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Re: calling all fASHIONista men!!

bigddouble ·
I don't equate dressing up with being gay - I just don't care for the look you described (and typically if you see a brother ( especially in ATL! ) rocking that kind of 'fashion', he's gay - AG & I are just trying to help you out!) The look you're raving about is an Esquire, GQ type of fashion, i.e. European. Sorry, it's just not my style. Do you know how much those clown clothes cost? By the way, I'm not a fan of the mega-expensive urban wear either. I have better things to do with my...
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Michael ·
.....be it Democrat, Republican, Independent, Green Party, or otherwise..... .....the Black community is being looked upon as being insignificant, perverted, criminal, sleazy, wreckless, backwards, un-American, treasonous, self destructive, poverty stricken, social welfare dependent, bigotted, lazy, hateful, uncaring, selfish, useless, begging, continuously playing the race card, etc., ...... ......an outlook that has more to do with a ethnic group's financial status, holdings, consumer...
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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

RadioRaheem ·
Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
how old is your friend? If she is over 30, then it sounds like she is taking the best deal on the table. I'm from the MD area, educated in DC[Georgetown U], returned to DC after grad school and have found that black women are the least approachable women of the all. Many DC black men agree with me on this. That's why there are so many mixed couples in the surrounding areas, i.e. Northern VA, PG County, Gaitherburg MD, Bethesda MD, and Silver Spring MD...have you ever been to Georgetown??
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Re: Trapping a Man

RadioRaheem ·
1. I don't think it is a sign of a mental illness, just a reality check. Older women that desire motherhood have to do whatever it takes to get to that goal...and time is running out. 2. I think that older women have to 'fall in line' when it comes with their desire to be a wife and mom. I know from personal experiences in dating women well over 30 that marriage/child questions on a first or second date is a real downer!! But what choice does she really have? I mean if she is losing her...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Noah The African ·
So...will things change as a result of your strategy....which is: 1) Blame everything on black liberals 2) Ignore incidents of police brutality and racism against blacks 3) Lobbying to increase the number of blacks who don't vote democratic. 4) Ignoring that the present is the summation and creation of the past. 5) being an UNCLE TOM or a white man pretending to be black how does that strategy HELP?
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Guest ·
So what you are saying then that IF BENNET or any other enemy conservative DID advocate mass abortion for Black babies - paying Black women to have them - YOU WOULDN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT because it is legal? What ARE YOU SAYING MBM? It seems that you just presented "Manufactured Outrage" about Bennett's comments. If in fact hundreds of thousands of Black women CHOOSE to have an abortion and this IN FACT does reduce the level of crime THE FACT THAT THEY "CHOSE" to abort the child is the...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
CF - I'm being real patient and kind here. Now listen (read) carefully. There is a big difference between the state killing black children and women exercising their Constitutionally protected right to choice. I hope that even you can understand that.
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Guest ·
At the end of either process the Black baby is................? 1) Alive because "We know not the womb that holds the king"? or 2) Disposed of? Problem solved. **** Nick Cannon - "Can I Live?" Good thing HIS mother didn't express her "choice" http://www.nickcannonmusic.com/caniliveqt.html
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
And therein lies the crux of your problem. You have the inability to understand that life is not black and white, but a pallette of hues. In your world, either something is fed you by a white conservative god, or it is wrong. How curious that your concern for "black babies" evaporates at birth. Where is your care for them as you withold healthcare, education, due process under the law, equality of opportunity, etc., etc., etc.?
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Kevin41 ·
**MBM....I guess as an educator I just GIVE black people grades....and the black causes I give money to is just for them to live off of and not invest in their education and futures. I guess my support of affirmative action was not for black people to go to colleges and also be fairly included in jobs that show our historical representation as low...I guess I want jobs and education for black people to not utilize them and sit on their lazy welfare collecting azzes and watch TV....just like...
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

MBM ·
Based upon the onus you place on their backs, why do you call them "victims"? Please explain. A woman has been repeatedly abused by her husband over the years. She walks into the police station, finally, seeking protection and relief. CF looks at her and says, "What are you prepared to do to change to help your situation?" First of all - she has taken the first step and is at the damned police station. Second of all, that she has survived as long as she has is a testament to her personal...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

detroit1 ·
I'm sick and tired of hearing black women dog out their ex-boyfriends who were worthless, unemployed crack-heads totally ignoring the fact that he was in that same position when she "chose" to be involved with him. Ain't nobody tell her to find her man in the alley......then take him home, feed him, cloth him and buy him a playstation. These same women will also defend their bum-ass boyfriends if you say something bad about him; then turn around and hate on brothas who have themselves...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Sandye ·
Radio - you aren't being fair! Felix, it DOES apply to women as well. Everyone is accountable for their own actions and to a certain degree we are responsible for our own destiny as well. Women are not all looking to blame others for our poor choices. Generalizations can be dangerous ...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Frenchy ·
Well, just accept that Black women will not change and therefore Black men need to take responsibility for that and change to accomodate that. If Black men did not date these women who were Stuck On Stupid amd clueless, they would not be that way. They should not be expected to do those things of their own free will. Pre-1970, Black men did not seek out and put up with women who were clueless or unappreciative of their achievements. Sure Black women could chose to act responsibly and/or...
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Re: "If the KKK opposes gay marriage, I would ride with them."

