Pastor Had an Affair With Male Assistant

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Facebook Pastor Had an Affair With Male Assistant

Apparently, the words "thou shall not use Facebook" don't quite trump the words "thou shall not have a three-way sexual relationship with your wife and a male assistant."

Rev. Cedric Miller (pictured) became a national name last week after demanding that his entire New Jersey congregation delete their Facebook pages. The move was thought to be an incredibly bold statement about the affect Facebook has on relationships, where old boyfriends and girlfriends never quite go away.

To the surprise of many, though, it turns out that Miller may have had his own reasons for wanting Facebook out of his life. There are reports that the pastor had a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male assistant at the church.

Miller, who heads the Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township, N.J., confirmed the information, which had been printed in a local newspaper.

At the time of his anti-Facebook sermon, the 48-year-old pastor demanded that all 50 of his married church officials delete their Facebook pages or quit their leadership posts. He also told married members of his church to share their log-in information with their spouses and said that he plans to leave Facebook this week himself.

Much of the sexual interaction with the male assistant, according to Miller's statements in relation to a criminal case filed against the assistant in 2003, took place during the couple's Thursday Bible study meetings.

It is also reported that the assistant's wife was present quite a few times when sex took place. The affair allegedly came to an end when several women in the church said that the assistant was also having sex with them.

When I wrote my article about what black people could learn from the Facebook movie, this was the last thing I had in mind. I find it so fascinating that there are so many members of the church who are quick to thump bibles on to the heads of other people, but are simultaneously engaged in some of the most egregious, irresponsible behavior imaginable.

I find the self-righteousness and audacious personal choices to be mind-boggling. Perhaps rather than simply indoctrinating our kids in to religious faith before they are even in a position to choose, we can give them a chance to build a personal connection with the higher power and their own sense of ethics. In other words, there are some pathetic people in every church who are simply following deep cultural norms rather than living a Christian life.

As for Miller, you must give him credit for attempting to take a stand for families in a world that is full of temptation. In spite of his own short-comings, it may be the case that his mistakes are what drove him to fight so heartily to save the souls in his church.

Miller, though, has at least one significant problem in that some might perceive him to be a hypocrite, since black America is growing tired of stories about pastors having extramarital affairs that involve other men. This is almost becoming the norm.


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One other reality that holds true for Miller is that the world is not going to go backward. People have embraced the psychological elation of having a fully connected social life, and Facebook will continue to grow.

Additionally, while it might sound ideal for marital partners to share their Facebook logins with their spouse, the truth is that this may only serve to make divorce that much more enticing. The restrictive, redundant and frustrating aspects of marriage can create, for some successful couples, a need for personal psychological space.

The Facebook account, text messages and e-mail are just a few of the places that allow an individual to have a world that belongs to himself/herself, so forcing them to give up their last bastion of personal freedom might make a young person feel suffocated.

The Dr. Boyce Watkins bottom line? If I were married, I wouldn't check my wife's phone or ask for her passwords to e-mail or Facebook accounts. By doing this, I would be telling her that there is no trust in our relationship.

I'd also be seeking to obtain access to psychological and personal arenas that simply don't belong to me. In fact, I might even see some things that I don't want to see, but the truth is that someone may love us and be incredibly loyal without giving us a complete monopoly on their heart.

There is a big difference between marrying someone and owning them. In fact, owning another person in a world with thousands of options for interaction is damn near impossible.



Now I guess, he's tellin it all.  I have posted the other news regarding him and his wife having group sex in the Religion and Spirituality section.  Check it out.  Boy oh boy it's all coming out now!  And to think how in the hell did he get his religious wife to agree to have group sex with another man.  What would Jesus say about that?  And is why you have to be extremely CAREFUL who you trust your spirituality to.  And yet folks STILL do.   
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It is also reported that the assistant's wife was present quite a few times when sex took place. The affair allegedly came to an end when several women in the church said that the assistant was also having sex with them.



Instead of the Facebook sermon, let's hope he had previously given an equally compelling talk on the use of CONDOMS!!!  
I'm trying, but I'm not really seeing anything wrong here.  I don't respect religious stands on sexuality anyway, and it looks like the wife was on board with what he was doing with the guy.  He and his wife, like Yemaya said, are freaks!  Nothing wrong with that.  If he wasn't condemning that kind of behavior in his sermons, then hey! 

