The way I see it is that black women (and to a lessor extent some black men) are frusterated with interracial dating because they perceive it to be a rejection of blackness. So, when some black women who see a black man with a white woman get offended, I would argue the are doing it based upon the general concept of rejection, not the individual concept of 'he is rejecting me'.
So the nature of the rejection of interracial dating is the acceptance of the concept of racial solidarity.
Here is where I see a problem however. Black women in general would argue the concept of free choice in relationships. For example, if I began to argue that it was important for women and men to be placed together by their parents and be married regardless as to if they loved, liked or thought the other was attractive and that this was simply the way it should be done to preserve culture, most black women would fight against this arugment.
My question then becomes this, why is the argument against interracial dating due to the concept of racial solidarity acceptable by many, but the concept of arranged marriage to maintain cultural solidarity rejected? At the core of each is the concept of free choice, and the ability to be with whom one wants free from social barriers or critiques.