child ... any child, but especially a Black child  .. is all that really matters.  And hell, with the kind of money all of them's got ... I'd let Madonna be my momma!    She could adopt my little happy ass TODAY! 

As the old folks used to say, "You shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth!"  Just because somebody is White doesn't mean that they are incapable of being a decent, giving, or compassionate person!   A whole bunch of 'em ain't!    But there are and always have been some who have provided invaluable aid and assistance to our people.
Ladies I cannot believe your responses. Especially Kocolicious. So it doesn't matter to you that these white women are adopting these black children? It doesn't matter to you that our cultural values and norms are not being instilled in these children? Remember ladies we are the hands that rock the cradle. What sort of black child is he going to be if he's raised by a white woman or a nanny? Maybe as a strong black woman, mother and lover of my people I should not be concerned. ??? Please enlighten me.
When my wife saw the picture, she said something to the effect that Sandra Bullock got our baby. She was kidding to some degree, and to some degree was expressing frustration about the adoption process. We have done all the state paper work for adoption and only need our home study, which we will probably have the first of June.

One of the things that you soon discover in pursuing the adoption process are that private adoptions of infants are often quite expensive, and the demand is high. Even for black infants, one can expect the process to take many months and to cost close to $30,000 after home study, background check, lawyer fees, agency fees, etc. For this reason, my wife and are going through the state to get a waiting child(ren). In this program, the state covers the adoption and legal fees. But in this instance, we are talking about children who have been in the system for quite some times. If they are infants, the are usually part of a sibling group of 3 or more children. Moreover, the mothers often have any number of issues they are dealing with that their children inherit. In the training that we went through, this is hammered home, and you are strongly encouraged to take seriously the reality that this is going to be a messy process, involving damaged people.

I am at the point now of saying that anyone who makes an effort to adopt a child is should be praised. Anything is better than a child who ages out of the system at 18 who has never had a home or any real support. Many of them wind up homeless, with a myriad of demons that they are forced to wrestle with.
Reference: Yemaya
Please enlighten me.
  My sista, I will try my best to enlighten you from my point of view.


So it doesn't matter to you that these white women are adopting these black children?



At this point in the game, my concern is with the children being left in foster care to decay-left in a place where their OWN parents or relatives don't even care.  And let's not talk about the horrific stories of what children experience in foster care.  I would think differently if we as a people take care of  our OWN.....but!  We don't.  We used to back in the day.  However presently it is no longer the case.  Many blackfolks only care about themselves....until of couse someone outside their race do something to "show them out" then they wanna have a fit.  [grandma/pa are no longer there to take up the slack that was always a part of our tradition.]


Additionally, times are not like they were yesteryear.  I feel and know personally that there are individuals not black who at just as capable of raising BLACK children....as blackfolks are.  Sometimes they do it....better.  Cuz why?  The passion[thanks Sista ER] is there.  A lot of times some blackfolks take their own in strictly for the money.  I see this all the time.  So you have to care MORE about the child than you do the politics when it comes to accepting this issue...and that's where I'm coming from.  Cuz I see these children move from foster care to homelessness [with no life skills] to a live of crime to ultimately "prison time."  I see them waste their entire lives looking for someone to love them.  And for me all children deserve love-no matter where it comes from.  And that's the bottom line.   By the way, I may be a militant rebel with a cause, however I am a REASONABLE rebel.  If something makes sense and is fair, then that's the important factor....for me.  Cuz there are too many blackfolks willing to do only the BLING bling...than the RIGHT thing for their own kind.



 It doesn't matter to you that our cultural values and norms are not being instilled in these children? 


Those cultural values and norms are not being instilled from some of our own folks...let alone from someone else. Many of them are spoiling their children, not teaching values/or self-sufficiency but teaching name brands and selfishness.


 And what exactly is the "norm?"  Today, there are sooooooo many blended families.  And what define as norm depends on who you talk to.   Not like back in the day where information on our culture was limited, racist and untrue, Currently there is soooooo much out there in terms of informational tools [about us] to keep black children in the loop of who they are, where they come from and most importantly where they are going.  The examples are everywhere you look: in media, in books, the internet and all facets of human activity.  So we as a people are no longer in that "box" massa tried to put us in.  We are everywhere.   Plus everybody is human, he's an American[this baby], there are no tribal concerns, so the hard part is the African American culture...and that can easily be rectified cuz for most part we are in America where our legacy is.  All one has to do is walk out the door and see it at every corner in America, there's no need to go to Africa to get it.  Cuz it is right here. 


What sort of black child is he going to be if he's raised by a white woman or a nanny?


