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There are women that are chosing not to marry but will live with the father of their children. But then we have the women who end up or even chose to not have a man help raise the children.

So is it important to have both the male and female for the development of the child or is this an "old fashion" notion. My parents were divorced and my mother raised me. She did a good job but the lack of the postive male in my home had a long term affect
_______________________ "Morality cannot be legislated but behaviour can be regulated. Judicial decrees may not change the heart but they can restrain the heartless." Martin Luther King.
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Aside from their position as a male role model, moms need help raising and providing for children and making decisions.


So true. And I've found [sexist alert] that men and women tend to raise children differently. For example: Child cries, women tend to rush to the child; men tend to look to see why the child is crying. Men tend to encourage the child to "risk-take"; women tend to place limits. Men tend to encourage children to "work it out", while women tend to solve it. Women tend to stress out over the details of the child's conduct, while men tend to take the big picture view.

{Okay...flame away}
Fathers are very important in a child's life. I take Early Childhood Education in College, and there are things that a mother cannot give to a child that a father can. I see it this way, there are too many woment trying to do it alone and not involve the father, which in turn, does harm to the child, and sometimes the father. I think a mother can give a child love and affection, but that father can make that child be strong, especially if it is a boy.
I think family in general is important. Family who have the best interest of family at heart is imortant in a child's upbringing and in the strength on that family itself. My father was in and out but my family was always there. Just because a father is in a child's life doesn't mean that everything will turn out peachy.

And also I doubt that all mothers are capable of making the decision if a fatherly presence is necessary in a childs life or not. Neither are family courts.
Fathers are very important, that's why God made it necessary for a man to help create a child in the first place. Women weren't meant to do it alone.

Sometimes I sit and wonder how my life would have been different had I known my father. I'll never be able to know, and I don't want my child to go through that. So I will do everything in my power to make sure that he or she has a great relationship with his/her father.
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Originally posted by Frenchy:
Fathers are certainly important! Aside from their position as a male role model, moms need help raising and providing for children and making decisions. The more people around with a vested interest in seeing a child do well, the better!



Really...I am so shocked. I thought men were only good for manual labor and as sperm donators with no say in the child raising..wow...I stand corrected! tfro
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Originally posted by SistahSouljah:
Fathers are very important, that's why God made it necessary for a man to help create a child in the first place. Women weren't meant to do it alone.

Sometimes I sit and wonder how my life would have been different had I known my father. I'll never be able to know, and I don't want my child to go through that. So I will do everything in my power to make sure that he or she has a great relationship with his/her father.


Shocking indeed..! But good to see that fathers are neccessary!
I totally agree that having a father in the picture is important, however, sometimes it may not be best for both parents to live in the house together.

My parents are good parents, but they were a terrible married couple. Even though they were good to me and my younger brother as we were growing up, it was pretty apparent to us that they didn't get along. They had been together since high school, and were married for 18 years before they got a divorce my freshman year in college. I always wondered why my parents stayed together even though they seemed to fight ALL of the time. One day my mother told me that since she didn't know her father, she thought that by staying with my father it would be better for me and my brother. That couldn't have been farther from the truth. My used to constantly do dirt (cheat, come in late hours of the nite) and my mom tried to shield me and my brother from it, but we knew. I could not stand when my daddy was home, because it seemed so peaceful when he was away.

Now that my parents are divorced and living separately, I seem to enjoy the time that I spend with my daddy more. I don't know if it's because I've grown or what, but the relationship definately seems alot better. Also, my mommie seems alot happier and less stressed out now, which makes her more pleasant to be around.
Fathers are just as important as mothers. Children need balance and role models. Most of my clients are men and I fight for them to share custody of thier children 50/50. I can't imagine how my life would be if my father had not been in it as much as my mother. New Jersey is cool in that our custody statute give parents equality. We are just waiting for the judicary, society and the nation to catch up with our legislature.

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