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I had to vote yes, but I know it's not as simple as that. Rather than assigning blame, parents need to consider who is actually in a position to solve the problem. Parents can point fingers at anyone for there children's ills, and frequently do. I'm not saying that city, state, and even federal agencies shouldn't be involved in curtailing this activity, but they have to very careful about constricting the rights of consenting adults. The simpler and far more effective solution is to supervise your children.

I get very frustrated with parents who blame television, video games, music, or whatever, for the poor choices their children make while they weren't watching. Parents also have to be honest with themselves about who's at risk here. I make more of my personal information available on-line than I would recommend for any child. It serves a purpose because I run a home-based business. But, I'm a grown man. Predators of any variety aren't looking for me (unless they're white nationalists, but in that case they better hope they never find me nono). They are, however, looking for naive children who don't understand the dangers out there, and wouldn't know how to handle them if they did. Children need guidence in matters such as this, and we need to be available to give it to them.

PS. What is up with the kid that was strangled in her own home while her parents were there! How blind does a parent have to be to let this happen! bang Just let some heavy-breathing creatin show up at my home unannounced. I'll have to buy a new baseball bat, since I won't want the one I have after its been surgically removed from his ass. Mad
There is no easy answer to this, however, it's not about setting up Net Nanny and walking off...

I believe it's more about famililes discussing and developing values and ethics with their children, and giving them enough information (deciding how much, is about family communication) to make informed decisions and choices and consider their own safety.

In many cases children are more net savvy than their parents, so it's important they are made aware of the dangers, their vulnerability and a plan of action if they feel unsafe. Children who choose to commodize themselves on the internet are the victims of a failure in familial responsibilities, not the internet.

Parental censorship is one thing, but I am opposed to ANY form of government censorship or commercial interests' monitoring of the internet.
Predators are crafty little things. They largely go where children are likely to appear. So blocking adult sites or forbiding your children from particpating on certain sites is not going to take away the threat of sexual predators (or any other kind of predator). I place the blame squarely on these adults who recognize that someone on the internet is a child and get into vulgar/suggestive/inappropriate conversations and interactions with them. Every teenager assumes they are savvy enough to handle adult environments. Thinks people really believe them when they say they are 30 in their profiles. Thinks they don't sound "like a kid." Oy. Parents certainly have a responsibility to keep a watchful eye on on their children's activities, but they cannot be everywhere and know everything all the time. We all have a responsiblity to look out for others, especially children, and especially when it is obvious to us that they are the target of a predator, both in "real life" and on the internet.

Say I leave my front door unlocked and a thief walks in and robs my house. Could I have taken better preventative measures? Sure. Would it have prevented my home from being robbed? Perhaps. But the blame for the theft belongs with the thief.
My 10 year old is on-line about as much as I am. In fact, she has her own computer.

I monitor all of her activity. I have parental controls, I require that she keep the door to her room open whenever her computer is on and she knows that I check her cache and traffic every night.

And with all that, I know that I can't prevent a predator from getting to her. But what I can do is educate her about what happens and maintain an open enough relationship that she can talk with me about what is going on.

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