I'm sure the church folk there have a problem with it, so I guess if they think his lifestyle is inconsistent with what they're trying to do, they'd be right to get rid of him.  But I suspect there's quite a few who'd follow him where he ends up...
The problem is this, he didn't want his congregation on facebook because they would most likely get confirmation or information of his sexual trysts. Because these folks on facebook, foolish folks, put their business out in the street. That's obviously something he didn't want out there. There is nothing wrong with being freaky if that's what you like. Just be responsible with your freakiness!
You who???!!!  Yall!!!  The man is a PASTOR.  Not Joe Blow on the streets.  Freak or no freak!  The man is a pastor who is supposed to be setting an example as Sista Nspirit says.  Now have we become desensitized of the role of a leading religious person?.  You're telling me this is accepted behavior of one who wears the cloth?  That's the WHOLE point of marrying yourself to the word while ignoring that sinful "flesh" ....well that's what they used to tell me as a child.  Now all of a sudden it's okay for pastors/bishops/priests to have OPEN sex with any and every body?  To me that's the Jim Jones mentality coming back to haunt and or take over the body of the Church.  If that;s the case, you might as well be what you truly are-a thug hiding behind the cloth of God to manipulate, control and lie to the ones who are following you.  Very dangerous.  And if this is the way so called religion is headed.....where sex is viewed as an uncontrolable animal response, instead of a sacred connection between two people....then I truly feel sorry for those unsuspecting people who believe that they are in Church to honor and follow the word of God...I feel sad for them cuz for the most part they believe all this crap being shoved down their throats. What's next?  Sacraficing innoccent children?  Well yeah some so-called men of god are doing that too.  OMG!  Cuz when predators can use the church as their private breeding grounds for sick twisted sex and then shower, straighten their tie while calling  themselves legitimate preachers/pastors/priests serving the lord...that means the church-the way it stands currently is on it's way to spiritual disaster/genocide.  What about what it says in the BIBLE?  Remember that truth book in the house of the Lord?  Well....coupled together this can also mean that the TRUTH about this house of worship....will be exposed for what it really is-a house of sexual horror! Cuz it;s clear, no one's following the words in the bible.  And what's more sadder than that is the church has always been a place where you can go and be safe.  Now?  Better watch your back!  But!
As I refer to the lyrics of one of my all time favorite songs again:
I'm tired of all this bullshit
They keep selling me on T.V.
About the communist plan
And all the shady preachers
Begging for my cash
Swiss bank accounts while giving their
Secretaries the slam

They're all in Penthouse now
Or Playboy magazine, million dollar stories to tell
I guess Warhol wasn't wrong
Fame fifteen minutes long
Everyone's using everybody, making the sale
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The man is a PASTOR. Not Joe Blow on the streets. Freak or no freak! The man is a pastor who is supposed to be setting an example as Sista Nspirit says. Now have we become desensitized of the role of a leading religious person?. You're telling me this is accepted behavior of one who wears the cloth?

That's the thing, for me personally, I don't give any respect to pastors as people who set an example.  I also don't really view the church as having any moral authority about sexual morality.  It's just how I think of church.  However, like I noted before, people who DO respect what the church is about no doubt must they think this guy's behavior is inconsistent with what they expect.  They will have to get rid of him.  It's just that I personally don't have a problem with what he's doing.
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You who???!!! Yall!!! The man is a PASTOR. Not Joe Blow on the streets. Freak or no freak! The man is a pastor who is supposed to be setting an example as Sista Nspirit says. Now have we become desensitized of the role of a leading religious person?. You're telling me this is accepted behavior of one who wears the cloth? That's the WHOLE point of marrying yourself to the word while ignoring that sinful "flesh" ....well that's what they used to tell me as a child. Now all of a sudden it's okay for pastors/bishops/priests to have OPEN sex with any and every body?

I think that says it all. You are 100% correct. If it were Sammy Sixpack having an AC/DC tryst with his wife and another male, well, that would be between them. It’s not my thing but if there is a meeting of the minds and consensual between three adults, what happens happens. I could care less. But when you are a man of the bible, a pastor of a church and a messenger of God’s word -you are held to a higher standard. A commanding officer of ship does not have the same leeway as deck seaman in a foreign liberty port. He cannot be seen going from bar to bar, boozing it up and picking up hookers and taking them back to his hotel room. Although there are no laws against it in the UCMJ or Navy Regs (unless you’re married), the behavior would be inappropriate for the CO since he is held to a higher standard. He has to set the example for others to aspire to. It’s as simple as that.