Empty Purnata ·
James Byrd seat? That is so wrong! I know that was wrong, but I couldn't help bursting out into laughter when I saw you say "Byrd seat". That was wrong of me.
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Re: Constructive Feedback Is Right!!

Empty Purnata ·
[Sarcasm] Don't you know, MBM? Pregnancy is God's punishment against women for being whores and sluts! We shouldn't allow for women to have choices over their bodies, God wants men to use the righteous arm of law to decide things for wimmin. They don't need no help once the babies are born. Being single mothers in poverty is God's punishment on them for being loose. [/End Sarcasm]
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
Folobatuyi, yes women should be held accountable for their actions as well........its just that i find that women are being held to a much higher standard than most men..........which to me is not fair. RadioRaheem......you seem to have a dislike for women in their 30's........and im going to assume youre in your 30's, and not married, etc. (if this is not true, then i apologize). But my question is........what makes you any different, than a woman in her 30's?
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Re: Conservative Idiots

Michael ·
"I wonder how many Black people really give a schit about how they are LOOKED at ..." by Kevin41 "I wonder why there is sooo much laughter when the guy speaks.....I guess it is hard to take a tom serious .... when you know their first and foremost motive is to defend the stats quo and their white masters ....I thought the term conservative idiot applied here........." by Kevin41 ************************** ".....be it Democrat, Republican, Independent, Green Party, or otherwise..... ..... the...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

MidLifeMan ·
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides. One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return". I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in. And then you...
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Re: My dad's barbershop -- and personal responsibility

nayo ·
ROTFLMAO!!!! p.s. I almost, fell for the Elder 'okidoke', until I heard his response to an African American woman (on his recently cancelled television show), who was opining about racism in the U.S. He asked her, why did'nt she just go 'back' to Africa if the racism was so bad here!! I could'nt believe it.
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Re: Dating Tips (For Men)

folobatuyi ·
Thanks Rowe....
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
Personally, I believe there is some truth to this...especially the part where the author advised men to "never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she actually does instead." I would modify that to say that as a guy, one should not only hear or listen to what a woman says but also observe and keep note on what she does...much more telling and true. As to the role of money and the need for sex as items of attraction women see in men...both are factors but I think it is...
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Re: Should Black People...

UppityNegress ·
Making them feel comfortable? That's absolutely ridiculous! It's one thing to say that seeing a group of teenagers talking loudly and wearing oversized clothing makes one uncomfortable--I don't like being near any race of teens, as a matter of fact (barely out of my teens years myself, funny enough). But then some people will persist in feeling threatened because you are Black, irregardless of how neatly dressed or well spoken you are. I've experienced situations like this, only with Asians...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

qty226 ·
I guess both men/women can only see their side of things...because of experiences. But i have issues with those that 'want' more than they 'are'. As Sweetwuzzy mentioned..... "Some Sisters suffer from low self-esteem. Society, relationship experts say, teaches that Black women are the lowest on the social scale--what Zora Neale Hurston calls "mules of the world." "Men have a much higher self-esteem," says Moore. "They are taught not to settle. No matter how they look or what age they are,...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

qty226 ·
I disagree with some parts of the article. One fact....women are talkers (sometimes we talk too much), so you pretty much know whats coming. Men do not talk........so you have to watch their actions, to figure out whats next. Also the part about college men, magnifying their status.......that may have been true, 10yrs ago, but not now. (well not with women that are educated, and making more money). I think now women want men, that are goal oriented........i dont care what it is, just 'be...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
it seems that black men and women are so into being angry with one another that it's no wonder they have a hard time getting together. it makes me sad, really. the brothers are saying hurtful things, the sisters are saying hurtful things. why don't we take some time to say something positive about each other for once? i'd love it if radio raheem, who started this thread would start by saying something nice about the ladies. alot of what brothers complain about seeing on this site from women...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I started this thread because I thought that it provided women with some good dating advice. Honest. Soon this thread turned into, like other threads, a battleground for negativity. I backed away from this thread for that reason. As for posting something 'nice' for the ladies, i've found that no matter what I post, be it pictures of beautiful sisters, dating advice, honest perspectives from a single male's point of view, song lyrics/music video links, etc I get nothing but crapped on. It's...
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

RadioRaheem ·
women are attracted to a mysterious man women are attracted to men that aren't pushovers women are attracted confident men these are the factors that are attractive to women...what was posted above are simply 'things that women WOULD LIKE' in a man, not what they are 'attracted' to.
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Re: What Are Women Really Attracted To?

