You accuse me of the very thing you didn't do yourself, which is to listen and learn or, in this case, just read"”which is why I made this disclaimer at the very beginning of my discussion:
quote:"”oh, and by the way, before I begin my first lesson, for those of you brothers that already know what the dealie is, keep your condescending comments to yourselves"”this is for the brothers that don't know.
Either you overlooked that disclaimer or you chose to ignore it because you felt it was more important to make snap judgments of me. It took Rowe's perspective to get you to open your eyes and realize that you were, indeed, wrong in this assumption:
I thought he was stating the obvious when he made those comments. But apparently not according to your experiences. I assumed the best in my brothas. I assumed that like me that have a wide variety of fragrances. Hygiene, man I can't believe brothas still haven't caught on to smelling fresh. To me, the best impression is Clean (zestfully clean).
You can't assume just because you may have yourself together, which is in question since there is no evidence to prove otherwise, that other brothers are doing the same, which Rowe made rather vividly apparent:
quote:....in my area at least, I'm noticing that many men, particularly the youngsters, are neglecting their appearance. Sloppiness seems to almost be "The" new look. I'm in my late twenties and will be interested in marrying soon. However, men my age, are looking alot less attractive and sloppy nowadays. They don't invest in quality clothing, they don't maintain a hair cut, and they eat poorly, which causes them to be overweight. Its a disappointment that I'm having trouble accepting. Therefore, I say keep posting and spreading your message to the brothers. It's definitely needed!
Just like you ˜assumed the best in your brothas,' I assumed the best in you to the effect that I didn't feel the need to explain, word for word, what you already know, however, Rowe's perspective eliminated the need to do so"”in fact, her expressions pretty much made all of that trash you sputtered rather irrelevant, particularly since you decided to backtrack to expound on what I consider to be trivial nonsense and an you decided to comment on:
quote:I applaud the effort, but man you got to go back to the drawing board if you want an eternal ROMANCE.
Yeah flippin' right! There is no elementary appeal to authority in this forum. Your con games and self-implied-imposed expertise will not fly either.
Your "tactics" are tacky. You combat intimidation (which is uncalled for) with intimidation. In other words, let's make them feel uncomfortable and vulnerable first.You show your ignorance when you make generalizations about women because of their geographic locations.
I think your posts are riddled with B.S. like
If I'm telling brothers in the very beginning of my discussion to LISTEN AND LEARN then, OBVIOUSLY, I would, be as you put it, "studying what SHE is communicating to you."
I'm glad you capitalized OBVIOUSLY, because it really magnifies how full of crap you are. This vague Listen and Learn statement can in no way be applied to what I said. Your Listen and learn was attached to the whole "get some female friends" spill you went on. As if we should take notes from our female counterparts. Study what she is communicating means WATCH (wait I think I have to say this again WATCH) which is totally different from LISTENING.
Was there really such a need for all of this trash? 3 pages of snide, vindictive, spiteful, callous comments"”all render moot by Rowe's comments.
After all was said and done, firstly, how is it that you think you can give me advice on how to be romantic when you have attested to being 'hardly romantic' yourself? Secondly, you're right--opinions can't be bested nor can they be wrong, so how can you attack my opinions yet you say it's wrong for me to question yours? Wow, man--so much overwhelming evidence, it's just preposterous.