I know this may offend some readers, but Christianity is ravaged with contradictions and hypocrisy. This is not an opinion but an going fact that documents itself every day without any commentary from me. Rev. Miller and Eddie Long are perfect examples. Nothing surprises me about the closet sexual behavior of so-called Christians, pastors, bishops or ministers…

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Nothing surprises me about the closet sexual behavior of so-called Christians, pastors, bishops or ministers…

And let's not forget about what happens in the Catholic Church as well ...


Priest in sex case now charged with trying to hire hitman

By EVA RUTH MORAVEC
SAN ANTONIO EXPRESS-NEWS

<abbr class="updated" title="2010-11-23T04:06:00Z">Nov. 22, 2010, 10:06PM</abbr>

Father John M. Fiala, 52, was in Dallas County Jail on one count of solicitation to commit murder and two counts of aggravated sexual assault of a child, officials said. A judge set bail at $700,000.

The sexual assault charges were part of indictments handed up last week in Howard County, which brought to six the number of charges Fiala faces that involve the boy, who was 16 at the time of the alleged offenses.

The Texas Rangers and Department of Public Safety troopers arrested Fiala on Thursday after he negotiated a murder arrangement with an undercover officer at his residence in Garland, DPS spokesman Tom Vinger said.

A DPS investigation began Nov. 11, when a neighbor of Fiala tipped off Edwards County Sheriff Don Letsinger. "I received a call from an unnamed informant who was having problems with the way Fiala was acting," the sheriff said.

The neighbor "had been solicited (to commit the murder) himself, and he didn't want anything to do with that," Letsinger said. Fiala reportedly offered the neighbor $5,000 to kill the teen, the sheriff said.

Boy relieved

Attorney Tom Rhodes, who is representing the boy in a lawsuit in Bexar County, said his client is relieved that Fiala is again in custody.

"Fiala had threatened him with physical violence and threatened to kill him before, and he was very afraid of that," Rhodes said.

In September, the priest was indicted on three counts of aggravated sexual assault of a child and one count of aggravated sexual assault by threat in Edwards County, where Fiala is accused of raping the teen at gunpoint.

Fiala's attorney did not return a phone call seeking comment Monday.

Fiala had been living in Dallas County since he was released from Edwards County Jail after posting $100,000 bail Sept. 27. A fugitive task force arrested him in Kansas on the Edwards County charges, and he was extradited to Texas in September.

Rhodes filed the lawsuit last spring over the sexual assault allegations, also naming the archdioceses of San Antonio and Omaha, Neb., and Fiala's religious order, the Robstown-based Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity.

The lawsuit claims all three entities covered up Fiala's record of abuse, which they have denied. Former San Antonio Archbishop José Gomez and Fiala's religious order removed the priest from active ministry in October 2008.

In a hearing here Monday, a judge rejected the Omaha archdiocese's argument that Texas was not a proper jurisdiction for the lawsuit.

The sexual assault charges stem from Fiala's time as administrator of Sacred Heart of Mary in Rocksprings, which is about 110 miles west of San Antonio. Fiala was working for the Archdiocese of San Antonio but was still a member of the religious order.

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  What do "they" say?  Be careful of false prophets?  In the guise of priests, ministers, preachers, pastors, bishops, reverends[sp]?  Well...this is the REASON why I always say "I worry about heaven later" cuz NO human being can tell ME how I should worship my GOD[mistakenly thinking it's the same GOD they're worshipping] and try to pass judgement on my spin on how I live my life.  Nope!  Cuz why?  They don't qualify.  I've NEVER allowed that....and I come from a bible thumping family.   As a child I used to SEE the hyprocrisy in Church and ask why they do that?  And always got "gal hush!"  And recieved similar response for questions about Islam [in regards to the treatment of women].  Well that was ENOUGH for me over the years.  Here I was in the middle.  My father a Muslim and my mother a Christian-the fights in my house about GOD!...But!  I learned early on to have my OWN voice regarding my spirituality....and do my OWN research to come to my OWN conclusion about my soul, my "ba"....the criteria in the afterlife...the whole nine yards.  As is why I am what I am TODAY!  But!  I'm just sayin

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