I'm not sure if he's gonna be raised by a nanny.  Or should I say he's gonna be raised the same way other black children are raised by their black celebrity parents.  I am sure when Sandra made this decision it was with deep thought.  And if I had a choice, I rather for him to be raised by a white woman or nanny[yes I'm saying this], than to be raised in foster care or prison.  Remember he is a black male,  So at birth, the statistics are against him.  Any window of opportunity that comes his way, he should definitely dive in it before it closes.  Cuz it will close.


Maybe as a strong black woman, mother and lover of my people I should not be concerned.??? 


Of course you should be concerned.  Definitely.  I am a strong black woman lover of my people...but!  It was MY people who MURDERED my son. So.  I know from experienced working with at risk children it really doesn't matter who gives them love.  With that love, they will be able to grow and bloom reaching their full potential.  Opposed to being in an environment that will no doubt poison their mind creating a cold hearted monster who has no LOVE for his/her OWN people-and will kill you point blank.  That's the reality in which we all live presently.  As a result of this on-going problem, we have lost TWO generations of blackfolks.  So if we can get positive and productive HELP from anybody[since our own capable blackfolks aint doin' it] then I think it's ridiculous and genocidal not to take it....but!  That's just me. 
Reference:EbonyRose
As the old folks used to say, "You shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth!" Just because somebody is White doesn't mean that they are incapable of being a decent, giving, or compassionate person! A whole bunch of 'em ain't! But there are and always have been some who have provided invaluable aid and assistance to our people.
  Exactly!  And my favorite...."don't cut off your nose to spite your face."  Priceless advice. 
Reference by Yemaya:
Ladies I cannot believe your responses. Especially Kocolicious. So it doesn't matter to you that these white women are adopting these black children? It doesn't matter to you that our cultural values and norms are not being instilled in these children? Remember ladies we are the hands that rock the cradle. What sort of black child is he going to be if he's raised by a white woman or a nanny? Maybe as a strong black woman, mother and lover of my people I should not be concerned. ??? Please enlighten me.

Well, once again ... what Ms. Koco said pretty much sums it up for me!    I really don't have much more to add 'cause she pretty much hit every nail dead square in the head and said all that needs to be said!

As you know by now, Sis ... I love my people at least as much as you do!    That includes the good, the bad, and the ugly amongst us. But, truth be told, I love our children even more than the grown folks!   They can't fend for themselves (or defend themselves) or make the choices necessary to grow themselves into full, well-rounded adults.

In cases like this I think STRICTLY of the welfare of the child(ren).  And what do our children need more than anything else??  Love.  A good stable home.  Food to eat.  And a good education.  Those are the factors that increase the probability of success 1000-fold.  And there are too many - entirely to many - Black children that do not get ANY of that from ANYBODY ... especially their Black parent(s).  And I'm not just talking African Americans ... I'm talking ALL Black children all over the world.

A Black child that's up for adoption is a Black child who obviously is not going to have access to any of those tools for success from their parent(s) .. for whatever reason.  And, yes, I would rather have that child get those things from a White person who is willing and capable of giving them to him or her ... than for that child to not have that kind of life at all. 

One can't hide or deny being Black in America.  And a Black child raised by White parents is STILL gonna be Black.  I think our President is a good example of the fact that no matter who raises you, at some point in time, your blackness is going to come in full view of anybody who's looking at you ... including yourself.  And it's not the color of a person's skin that makes them a good and decent human being ... lord knows there are plenty of Black people who are absolutely horrid individuals ... but it's what's inside and the morals, lessons, goodness and decency that's put into you as a child and that you grow up with, that determines what side of the coin you fall on.

President Obama, though raised by White folks, found out he was indeed Black, regardless of his unique circumstances!     You can't take that away or change that.  No matter what.  I think what will be more important for these children raised by Whites is the response and reaction they get from their OWN people, as to whether or not their cultural values and needs are met.

But right now ... what they need most is a warm bed at night, not to go hungry, somebody that loves them everyday of their lives, a good education. And not to be neglected, abused ... or worse ... by somebody who's the same race as them, gave birth to them, but cannot (or will not) treat them right.

I wish Sandra Bullock was raising that little Black 12-year-old girl that recently got pimped out to that (Black) 40-year-old, truck driving, punk-ass pedophile for drugs by her own (Black) grandmother recently.  Or the little 2-year-old that got beat to death by her (Black) mother's (Black) boyfriend last year.