folobatuyi ·
[QUOTE]Originally posted by qty226: One fact....women are talkers (sometimes we talk too much), so you pretty much know whats coming. QUOTE] True ladies are talkers but again their actions are more telling and does not always match their words.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
so much for dropping the defensiveness. can't say i'm shocked, though. after i wrote that post i figured you'd object (as well as others). god forbid someone suggest something overtly positive on this site. sometimes i think the negativity thing is just rampant 'round these parts of the web. . . . debate does not always have to equal animosity. nevermind. but thanks for the positive things you've said, and thanks for trying to give advice from your perspective on how women can improve...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
"Least approachable?" Can you elaborate on this? Do you mean to say that Black women in Washington, DC are the most intimidating? And if so, whhat do you find so intimidating about these women? Yes to both questions. And the reason why brothers in these two areas are often seen with "other women" is because, Adams Morgan, Georgetown especially, are multiracial areas. I shop in these areas and they are heavily populated with people from all races and ethnic groups. Because of its many...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
Good advice...I agree people need to break the 'creature of habit'. So many folks go to the exact same nightclubs, eatries, bars, etc. Break the cycle, try other places
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
I agree. So why can't we "be real" about Black men's situation in this country? When African-American women talk about how this state of affairs is impacting their lives, why can't you all respectfully acknowledge what you are hearing and reading? Whenever an African-American woman tells people about how the deterioration of her community is impacting her future, all she gets are expressions of disbelief and denial, followed by a list of general dating tips. Well Black women are not apart of...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
So if a lot Black women are having similiar dating experiences, what are we to conclude? Is poor dating experiences something that is unique to Black women? Are Black women just "bad daters?"
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
* I have no problems with reality {I actually prefer it to the self-boosting misinformation often floating about the Black community}, so long as those women acknowledge that they chose to date those guys all by themselves [cherry picked]. It was her choice to date/pursue Joe Thug and Ray-ray and thus it was her 'fault' when they let her down. If you sleep with dogs, you just might wake up with fleas and puppies!!! She also can't blame 'sane' black men that didn't appeal to her 'Ray-Ray'...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I would conclude that many young black women make very poor dating choices early in their dating lives. It seems, like Dr Audrey Chapman*******[link below with highlighted quote] has concluded, that many black women are looking to be a savior in their quest to attempt to try to change a bad boy into a good man..as oppose to starting out with a good man and building from there. She [Dr. Chapman]feels that black women would like to feel that their love can change people...only later to...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
Why do you think no other women are experiencing these problems, at least to this extent? Why do Black women seem to be the only group making "very poor dating choices?"
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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

Rowe ·
It is naive and racist to think that every unfavorable relationship that Black women experience is the result of them wanting thugs and drug dealors.
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Re: The Arrogance of Men and The Naivety of Women

Blacksanction ·
both need spankin. I do not accept laying all this at the feet of men and claiming women are naive and innocent of blame.
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
Young people make many mistakes. When I was in high school all the guys really went for the homecoming queen/prom queen types. How many of the most popular girls in your high schools are now sitting at home or in some dead end job with way to many kids by a bunch of different guys and/or on drugs? And what about the most popular guys? They are a lot of times, on drugs, in and out of jail, unstable, and that's if they're still alive. What's cool when you're young is often not what's cool when...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

Rowe ·
"Male Shortage" vs. "Bad Choices" Sister Powerflower, since you just joined our discussed, I will provide a brief synopsis of what our seven page long thread has been about. The male posters are arguing that Black women are not having satisfying relationships because they make "bad choices." Women posters are arguing that if decent Black men were plentiful, then Black women would have more "better choices" from which to choose. Male posters are denying charges of there being a "male...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

powerflower ·
I had read the thread, and posted before. I will tell you what I think about the question you posed, but I don't think all the men are saying that all Black women are naturally bad daters/decision makers. I think that people are getting all riled up when they disagree with what someone posts and then they respond emotionally. Hey, I do it too I don't think the original post was meant to be offensive. I think it was directed at women because it came from a magazine directed at women. I wasn't...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

little minx ·
i repeat: do men and women from other races hate each other this much or is it unique to black folks?
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

detroit1 ·
Yeah but some women are looking to draw sympathy from others for having to ordeal such a "horrible relationship". I don't buy it. The worst that a woman makes her ex out to sound, the worst it makes her look for staying with that person. And some women say "Preach to your brethren; maybe they'll listen"....What??? Huh???? Those cats got it too good. They don't have to do anything cause their damaged esteem girlfriend provides everything. They just have to make sure not to show her too much...
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Re: The boring thread...

ronin10 ·
Watch me turn this into a gender battle.... To women : nice = boring
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I think other races [of women] do experiences it, but they seem to grow out of it[i.e. white women pursuing biker type guys, asian and hispanic women seeking out gangmembers, etc]. For Black women, I think, their problem stems from their decisions to have children with bad boy/thug. A choice which has a much longer attachment [a co-parent] than a lady saying 'when I was younger, I use to date gangmembers]. Choices..choices. Too many younger black women seem to operate from the stand point...
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side
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Re: FINALLY SOME GOOD ADVICE!!! -How To Get A Man In Four Weeks Or Less - If You Want One

RadioRaheem ·
I have dated older women, but too many seem to be trying to 'beat the clock'..the biological clock that is. I'm a very picky dater. As I get older, my motivation of meetind scores of women have gone down. I am currently dating and I can honestly say that if she hadn't approached me, we wouldn't be dating at all
 
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