I have to confess. I am a woman who cannot commit. I have a hard time dealing with committing to a man. Don't know why. Anyone else have commitment issues?
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quote:Originally posted by Seventies Soulchild:
I have to confess. I am a woman who cannot commit. I have a hard time dealing with committing to a man. Don't know why. Anyone else have commitment issues?
Committing to men period? or just the ones that you've encountered thus far?
I have a couple! 
Perhaps it's just that you are afraid of losing your independence! 
Or like me, you just don't like being told what to do!
Actually ... for me, it's not so much that I have trouble committing to a man ... my trouble is with committing to marriage!
That's a forever and a day prospect .. and I see too many people that took that plunge either already out of it ... or wishing that they were! And I, thankfully, do not have to count that as one my life's issues. The process and issues of divorce can last even longer than the marriage when there are children involved! 
But, making a man my one and only is not the hard part for me ... having him let me maintain my independence usually is. Matters are usually clouded by trust issues or jealousies or the desire to control. However there are men out there willing to be happy just to be together and who can respect boundaries and know how to trust.
Try to find you one of those, girlfriend! And then enjoy it for as long as it lasts!
Perhaps it's just that you are afraid of losing your independence! Or like me, you just don't like being told what to do! Actually ... for me, it's not so much that I have trouble committing to a man ... my trouble is with committing to marriage!
That's a forever and a day prospect .. and I see too many people that took that plunge either already out of it ... or wishing that they were! And I, thankfully, do not have to count that as one my life's issues. The process and issues of divorce can last even longer than the marriage when there are children involved! But, making a man my one and only is not the hard part for me ... having him let me maintain my independence usually is. Matters are usually clouded by trust issues or jealousies or the desire to control. However there are men out there willing to be happy just to be together and who can respect boundaries and know how to trust.
Try to find you one of those, girlfriend! And then enjoy it for as long as it lasts!