If given the choice, and thinking STRICTLY of the welfare of children involved ... wouldn't you want that for those children, too? 
I heard of some folks on the Al Sharpton radio show, getting upset about Sandra Bullock adopting a black baby boy.  First of all, black children especially black BOYS are the last to be adopted, before any ethnicity or race of children.  Unless the baby boy has any inkling to be able to rap, sing, or play a sport, most folks (and yes that includes SOME black folks unfortunately) could care less about black children.  I could understand if the non-blacks who were adopting black babies/children were abusive, but then they wouldn't be able to adopt any children, if there was any documented proof that they have been abusive to their kinfolk.

So to those who on Sharpton's show hating on baby Louis adopted by Sandra Bullock, should either adopt other black children, take care of the children that they ALREADY have, or STFU!  Hell, adopt the kids who can't or don't know who their daddy's name is on Maury Povich, before they talk about somebody else.
Reference:Huey
So to those who on Sharpton's show hating on baby Louis adopted by Sandra Bullock, should either adopt other black children, take care of the children that they ALREADY have, or STFU! Hell, adopt the kids who can't or don't know who their daddy's name is on Maury Povich, before they talk about somebody else.
   Brotha Huey, you're a man after my own heart.  If these mofos were sooooooo concerned talkin all that shyte and swangin that head, we as BLACK people wouldn't have a problem with our black kids...at all.  And they KNOW it.  So it is a bunch of focking hot air! And as you say, they should go somewhere and STFU!  Period. 
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One of the things that you soon discover in pursuing the adoption process are that private adoptions of infants are often quite expensive, and the demand is high. Even for black infants, one can expect the process to take many months and to cost close to $30,000 after home study, background check, lawyer fees, agency fees, etc.

You know, I was reading a story just last night (unfortunately, I can't remember which website to get the link!) but, it was about a woman who was trying to adopt her sisters 4 children after they had been awarded custody to their grandmother (due to the sister being on drugs) and then she suddenly died.

She and her husband (both professionals) took the children in.  But then she got impatient with the slowness of the system to make it a permanent solution that she started calling the social worker and CPS offices everyday .. (admittedly, probably making a nuisance of herself), but, she finally got screened for foster care, first.  But was told her two-bedroom apt. was too small for a family of seven (she and her husband already had an infant son).

She was able to find and purchase a 3 bedroom condo .. but still calling everyday, trying to speak to supervisors and people in charge to speed the process up and finalize it.  She complained that she wasn't getting any calls back.  She finally spoke to some top-level person who told her the matter would be seen to .. and, within the week, CPS came in and took three of the children (ages 7, 5 & 4) out of her home.  They split them up and sent them to different foster homes and would not give her any information where they were or let her see or visit with them.

They let her keep the oldest one (14, I think), but said he would be taken out within a few more days.  She was finally able to get some information from the lawyer advocate for two of the children, and was hoping to be able to raise a visit at some point in time soon.

She says she's not going to stop trying to bring her family back together.  But the story showed the disaster that is the adoption/foster care/CPS system in every state all over this entire country.  It was heartbreaking what she and her husband were going through ... and this was an in-family adoption.  Still the system was putting those kids through unnecessary hell, by taking them out of a home that was loving and nurturing and already wanted them ... and separating them and keeping them away from each other and their aunt!!!

I guess that's just one more thing to put on the legislative plate.  So much bureaucracy and people not knowin' what the hell their doing.    (Or maybe it's not knowing what the hell to do?).  It shouldn't be hard to determine what either is or is not a loving, nurturing, at least reasonably stable environment for a child (i.e., a married couple, with a house, two jobs, reliable transportation, and a lot of eagerness to give love and kindness to one or more kids!!).

That's also gotta be damaging to the psyche of those children.   I hope they find a way to fix that system soon.

Transracial adoptions: A 'feel good' act or no 'big deal'?

By Jessica Ravitz, CNN
May 6, 2010 4:26 p.m. EDT



CNN) -- "White people adopt black kids to make themselves feel good... A black child needs black parents to raise it." "Maybe she adopted one because the blacks in the community wouldn't step forward and adopt?" "What's the big deal? If no white person ever adopted a black child, they'd be saying why don't white people adopt black children." "Who cares what race they are? A woman got a child, a child got a mother...it's BEAUTIFUL!!! And yes I am black...if it matters."


These impassioned comments and thousands more poured in earlier this week when CNN published a story on the stirred-up debate surrounding Sandra Bullock's recent adoption. A People magazine cover photo of the actress beaming at her newly adopted black infant son, and the discussions that have followed, clearly hit a nerve.

So when it comes to transracial adoptions in this country, where are we?

Stacey Bush is the white child of a black mother whose adoption sparked controversy and whose attitude forces people to think about the issue differently.

