In remarking that he likes the quote Faheem uses at the bottom of his posts, he used the example of "Bill Cosby's tirade" to underscore the appropriateness of those words. The quote has, to do (at least generally) with airing our dirty laundry. And I'm sorry if I put you on the spot here, Faheem, but for those who have not read it ...
One of the greatest Problems facing the Black man and woman's drive towards self determination is our allowing others to equally participate and exercise power, in our family debates.
So then, my question is this: Taking Bill Cosby's public remarks as an example (and it is not my intention to bring up old wounds ... it's just a good example!) but, Bill said what he said to a group (primarily of Black folks, I would imagine) during a ceremony in commemoration of the Brown v. Board decision. The media, of course, took it and ran with it and put 'our' business in the street! (Because most people aren't saying that it isn't true, just that he shouldn't have said it ... or said it when/how he did!) So, be that as it may, and taking Faheem's quote (which I have no disagreement with!!) into play, for those of you who had a problem with the whole Bill situation .... when, exactly, is the right time and/or place and/or situation in which things like this should be talked about?
I mean, it's not like he went and called a press conference to talk about poor Black people. On the flip side, I can understand a rationale of knowing that the cameras were going to be there making it the wrong time and place. However, many times many of our brightest and brilliant say things outside of the media that never get heard by anybody who wasn't there ... as the media usually needs mayhem, murder or money to get involved in a story!!! So, you have a Black man, at a Black-attented event, speaking of a lack of parenting and responsiblity in the poor Black community who came across as stigmatizing all poor black people, yet accept for the fact that he should have said "some" when he intimated "all" told the truth about conditions in several of our communities throughout the country, and he is chastised and told he shouldn't have done it. That he did the wrong thing.
Okay, so .... in an effort to make this long story not much longer, what I'm trying to ask is, given that it is not the truth of his words that are disputed, but his timing of saying it, when are we supposed to bring these things to the light? Or are we not supposed to talk about them and just suppose that, or wait for, someone to do something about them? Just because the situation is something that needs someting to be done about it? Would it have ever been appropriate for those things to have been said? And if so, in what type of setting or situation? Should they only be talked about within a family? Or within a community? Is it that they should never be talked about publicly or politically? If Cosby shouldn't have said it, is there somebody else who should've?
I know that's more than one question ... but just think of it as many questions asking the same thing!
All opinions will be appreciated and help me to better understand!