Originally posted by EbonyRose:
Do men make such commentary when they see interracial couples or is this just about women? Inquiring minds wanna know!
Speaking for myself, I neither make commentary nor do I have ill thoughts. I do
value both diversity and tolerance for the life choices of other people.
However, I cannot say that the topic does not make me uncomfortable on some level.
The source of that discomfort is due to a broader reflection (beyond individual choices) on the state of black solidarity.
To be completely honest, there's actually more social pressure for someone in my position to date interracially than not.
And it seems to me that on the whole I see more interracial couples (usually black male and white female) than I do even black couples. Especially amoung younger people. And this seems to be the case even
at black events - although I haven't spent too much time in the churches.
In my first year in Kentucky, I was taken completely off guard when it got around that a white co-worker wondered, "Why it was that black men do not take care of their children?" Being the "only one" on the job, that wasn't a comfortable situation. But after being here awhile, I've seen that a lot of brothas who have been irresponsible with black women are now being irresponsible with white women as well.
Yes. I know that being sexually irresponsible is a problem in and of itself ... and I also know that these men don't reflect all men who date interracially. But seeing white women raising "black" children alone does put the issue in bold relief as it relates to possible future consequences.
Tolerance for individuals is one thing. But what I find very disquieting is the prospect of the life choices of some possibly becoming the norm for many (This, by the way, is not a consideration that arises for homosexuality ... especially if sexual orientation is determined genetically and never effects more than a small percentage of the population).
I will admit that the possibility might be unlikely.
But can anyone put forth an argument that interracial relationships * becoming the norm *
would be to the benefit of black America on the whole? Or even benign on the whole?
Note that this question is a hypothetical
One to which I don't really know the answer.
Would it have consequences for black oppression or to how we respond collectively to that oppression if all we have in common is varying shades of tan skin?
Would it have consequences for the culture?
It does not seem to me to be essentially irrational for people (male or female) to be concerned. And for reasons beyond the notion of feeling individually rejected.
* Is it irrational (from the stand point of collective self-interest) to expect that it ought not
be the norm
After all, we can talk about tolerance for a lot of things (people dropping out of school, voting for George W. Bush, doing drugs, not recycling, wearing fur, driving fuel in-efficient cars, overeating, smoking, etc). These are individual choices.
But at some point, don't you have to consider the potential impact of a lot
of people making the same choice?