Regina Bush stands with her daughter, Stacey, whom she adopted after lengthy legal wrangling.
Regina Bush stands with her daughter, Stacey, whom she adopted after lengthy legal wrangling.

Stacey wouldn't change a thing about her life, which is saying a lot for a young woman who spent her early childhood being neglected and bounced through the foster-care system. That was before a drawn-out legal case ended in 1998, allowing a single black woman, Regina Bush -- the only mother Stacey had ever loved -- to become her forever mom.

The Michigan lawsuit was filed when a county agency cited concerns about "cultural issues" in an attempt to keep the pair apart. Regina Bush's adoption of Stacey's biracial half-sister had already been completed, without challenge, and Bush says she wanted to keep the girls together. (As a matter of full disclosure, this CNN writer's late father represented Regina Bush in the case.)

At 21, Stacey is thriving in college, well on her way to becoming an early-childhood educator and seamlessly moving between worlds. In one day, she might braid the hair of black friends, address faculty at Central Michigan University where she is on a partial multicultural scholarship, and then go salsa dancing with her Latina sorority sisters.

"People are sometimes startled. 'She's white, but she doesn't seem white,'" she says with a laugh. "I can relate to everyone. I like being exposed to everything. ... Seeing me, hearing me -- it doesn't matter what color you're raised just as long as someone loves you."

Forty percent of children adopted domestically and internationally by Americans are a different race or culture from their adoptive parents, according to a 2007 National Survey of Adoptive Parents, the most recent study of its kind conducted by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Legislation passed by Congress in 1994 and 1996 prohibits agencies getting federal help from discriminating against would-be parents based on race or national origin.

How adoptive parents have approached transracial adoptions has changed with time, says Chuck Johnson, acting chief executive of the National Council for Adoption.

"In the old days, meaning the '70s and '80s, there was this notion that these parents need to be colorblind. This sounds wonderful, but by being colorblind you're denying they're of a different race and culture," Johnson says. "Families that are successful are those that acknowledge race. ... It's not a curse. It's not an impossible feat. They just need to work harder to give a child a sense of self-identity."

It may be ideal and less complicated to match children available for adoption with same-race, same-culture families, says Johnson, who advocates that children be raised in their own countries whenever possible, too.

"But timeliness is of the utmost importance," he says. "It's better to find permanency and a loving home."

The latest figures show that there are 463,000 American kids in the foster-care system, of which 123,000 are available for adoption, Johnson says. Of those, he says, 30 percent are black, 39 percent are white, 21 percent are Hispanic and the rest are of other origins.

Seventy-three percent of official adoptions -- including those arranged through foster care, private domestic arrangements and internationally -- are done by whites, according to the 2007 survey of adoptive parents. But that doesn't account for informal arrangements, when relatives take in other family members' children, which is much more common in the black community, says Toni Oliver, vice-president elect of the National Association of Black Social Workers. She says the black community takes in "more children than the whole foster care system does," although Johnson adds that often these arrangements don't have the safeguards and protections legal adoptions provide.

When handled well, transracial adoption is "a very positive thing," says Rita Simon, who has been studying these adoptions for 30 years and has written 65 books, including "Adoption, Race & Identity: From Infancy to Young Adulthood."

"But love is not enough," said Simon, a professor of justice and public policy at American University in Washington. "You really have to make some changes in your life if you adopt a child of another race."

In the case of a white parent adopting a black child, that might mean living in an integrated neighborhood, having pictures in the home of black heroes, seeking out other families in similar situations, attending a black church and finding role models or godparents who are black. The same need to integrate a child's culture applies across the board, whether parents are adopting from Asia, Central America or elsewhere.

"It helps make our society more integrated," said Simon, who has five biracial grandchildren. "Race becomes less important and other kinds of identity issues become more important."

Bill Barry and Joan Jacobson pose with their two sons, Willie, left, and Alex, whom they adopted as newborns.
Bill Barry and Joan Jacobson pose with their two sons, Willie, left, and Alex, whom they adopted as newborns.

Bill Barry and his wife, Joan Jacobson, adopted two boys as newborns. Willie, 17, is biracial and Alex, 15, is black. Race never mattered to the white couple when they set out to adopt, after it became clear they wouldn't be able to bear children on their own.

"We simply wanted a healthy newborn," Barry says. "We didn't care about race, didn't care about sex, and we knew we wanted them locally."

Had the family uprooted to white suburbia, he suspects, the journey might have been more challenging. As it is, the kids go to public schools in Baltimore, Maryland, live in a multiracial and multicultural environment and grew up in a house where pictures of Paul Robeson and Rosa Parks hung on the walls. But Barry says he and his wife didn't "go way overboard." The white pair didn't, for example, suddenly start celebrating Kwanzaa.

