From the responses of some of the brothas in several forums which highlighted relations between the brothas and the sistas, I believe they just don't get it. Brothas seem so busy blaming black women for everything from unemployment to single parenthood, that they don't have time to learn how to love and accept black women. Even when they say they love/accept black women, they criticize black women for being "hard", or "gold diggers" or some such nonsense. Perhaps patriarchy has influenced the brothas to see sistas as competitors rather than lovers? Are the Brothers even capable of loving us?