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My Aunt and Uncle have been foster parents for years and have adopted two boys. Now, prior to this adoption, they attempted to adopt a girl who they had in their home for 2 years who was doing VERY well, socially, emotionally and excelled in school. This child became part of our family. However, she was placed in a foster home away from her siblings and in a NY state effort to keep siblings together they placed her in a white Jewish adoptive family.
I think that with the love, support and the enviroment of our extended family she could've excelled even further.
On the flip side of that, recently I had a close family member who discovered that he had a bi-racial daughter who had been adopted by a white family. Her adoptive family wasn't given much information about her racial background. For years apparently, they thought she was hispanic. Now that she has found out her father is a black man, an imposing 6ft plus dark chocolate black man, her adoptive family and her mother's family have had issues with this.
These are cases of interracial adoption that have affected me personally within my family. I would question why black families, the ones who apply to adopt, are not being selected by social services to adopt black children? I can say that interracial adoptions where the parents are white and the children are black are not really worth the conflict that it causes in children. Because everyone on this board must admit to one thing that runs rampant in the white community, a general disregard for black culture in America and abroad. How can that qualify whites to raise black children if they are insensitive to a black child's racial needs and issues. Like it or not being black in this country still has its extra baggage.

You can't separate peace from freedom because no one can be at peace unless he has his freedom.
Malcolm X, 1965
That is a pretty broad statement to make in regards to whites having a general disregard for black culture in america and abroad..what constitutes black culture... and how does that affect white parents raising a black child..racial issues/culture etc come up when raising a child from all backgrounds..it is a factor in raising any child whether they are white, black, chinese etc.
Not that far fetched...have you heard of the movement by conservatives to remove African-American and Latino studies as a seperate entity from colleges and just absorb it into american history? We all know how that would minimize the knowledge of the accomplishments and roles fulfilled by blacks in this country....hell, many of you and myself did not find out a whole lot of things that were accomplished UNTIL black history was promoted more. The only apsects of other's cultures that are really regarded are the aspects that can be commercialized and sold back to you....for their profit. That is why sooo much ignorance and nonsense is promoted....because people gravitate towards it...and it can be normalized in the heads on many....black and non-black as, "how we are".........don't you find it ironic that there has to be a black history month?
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Originally posted by negrospiritual:
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since african americans are not stepping up to the plate to care for our own...a loving home with white parents is better than being raised by an institution. I think a better question might be "Why aren't more black people adopting children?"

I have also wondered why more black families do adopt. It is a conversation that my fiancée and I have had. We hope to have children, but she does have some health issues that are of concern to us. In the event that pregnancy is not possible or medically inadvisable, we are committed to pursuing adoption.

I remember years ago hearing about Fr. George Clements in Chicago and his program to have at least one family in every African American congregation adopt or become a foster parent of an African American child. Unfortunately, I have not heard much about this initiative in years. I personally do not know of any churches pursuing such this program. It seems like it would be a natural extension of the churches social commitment.

God has told you, O man and woman, what is good; and what does the SOVEREIGN ONE require of you but to do justice, and to be compassionate, and to walk humbly with your God?
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Originally posted by hugsnkisses28:
That is a pretty broad statement to make in regards to whites having a general disregard for black culture in america and abroad..what constitutes black culture... and how does that affect white parents raising a black child..racial issues/culture etc come up when raising a child from all backgrounds..it is a factor in raising any child whether they are white, black, chinese etc.


My point which I believed I had made was that with the extensive teaching of primarily European American history from Kindergarten on up through college, that many whites don't have a clue when it comes not only to Black/African history or culture, but even to any other culture than white. As if their opinion or point of view is the end all to everything.
White people who wish to adopt transracially should not bring that type of mindset and attitude. They would have to be EXTREMELY open minded and not your typical white family for transracial adoption to be success in my opinion.
I'm not even going to touch the black culture thing because if you don't know by now.....

You can't separate peace from freedom because no one can be at peace unless he has his freedom.
Malcolm X, 1965
The wife and I are foster parents here in Oregon and just the process of getting state certified for foster care took forever. The state people came by the house at least three times, had to install smoke detectors in every room, had to filled out a 15 page questionnaire. Man, I didn't go through that much paperwork to get my security clearance.

And of course there were all the courses that we had to take in order to get our certification. For those who have never been through working with a state agency in charge of children it is something else. No wonder some folks don't even try. The only good thing is that when we decide to adopt at least we are already established in the system.

The other good thing is that any kids that are placed in our home for foster care we can petition the state to let us adopt them so once again we probably have an in with the state agency because of our foster parent certification.

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