"My wife is Jewish, though not so practicing, and we did Christmas and Hanukkah. Double the presents -- they quickly celebrated that," he says. "Kids are always trying to figure out their identity and who they are, and race is just part of it."

That may be true, but the National Association of Black Social Workers has long argued for keeping black children in black homes. About 40 years ago, the association released a four-page position paper on transracial adoption in which it went so far as to call such adoptions "genocide" -- and that word choice has dogged the organization ever since.

But Oliver, the vice-president-elect, says when that position was written decades ago, blacks were being discounted as adoptive parents, not being given the same resources to help keep families together and thereby prevent the need for child placements, and that agencies weren't recruiting families within the community. By speaking strongly, the organization helped jolt the system -- although more still needs to be done, she says.

The preference, Oliver says, remains that kids be placed in same-race households whenever possible. And if it isn't possible, or if a birth parent selects an adoptive family of a different race, then those adopting must be educated to understand "the impact of race and racism on the country, their family and the child in particular," she says.

"There is a negative impact that children and families are going to experience based on race," she says. "The idea that race doesn't matter is not true. We would like it to be true, but it's not."

Regina and Stacey Bush have faced challenges along the way. They've received their share of stares and under-the-breath comments like, "What's this world coming to." When a young Stacey once started climbing into the van to join her family at an Arby's restaurant, patrons came running to grab her, yelling that she was going into the wrong car. The girl was given detention at school, accused of lying because she called a young black boy her little brother, which he was. At a movie theater one time, someone called the police because they feared Stacey had been abducted.

Regina says she got attacks from both sides.

"White babies were a precious commodity. 'Blacks can't take care of white children,'" she remembers hearing. "And blacks were outraged" because there are so many black children in the system who need homes, and "they didn't understand why a black woman wouldn't adopt one of her own."

But she says she simply wanted to keep Stacey and her half-sister in the same home and give them a loving family, together.

Stacey says that upbringing taught her to embrace all people.

"It gave me so much opportunity to talk to so many different people. There were no limitations. I stood up for a lot of things, and it made me break peoples' mind-sets," she says. "We're accountable for each other as brothers and sisters. We need to look out for each other because at the end of the day we're all human beings."

  This article is on the money.  As is why I say what I say.  Folks of all races need get off this arrogant cloud regarding adoption issues cuz the end results are the children who fall through the cracks grow up screwed.  All because folks who have NO intentions of adoption children[but have the power] say in their estimated edumacated minds they don't feel children can be raised by those other than their race--bullshit!



Sista ER you brought up good points in your forementioned post.  The basics are what children NEED.  Do you think a child cares who's cooking them dinner?  Or providing a warm bed....or is there when he/she is sick?  Hell to the no!  I recall a gay couple who adopted several Black children with HIV cuz nobody else [black] would TAKE THEM!  Where in the hell was Al  Sharpton?  Or Jesse Jackson....when these black kids needed adoption out of foster care?  Or where were other blackfolks who say they care sooooo much?  This is soooooo much asine bullshyte.  And in the meantime, foster children fall victims to all of things not good including prostitution, gang banging, domestic violence and homelessness.  So where are these focking geniuses and politicans to give what is needed for black kids or any kids in foster care?  Cuz from where I stand talk is cheap,  It always was. 


Let's not forget that the only folks to benefit from talk is the ones who invented it in the first place.  Hint.  Treaties, bills, regulations, policy, red tape paperwork, etc,  Designed by whom?   And as we all know they, these so-called legal documents, were created to benefit WHOM?  And the rest of us have to pay for it when it destroy lives...this includes  our kids who are in foster care or supervised homes.  Unless these academics assholes have something significant to say along with significant ACTION or come up with something tangible or reasonable for HUMAN BEINGS [cuz foster children are human beings you know and not cattle or chattel]....my advice is for them to STFU...cuz it's very CLEAR they really DON'T give a damn cuz it's not happening to them.  So how can they possibly know what it feels like to be in a broken system that has historical failed "children" for decades.  They're [these big wigs asshole are]just in it for the mola-not to help foster kids find quality homes.  Cuz their thinking is:  the more foster children who stay in[the system]....the longer they will be able to keep their jobs.  And that's the bottom line.  But!  I'm just sayin. 
People should be happy that that baby has a loving parent, regardless of race. So what Sandra is white. Or would you prefer the baby stay in the foster system being thrown around from here to there? Another thing, adoptions take time. This was obviously in the works before she found out about her husband so thats not even relevant.



It's ridiculous to think that she is incapable of loving that child because she is white.

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