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Originally posted by art_gurl:
Call me over-senstive, but aren't you being a bit presumptuous in your post - as if all the guys/men here are players


I second that emotion. I would not even consider feeding into that stereotype or other popular negative assumptions about black men. It's not cute. Comments like the above expose the pre-conceived notions that they carry.

It seems to me that when relating to relationship issues, some people make the biggest mistake by generalizing, speaking in absolutes and using words that blanket; totally ignoring individuality as if we are all clones and to understand one is to understand them all.
Maybe i read this wrong........but i didnt think this was directed to 'all' men. I immediately thought of 'playas'.......(and of course, not all men are playas)

I personally think 'a lot' people that 'cheat', or continue to cheat, have issues dealing with just one person. I find these people to be selfish, and the desire to 'do them', is always in the forefront.

So again the question is, (to people that continually cheat) could you at some point be a 'one womans' man?

Confused
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Do you guys think that you will be able to stop playing as soon as you get married? Being a player now, don't you think that cheating has become part of your inner self


Maybe it's just a poor choice of grammar, but it reads more like a statement of fact rather than if.....

To be honest qty226, it's the kind of question I can only imagine a woman asking. And I sort of get 'that feeling' it is a woman asking. Wink

but hey, I could be wrong. After all, it is God (Jah) asking, and He's a bloke isn't He? Big Grin

I better get back to work before I get myself into (more) trouble than it's worth.... LOL !
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Originally posted by Jah:
Once you bite, you can't stop... Do you guys think that you will be able to stop playing as soon as you get married? Being a player now, don't you think that cheating has become part of your inner self Mr. Green ? Do you think that you will have the will and courage to be a one woman's man?



I guess this question does not apply to me as I am a nerd and not a player!
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Originally posted by folobatuyi:
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Originally posted by Jah:
Once you bite, you can't stop... Do you guys think that you will be able to stop playing as soon as you get married? Being a player now, don't you think that cheating has become part of your inner self Mr. Green ? Do you think that you will have the will and courage to be a one woman's man?



I guess this question does not apply to me as I am a nerd and not a player!

ditto
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Originally posted by Jah:
Once you bite, you can't stop... Do you guys think that you will be able to stop playing as soon as you get married? Being a player now, don't you think that cheating has become part of your inner self Mr. Green ? Do you think that you will have the will and courage to be a one woman's man?


No, I can't and won't give up playing video games....not even after I get married. And who is Mr. Green???
If this topic is addressed to only players and not all men, then I am sure that women who cheat can also answer this question as well. However the topic seems to suggest that men are the players and they are the only ones that cheat.

You are probably not going to get a lot of reponses from people that DO cheat... because I believe that cheaters themselves don't truly know the reasons why they cheat.
Well...

Sometimes I would slack in football practice. Our coach would always tell us, 'YOU PLAY HOW YOU PRACTICE'. You can't expect to half-do-it during practice and excel during the game. There are some exceptions to the rule, i.e. people would inherent talent. But as the analogy relates to this subject, I don't think there are a significant amount of people who are gifted in relationships (although most women I know swear they are)

Cheating is practicing, and perfecting infedility. Worded another way, you can't show your partner his/her due reverance and respect him/her if you have been practicing otherwise. So IMHO, 'cheaters' should NEVER marry!

That's not to say that you can't be in a loving relationship, practicing fidelity after many years of cheating. I think one should spend a few years perfecting loyalty before they committ to marriage.
[QUOTE]Call me over-senstive, but aren't you being a bit presumptuous in your post - as if all the guys/men here are players?

They don't across that way to me. And what a relief that is, I can tell ya.

So I'll be interested in the responses.

>> PEACE requires you to choose courage, compassion, and consciousness, instead of conflict. <<
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Well anyway, now that Artgurl and Detroit have had the oportunity to vent whatever frustrations they had welled up deep inside them, I imagine from lack of sex or something of the sorts, we can finally get back on track here.

I deeply appologize on their behalf for this interruption and saddly pathetic attempt to muster one of the weakest insults I have ever had the displeasure of reading.

A valiant attempt though somewhat misguided...but I applaud your effort nonetheless ladies $Gentlemen. God be with you
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Originally posted by Jah:
Well anyway, now that Artgurl and Detroit have had the oportunity to vent whatever frustrations they had welled up deep inside them, I imagine from lack of sex or something of the sorts, we can finally get back on track here.

I deeply appologize on their behalf for this interruption and saddly pathetic attempt to muster one of the weakest insults I have ever had the displeasure of reading.


sleep
I don't know why you bother asking questions... you seem to think you already have all the answers.

But then you haven't put in your answer have you?

Yes, I might have come across a little caustic, sorry. But if you re-read your original post it reads more like a statement of fact. Which is equally rude, esp as it seems of no concern to you! I think it's even ruder to jump in here after only 5 minutes and assert/assume that the men on this site are all players... like yourself?
My question is... are you a playa?

Anyway my sex life is of no concern to you...and none of your damn biz, so why drag it into this discussion about men. td6
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....It was all in your wording you know... You could have done a better job the way you came across, but......

People connect in the heart and in the mind. When there is no awareness of these realms and your left with only the physical, the connection only last as long as it takes the man to have sex in every position imaginable. After that, the "one womans' man" has to consciously think of another woman when having sex with his sole spouse. Viagra and other drugs of the type were developed for and are marketed to the "one womans' man". The guy who has been married and monogamous for the last 15-20 years who just can't get hard for his own wife anymore. The drug is really for her benefit, not his. The same mans nature will rise naturally if in a situation with someone "different" and "new". Variety-plain and simple.

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